Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Astroslik]

Her: *says some shyt that clearly implies she's not fine, or she's going through shyt*

Me: what's wrong?

Her: nothing

How do y'all handle this?
I'm really inept when it comes to an actual relationship

Ehh bushes.

Unless y’all have dates for 1+ year.

But then again, I have a very short leash with women.

 

[DapMeUp!]

Whatsup with all the half cacs and quadroons in London?

Went to Stratford mall and it was like a lightskin haven

Westfields been like that breh A lot of young bucks hang around there so watch yourself

 

[jadillac]

This chick i been dealing with for couple-- few months....told me she had bought me a gift, she knows i had already bought her a gift. I wanted to exchange gifts with her on Christmas eve, we live barely 10 mins apart...she acted like it was no big deal to exchange gifts "sometime after" Christmas. . Christmas eve morning, I saw her and told her
Me: "hey, i want to give you your gift today, so I'll have to meet up with you this afternoon to drop it off. I want to give it to you before Christmas"
Her: "...but Christmas is literally tomorrow..."
Me: "....yes, I know. That's why I want to give it to you today on Christmas eve
"
Her:

Again we live 10 mins apart. And It's Christmas EVE!

So a couple hrs later I texted her and told her i had to finish shopping for a family member but that I'd meet up with her later to simply drop off her gift...

She didn't hit me back for over 2-3 hrs until she got off work and then she texted and said she had to help her sister finish wrapping gifts etc. I texted her back literally 2 mins after she texted this and told her I passing her neighborhood in several mins....so I called her twice, she didnt answer, she then texted and said she was at her sister's house already.
Then she says this bs, "I dont want you to just drop it off lol, we need to go out lol....movie, or dinner lol"

Now I know what y'all are thinking based on her text. But what she says is not what she always means or does. She'll often wait several hrs to respond to texts and then text me right before she goes to sleep with basically nothin to say. Or she'll just be flakey as of late.

So I didn't even reply to that text she sent, and she didnt text me back the rest of the night either.

Christmas morning I finally replied with "ok.

Merry Christmas"

And then she replied back "merry Christmas!!!....blah blah blah"

I feel like that's really uncaring to basically feel indifferent towards accepting someone's gift on Christmas eve. Especially someone you been dating for a couple-few months now. It would take literally 5mins to accomplish this and I'm the one offering to come meet her.

I say ALL THIS to say, that's the final straw. I say/complain about very little, I just sit back and observe and pretend I'm clueless, and I give chicks ample leash to hang themselves. And once I'm done it comes out of nowhere. So Whatever she bought me, I know it's not of any importance and she likely only bought me something bc she knew I had already bought her something.

We're supposed to be hanging out new years eve, but I feel like she's gonna flake bc she hasn't mentioned it since I asked her. Either way, I'm breaking it off with her. It's gonna be weird to give her gift and then be like, . But it's been a snowball of stuff the past month, communication has gotten shyttier, and I'm super pissed off at this point.

 

[African_brehda]

This chick i been dealing with for couple-- few months....told me she had bought me a gift, she knows i had already bought her a gift. I wanted to exchange gifts with her on Christmas eve, we live barely 10 mins apart...she acted like it was no big deal to exchange gifts "sometime after" Christmas. . Christmas eve morning, I saw her and told her
Me: "hey, i want to give you your gift today, so I'll have to meet up with you this afternoon to drop it off. I want to give it to you before Christmas"
Her: "...but Christmas is literally tomorrow..."
Me: "....yes, I know. That's why I want to give it to you today on Christmas eve
"
Her:

Again we live 10 mins apart. And It's Christmas EVE!

So a couple hrs later I texted her and told her i had to finish shopping for a family member but that I'd meet up with her later to simply drop off her gift...

She didn't hit me back for over 2-3 hrs until she got off work and then she texted and said she had to help her sister finish wrapping gifts etc. I texted her back literally 2 mins after she texted this and told her I passing her neighborhood in several mins....so I called her twice, she didnt answer, she then texted and said she was at her sister's house already.
Then she says this bs, "I dont want you to just drop it off lol, we need to go out lol....movie, or dinner lol"

Now I know what y'all are thinking based on her text. But what she says is not what she always means or does. She'll often wait several hrs to respond to texts and then text me right before she goes to sleep with basically nothin to say. Or she'll just be flakey as of late.

So I didn't even reply to that text she sent, and she didnt text me back the rest of the night either.

Christmas morning I finally replied with "ok.

Merry Christmas"

And then she replied back "merry Christmas!!!....blah blah blah"

I feel like that's really uncaring to basically feel indifferent towards accepting someone's gift on Christmas eve. Especially someone you been dating for a couple-few months now. It would take literally 5mins to accomplish this and I'm the one offering to come meet her.

I say ALL THIS to say, that's the final straw. I say/complain about very little, I just sit back and observe and pretend I'm clueless, and I give chicks ample leash to hang themselves. And once I'm done it comes out of nowhere. So Whatever she bought me, I know it's not of any importance and she likely only bought me something bc she knew I had already bought her something.

We're supposed to be hanging out new years eve, but I feel like she's gonna flake bc she hasn't mentioned it since I asked her. Either way, I'm breaking it off with her. It's gonna be weird to give her gift and then be like, . But it's been a snowball of stuff the past month, communication has gotten shyttier, and I'm super pissed off at this point.

Don't give her shyt breh. It's almost like she doesn't want it

 

[jay83]

So the doctor who said she didn’t want to talk to me because I shared the same name as her ex-husband hit me up. Says her friend is having a party at her house with a bunch of people and wanted to know if I can come. Granted I’ve met her only once for an hour and we haven’t talked in weeks. Just texted here and there. Something seems off here.

 

[jadillac]

Don't give her shyt breh. It's almost like she doesn't want it

You might be right breh.

That sounds harsh but I didn't look at it that way. I needed to hear that.

When she texted that bs, I started to just stop by and leave gift on her porch and just be done with her. But I don't have it in me to be an a$$hole on Christmas day.

 

[jadillac]

So the doctor who said she didn’t want to talk to me because I shared the same name as her ex-husband hit me up. Says her friend is having a party at her house with a bunch of people and wanted to know if I can come. Granted I’ve met her only once for an hour and we haven’t talked in weeks. Just texted here and there. Something seems off here.

Was she just joking about the name thing? If she was serious, then bush her bc that's childish.

If you haven't talked in weeks, then yeah that's weird...but she likely cant find an attractive/presentable date for the party so she hit you up.

You could say yes, but don't be surprised if she flakes last min

 

[jay83]

Was she just joking about the name thing? If she was serious, then bush her bc that's childish.

If you haven't talked in weeks, then yeah that's weird...but she likely cant find an attractive/presentable date for the party so she hit you up.

You could say yes, but don't be surprised if she flakes last min

She was dead serious. She got divorced early this year. So I fell back and never called her but would text every now and then. I even stopped doing that. I’m also thinking because I’m military and she seemed turned off by that.

I think you may be right. Im probably a viable option for her but not a priority but good enough to be taken seriously as a date but not her 1st choice most likely.

 

[African_brehda]

You might be right breh.

That sounds harsh but I didn't look at it that way. I needed to hear that.

When she texted that bs, I started to just stop by and leave gift on her porch and just be done with her. But I don't have it in me to be an a$$hole on Christmas day.

Truth is, she doesn't deserve the gift after that behavior, and she won't be appreciative.
How tf do you flake on someone trying to link up to give you a gift?
It's almost like you're forcing her to take the gift breh. You shouldn't be going out of your way to give someone a gift

 

[jay83]

Truth is, she doesn't deserve the gift after that behavior, and she won't be appreciative.
How tf do you flake on someone trying to link up to give you a gift?
It's almost like you're forcing her to take the gift breh. You shouldn't be going out of your way to give someone a gift

I agree. As men we can’t reward bad behavior.

 

[jeff8]

How much talking do you guys do on these apps before getting a chick's number?

There's so much flakiness on these apps. Sometimes it feels like if you don't say exactly what a girl wants you to then, she'll just stop responding even if you've been having a conversation.

A lot of these women are looking for an instant spark these days. Also, a lot of them get bored too easily. This shows that women are essentially overgrown children. That’s why some of them would say “Please know how to hold a conversation” or “Please be interesting, don’t be boring.” The funny thing is they are not interesting themselves. They expect you to prove yourself worthy to them and do all the legwork. These women have too many options these days on these apps. The 80-20 rule is in effect with these apps. As for how much talking I do, I just exchange less than 10 messages (probably 5 or 6) before I ask for the phone number. I think the mistake that I make is that once I get the number, I would just message them more, instead of immediately setting something up. I need to stop doing that.

 

[360dagod]

You might be right breh.

That sounds harsh but I didn't look at it that way. I needed to hear that.

When she texted that bs, I started to just stop by and leave gift on her porch and just be done with her. But I don't have it in me to be an a$$hole on Christmas day.

Her p*ssy would be dripping if you did some a$$hole shyt...shyt just weird

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

Whatsup with all the half cacs and quadroons in London?

Went to Stratford mall and it was like a lightskin haven

That's Stratford Westfield, the home of me and my boys used to call the 'no motive' girls, young chicks who go there with no purpose but hope some guy moves to them.

 

[SATAN]

Whatsup with all the half cacs and quadroons in London?

Went to Stratford mall and it was like a lightskin haven

Most Northern USA states are like this, too

 

[Noriega]

Shorty got mad cuz I said she look better without makeup, ain’t respond for 3 days now