Men need to understand that women always have to deal with a trade off when it comes to guys they choose. Sure when they get online it turns into a storybook list for their ideal man and they start to blab about the "6 ft + shredded bad boy who makes her laugh and has lots of money." Just ignore how they make it seem like it's supposed to be some sort of package deal, because it isn't. Pay attention to the people you see around you and you'll see that's not even what's happening with men and women. Sure those things are all IDEAL requirements, but really what she is communicating to you is all of her needs jammed into one "Prince Charming" man.
What is behind the message is that there's a trifecta women have between their emotional needs, their physical needs, and their social/monetary needs. They will inherently figure out which strength a man has when she is picking one out. Having even one of these things mean that you have your shyt together to some degree. If you aren't an anti-social, fat, broke man, then you are likely more desirable than you think. That's why you need to get out of your head and realize that women like men, and if you have even ONE of those needs in order, then she will have a part of her that is attracted to you. It's how their antennas work even if they don't know it. You might even be out of her league if you're GREAT at your requirement (but she's smart enough to never tell you that.)
The truth is more likely that in real life, she's dealing with a man or men, who at best, are only good for ONE of those trifecta requirements. Yes, only one. Not even extraordinary at it, typically just "good or okay." That's the reality of it. It's a balance overall that counts, but really what I'm trying to say is that you should be GOOD in at least one of those things. The more the better. Get a mouthpiece and learn how to make her feel comfortable around you. Work out to look good in your clothes. Get money so you're not broke. Even one of those things will push you into a better place.
(Also, notice how the "I want him to love me for me" requirement is almost never at the top of the list for them, if at all. That's because how you feel about her is almost unimportant. Her emotional needs are more reliant on your confidence and how you feel about yourself. How you handle yourself in her presence or not. And if she sees strength, then she wants to be around that because it rubs off on her personality and it protects her. Being a simp is actually counter to her needs. She will feel weakness from you because you are weak without her. As long as you are giving her some attention and are accomplished in whichever trifecta need, then that's all that she really needs. Of course women change like the wind, but their idea of how great you are to her is dependent on your talents and strengths. NOT ON HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER. She could give a shyt, it's all about how much she wants you.)
You don't need to overthink the trifecta, because even the out of shape guy with a mouthpiece can make women laugh and get girls. The broke gym rat can holler and fukk plenty of women, because physically they are attracted to him. The rich old man can pick and choose which model he's getting with because of his bread ... you get what I'm saying. Don't psyche yourself out thinking that you need to be some impossible man who is great at everything. Or even extraordinary at one. Just be good at something for starters. If you are bad at all of those things, however, then fix at least one. Only ONE is necessary to get you women. More than one skill means she will probably look hotter.
Finally, yes self improvement is the best part of this all. In fact, work on everything to the fullest FOR YOU. If you do it just to get women then they'll smell that and see you're just a panderer. You're still trying to appease her. It's like those rich celebrities who are still simps and get played. They worked so hard just to get women, and when they see that she will find out he's a lame with no real confidence in himself. The truth is to work on your betterment for your own life. When she sees THAT, it makes her want you because your success and drive wasn't based on someone else's need or presence.
Speak to people to be more social, you can open up more possibilities in your life. Work out so you can be healthy, look good, and even fukk better. Stack your chips because you want to have a comfortable life when you get older. DO ALL OF THAT FOR YOU. That's it. That's the secret to getting women and fulfilling your potential.
Keeping women is another thing, and we all know how fickle they can be. But for the brehs feeling bad about themselves because women are flaking or just not showing up, just sort your gifts out and work on your life so you are an accomplished person who is social, strong, and confident with some bread. The women will fall into place. Enjoy life. You don't have to be great at everything either, alright? Just do something with yourself.
