Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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This doesn't even make sense. I waited too long so she unmatched me when I asked her? I didn't even wait that long literally matched her on Saturday and asked her Tuesday to meet up on Friday.
I always think these girls have boyfriends and just want some free attention or looking for someone to move on with. Sometimes they will give me the number but refuse to meet on some “let’s just talk before meeting up”. I bush em quick once I see resistance to meeting up in a public place.
 

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This doesn't even make sense. I waited too long so she unmatched me when I asked her? I didn't even wait that long literally matched her on Saturday and asked her Tuesday to meet up on Friday.
See it like this..

When you catch someone (especially a girl and on dating apps) attention you have a limited amount of time before that said person will lose interest and move onto the next person/s. When you matched her on Saturday you should have spoken to her right there and then and tried to get her to meet on the Tuesday

That way you would have been able to gauge how strong her interest in you was.. especially if she accepted the meet

..plus a lot of shyt can happen in a week.. a lot more other guys will be in her DM's trying to get her attention.

I bet she wanted you to move fast but because you didn't she felt you disqualifed yourself from having her attention.

Next time be bold and make the move, don't be a gentlemen, send her your number right there and then, telling her to msg you then try set up a date within 2/3 days

I always think these girls have boyfriends and just want some free attention or looking for someone to move on with. Sometimes they will give me the number but refuse to meet on some “let’s just talk before meeting up”. I bush em quick once I see resistance to meeting up in a public place.

Ya damn right!

A lot of the girls on these dating apps have FWB or are having casual sex with other guys while they talk to you. I've been that guy who smashed his ex/fwb and after she'll be on POF talking to a guy.

It is what it is :yeshrug:
 

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You're married?? :ohhh: Is it someone over here or Canada?

When I divorced a few years ago I used a website called quickie divorce. It was cheap, easy and (pretty much) painless as we had been separated for a few years.

I'm not in a rush to get married again despite my age. It would literally take Super Woman to change my mind at this point. GMB.

Yep was married for 7 years. We're both from the UK and then moved to Canada together, but she's moved back to London now.

And yeah I agree I doubt I'll ever get married again. It would take a very special woman. And after this experience. And seeing how a majority of modern females are moving.

:francis:
 
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Ya damn right!

A lot of the girls on these dating apps have FWB or are having casual sex with other guys while they talk to you. I've been that guy who smashed his ex/fwb and after she'll be on POF talking to a guy.

It is what it is :yeshrug:

Pretty much I see women I've smashed and are still occasionally seeing on the apps. Talking about they're looking for a relationship.

I saw one on Hinge with a new profile talking about how she didn't do casual sex and wanted someone serious. And yet I was blowing her back out that past week. And hooked up a few times after that.

I had to laugh to myself.
 

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I always think these girls have boyfriends and just want some free attention or looking for someone to move on with. Sometimes they will give me the number but refuse to meet on some “let’s just talk before meeting up”. I bush em quick once I see resistance to meeting up in a public place.

One of my female friends tells me she goes onto the dating apps to cheer herself up when she's feeling down. Getting male attention makes her feel good.

I mean any man who pays attention knows this is how a lot of them move. Which is why so many of these chicks will vanish when you ask for an actual date.
 
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One of my females friends tells me she goes onto the dating apps to cheer herself up when she's feeling down. Getting male attention makes her feel good.

I mean any man who pays attention knows this is how a lot of them move. Which is why so many of these chicks will vanish when you ask for an actual date.

its an ego boost, ah this cute guy likes me and wants to take me out I still have it girls
 

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Thats just something that comes with experience breh. The more women you smash the more you realize how not special they are. The thing is tho you get to a point where you don't even really like bytches like that. You might fumble this situation tho. Its all apart of the game. Live and learn and don't overthink things too much. See women as EXP on a video game. The more EXP you achieve the more you level up and this asian chick you dealing with may seem like a Boss battle but next youre one-shotting bosses with a higher level than her. Hope you get this metaphor.

Exactly how I see it. I remember dating my first non westernized Asian women here and I was slightly perturbed as I'd heard how hard they were to get with. Especially for a black guy.

After I put my foot down over her trying to get me to pay for the entire meal she was all over me. (The things I did to that Korean chick :takedat:) Now I look at them just like any other woman.

And you're right so many of them are not special. Pretty? yes. Highly attractive as well but so many have no personality of their own and once you see behind how much they don't have going on they become boring to me.

When you're forcing a conversation and she has no opinion on anything it becomes a turn off. So many sexy women I've bushed as they mentally turned me off. I've kept the ones who get it around as mutual FWBs.
 

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Op basically waited too long to set shyt up. Always strike while the iron is hot... if she shows interest move on it quick

yup
This chick I’ve met up with like 7 times I started talking to her on a Tuesday. Found out she worked near my downtown site and met up with her the very next day.


The longer you wait there’s ten other negros in front of you

and this is also why you don’t put your eggs into one basket. Since the beg of the year I’ve got like 8 numbers out of those 8 I met 4 two dropped off but I wasn’t interested so made no effort. The other 4 already deleted their numbers as it looked like I was never going to meet em and I haven’t heard from them since

but I don’t care when you talk to a bunch of women of a couple drop off no biggie next up
 

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Yep was married for 7 years. We're both from the UK and then moved to Canada together, but she's moved back to London now.

And yeah I agree I doubt I'll ever get married again. It would take a very special woman. And after this experience. And seeing how a majority of modern females are moving.

:francis:


Damn never knew you were married
 

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Fellas how do y’all deal with issues concerning trust? My girl hasn’t done anything wrong, but it’s like inside im waiting on her to slip up so i can leave her. i barely believe the things she says from her saying she loves me to her telling me what she did in a day. sometimes ill be sitting to myself and start thinking and furthermore begin to overthink to the point where I’m feeling shyt in my chest, like it’s tight / warm. We normally sleep together every night, but i was so upset I couldn’t even stay. I went home and slept angry. I just don’t wanna fukk nothing up bc of this

the bible says trust no one but God and that's the mantra I live by.

The things I've been through in my life with women I don't trust any I know I can be faithful the best bf/husband etc. whatever and she wakes up one day and everything changes. However I ain't walking on egg shells and won't be devastated if something happens. You should never allow someone to dictate so much how you are feeling breh you're going to get high blood pressure and stress yourself over ish.
 

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Brehs.. what do you do to stop yourself from putting p*ssy on a pedestal?

usually I’m cool with meeting chicks and usually escalate to fukking quickly but there’s this Asian broad I’m meeting and I think my focus on fukking her might make me fumble the ball.

halle berry puzzy is the same as the chick at mcdonalds - patrice oneal
 

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Pretty much I see women I've smashed and are still occasionally seeing on the apps. Talking about they're looking for a relationship.

I saw one on Hinge with a new profile talking about how she didn't do casual sex and wanted someone serious. And yet I was blowing her back out that past week. And hooked up a few times after that.

I had to laugh to myself.

i always find it funny seeing chicks i've met etc. that i don't speak to anymore still on the apps i just always swipe left :blessed:
 

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The same chick who saw me on tinder, after we fell out 2 years ago, flaked again:francis:

We were sexting on Snapchat, and the body looked aight, and she was talking a good game about what she would do when she came over etc, but the day of when we’re supposed to meet, she texts me:
“My little nephew is in the ER getting stiches, he busted his head open playing at Chuck E. Cheese”:gucci:bytch must think I’m slow or sumn

But I fall back:hubie:and of course since then she’s posting all this sappy stuff about how once a relationship is over, don’t take him back etc. Ho babble:beli:

I was a rebound, but not even a full rebound bc the whore wouldn’t go through with the deed:mjcry:
 
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