Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I just want to hear a different perspective. My friends have already weighed in.

Ex and I were together for 3 months. He got his dream job. I was/am extremely happy for him. Before he left, we made plans to continue, but things changed. He left the city with things a bit rocky between us. We agreed to be friends. After a couple of weeks, the communication between us just got slower and slower. My feelings got hurt obviously. Last week, I told him, that I removed him from socials because I am really missing you and it just hurts me. We exchanged pleasant things and removed each other. Now I regret that. Not entirely sure if I should try again or give up? I really enjoyed ourselves together.
 

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I just want to hear a different perspective. My friends have already weighed in.

Ex and I were together for 3 months. He got his dream job. I was/am extremely happy for him. Before he left, we made plans to continue, but things changed. He left the city with things a bit rocky between us. We agreed to be friends. After a couple of weeks, the communication between us just got slower and slower. My feelings got hurt obviously. Last week, I told him, that I removed him from socials because I am really missing you and it just hurts me. We exchanged pleasant things and removed each other. Now I regret that. Not entirely sure if I should try again or give up? I really enjoyed ourselves together.

1) 3 months isnt a long time
2) to be honest u less ur gona move with him or that city is close its not gona work out..

I had the same thing..i was dating someone n having sex...after she was done with college she basically said shes moving to so cal...i had feelings for her(she was hot)...but i knew it wouldnt work out..months later she was already with a new dude on instagram.
 

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1) 3 months isnt a long time
2) to be honest u less ur gona move with him or that city is close its not gona work out..

I had the same thing..i was dating someone n having sex...after she was done with college she basically said shes moving to so cal...i had feelings for her(she was hot)...but i knew it wouldnt work out..months later she was already with a new dude on instagram.

That is why I removed him from socials because he is a great dude. It won't take long plus the wound is open. I'll eventually add him back, but its way too soon. Thank you! On to the next one, :mjcry:
 

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That is why I removed him from socials because he is a great dude. It won't take long plus the wound is open. I'll eventually add him back, but its way too soon. Thank you! On to the next one, :mjcry:

What are the odds of u moving in with him? If low...u just gota move on...it sucks..
 

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What are the odds of u moving in with him? If low...u just gota move on...it sucks..

He moved across the country. I am not moving in with him. I got my own thing happening here plus I lucked into an amazing opportunity. I'm trying to invest in some property, so no. If I leave, I won't get these chances again.
:mjcry:
 

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I just want to hear a different perspective. My friends have already weighed in.

Ex and I were together for 3 months. He got his dream job. I was/am extremely happy for him. Before he left, we made plans to continue, but things changed. He left the city with things a bit rocky between us. We agreed to be friends. After a couple of weeks, the communication between us just got slower and slower. My feelings got hurt obviously. Last week, I told him, that I removed him from socials because I am really missing you and it just hurts me. We exchanged pleasant things and removed each other. Now I regret that. Not entirely sure if I should try again or give up? I really enjoyed ourselves together.


He likely realized that he re-gained his freedom and the ability to explore a new city on his own free will. He may have been nice about it it, but the main thing is that he moved on. You should forget him and do the same.
 

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I just want to hear a different perspective. My friends have already weighed in.

Ex and I were together for 3 months. He got his dream job. I was/am extremely happy for him. Before he left, we made plans to continue, but things changed. He left the city with things a bit rocky between us. We agreed to be friends. After a couple of weeks, the communication between us just got slower and slower. My feelings got hurt obviously. Last week, I told him, that I removed him from socials because I am really missing you and it just hurts me. We exchanged pleasant things and removed each other. Now I regret that. Not entirely sure if I should try again or give up? I really enjoyed ourselves together.

3 months isn't really anything example at a job usually probation is like 3 months just saying.

I see you mentioned he left, ldr's rarely worked unless one or the other move closer again. Going straight from BF/GF to friends just softens the blow and guilt for the person who pulled the plug.

Sorry to say but if a guy really wants to be with you and has the option he would it's that simple. Women I never really cared about when communication got slower and slower and she'd bring up maybe we should go our separate ways or whatever I was like :blessed:. Now for the few women I really loved I would have moved earth and stayed in touch. HOnestly more than likely he's canoodling and cavorting with new girls in his city.

Best thing you can do is give up and move on with your life, he has your number. If someone really wants to be with you they would, if someone really wanted to talk to you they would.

takes one second to text someone or to give a quick phone call

i've been there that knot in my belly, maybe if i just send her a message and then you do and you just get back a hey and the convo dies and you wish you never did :ufdup:
 

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He moved across the country. I am not moving in with him. I got my own thing happening here plus I lucked into an amazing opportunity. I'm trying to invest in some property, so no. If I leave, I won't get these chances again.
:mjcry:

a few months from now you'll look back and be :blessed:
its hard but time is the best equalizer, women I loved with all my heart who'd at one point I'd check their facebook, instagram every day like it was my morning newspapers, and could never fathom living without are just fleeting memories I would not even flinch if I saw them in walmart with a husband and 4 kids:ehh:. And soon you'll be like :ehh: to this guy as well
 

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a few months from now you'll look back and be :blessed:
its hard but time is the best equalizer, women I loved with all my heart who'd at one point I'd check their facebook, instagram every day like it was my morning newspapers, and could never fathom living without are just fleeting memories I would not even flinch if I saw them in walmart with a husband and 4 kids:ehh:. And soon you'll be like :ehh: to this guy as well
:russ::mjcry:
 

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I was trying to link with this Jamaican joint this weekend but she already had plans she texted me while I was on a cine parc date with the trini joint I got back to her the next day, I think she’s mad:mjlol:
 

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Fall allllll the way back man. When she ready she’ll pop up again ready to pull her panties down. Just like my ex. I didn’t call her ass for a week and she was tweaking! Asking me if I had met anyone, do I still like her etc and what if she came over now blah blah blah. Told that mf I’m sleep, hit me in the morning. Ignored her calls until late the next afternoon then said “hey, Wsup”

:mjlol: bytch, I like to play games too. Foh

im hungover but im tempted to text her out the blue "when you gon lemme put my face in it? :mjgrin:" just cuz
 
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