Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Scustin Trillberlake]

I'd love a quiet introverted girl whose not on twitter instagram or Facebook, who can cook but

I'd also love Santa to drop a 70 inch led down my chimney on Christmas

 

[Oye]

"Loyalty as we know it is not in a woman’s best interests. Being the physically weaker sex necessitates social and moral fluidity. In other words, women are shady and duplicitous creatures because the have to be.

Before I understood psychology this used to eat at me. Especially the fact that a woman can turn off her emotions toward you like a bathroom faucet. I believed in “love” until I began to realize that love is only as strong as your ability to meet her needs.

The best relationship I ever had was with an absolutely sweet and adorable 20 year old who worshiped the ground I walked on. I thought the world of her. We had our problems and I probably didn’t fully appreciate what I had back then but overall we had a good relationship.

Things started falling apart and eventually she told me she was leaving. I came home a few days later and all of her stuff was cleared out (we were living together). I was devastated that she left but what really killed me was the fact that I was distraught, feeling like I had a piece of me taken away, while she seemed to be absolutely fine. She was in a new relationship VERY soon after we broke up. This didn’t sit well with me. I just couldn’t understand how I could be emotionally attached while she was able to quickly and easily wash her hands and move on.

It killed me to think that she had never really cared about me. Of course now I realize that women don’t bond with partners in the same way men do. She DID care about me when I was meeting her needs, but in order for her to ensure that her needs were constantly going to be met, she couldn’t afford to chain herself down emotionally.

This is why you should never fully trust a woman and you should never allow yourself to become emotionally dependent. Your relationship is only as good as her perception of you at any given time. She doesn’t love you for “you”, she loves the feelings you give hear and the things that you can provide for her."

It's amazing how women are almost all the same cause that is my situation down to a tee and makes me feel better to be honest.

 

[Nemesis]

 

[CASHAPP]

extroverted to me means wanting to be doing something every damn weekend. i dont get people like that. always into some sh1t every damn day. like damn. we have television, movies for a reason. sh1t!

The other day I was in the library in a private room by myself and this black girl comes in quietly and sits across and says "can i sit here..."

Thought for a second she wasn't a stereotypical loud mouth because of how she asked but then out of nowhere bytch opens up her laptop and starts talking to someone on skype loud as hell and as the day went on more and more people came in(most her friends) and she kept being loud.

Extroverted people say they dont get quiet people but at least we mind our own business. I dont get how can someone honestly talk about someone literally every single minute......not even exaggerating

How can someone talk so much every literal minute

Like shut up and go read a book or something. Always gotta be doing something every second like you said. I'm starting to think the minute a girl I am into says something like "Your so quiet or Why arey you so quiet"...thats my cue it ain't gonna work out(unless its just a fellow introverted girl saying that as a corny inside joke between us )

Blessing about being introverted is that you can observe from a far alot more and read people alot more easily. They assume your being quiet or your slow intellectually because your not responding but dont realize you probably no more about them than vice versa.

@662LetGo I seriously think introverted girls are rarer than introverted men. Do you realize how frustrating it is being around campus and seeing that 99 percent of the girls have no class and are basically cursing up a storm every second or saying some shyt in a hallway around classes like "Well im gonna relax this week.....and im also gonna have sex with my boyfriend!". Um thanks for saying that in the hallway. The way alot of extroverts talk(the attention whore type) is like they look for self validation. Its almost sad.

And then hearing ratchet girls in public talk about "hahhaaha I farted"

 

[MikelArteta]

It's amazing how women are almost all the same cause that is my situation down to a tee and makes me feel better to be honest.

it is breh

hell jsut read any relationship story your like this happened to me

 

[RickyGQ]

I figured thats where you were coming from but I didn't want to assume to much. I tell my male friends just like when I told you in that post you just quoted it doesn't have to be like that and definitely don't do it if this is the end result. Thats why I'm very honest with chicks from the gate I'm not going to be doing all the heavy lifting if we are in this "together". Honestly I understand how you feel doing the majority of heavy lifting then women coming with the BS. Thats why I feel if you not in a relationship that isn't equal enough where you can't tell who is giving more you need to roll. That I blame on us though for being brainwashed that if you not some superman type figure we aren't "men" and so many of us are so quick to show howo much of a man you are until you get burned. I'm so happy I was raised in a household where there was no gender roles perse everybody worked at the main goal which was making it better for the house. My mom took out trash, did yard work, helped fix things(when she could) and my dad can cook, wash clothes, etc. Thats how it needs to be so dudes don't feel burned when it doesn't work out cause if you both gave your all you (and probably most guys) wouldn't feel used when things go bad. Hell just think about real life situations too. If somebody traded you a Benz for an Audi you be cool with that but a Benz for a Hyundai you'll be like

I'm struggling to find out if there are that many women like that out there. And whether or not its something you work towards or not...

 

[philmonroe]

I'm struggling to find out if there are that many women like that out there. And whether or not its something you work towards or not...

To be honest might not be but there has to be some though. The one thing I do know if you need a top notch "dime" type chick looks wise its going to be even harder to if they even exist at least in America (can't speak for elsewhere). The chicks that seem to be more like that are usually cute but not blow you away beautiful from what I have saw. I had one like that mentality wise but she wanted to keep in touch with her ex cause he was "suicidal". It will always be something but they exist you just have find them like my ex without the sympthy for exes like my ex lol

 

[villain]

rock "forever 21" gear and cheap shoes have their shyt all s mess just like their lives are.

i know this shyt is not on the top of the list for most nikkas, but seeing a good looking woman in cheap lookin clothes/shoes irks me sooo bad

or any woman that for matter. i was never raised around women who wore cheap looking shyt so when I see these young girls out here wit they shoes fallin apart and they nasty lookin UGG boots i just a little inside

and wit some of these discount stores, you don't have to pay a lot of money to get a decent lookin pair. just make sure when they start to fall apart you buy some new ones

that's one thing i don't mind buying for a female that's rolling wit me - a good pair of shoes

 

[kevm3]

Man just the level of selfishness of so many chicks here in America just has me tripping. It's always 'what are you going to do for me?" You ask them about cooking, "Well why can't the man cook?" I'm just going to have to travel and see if these women elsewhere have a different attitude because this joint is agitating me.

Never do the women here have the attitude of 'I'm going to hold my man down. I'm just going to be generous to my man just out of my sense of generosity and kindness."
THe first question is always, "Welll uhhh what is he going to do for me."

I'm not doing a doggone thing for you with that attitude. Get out of here. I have NO problem doing something generous for a woman, but not if the first statement they come out with involves, what are you going to do for me.... just basically looking at how am I going to benefit from this?

 

[Shameonyou]

yall bros need to peep this...


love the ending too

 

[CASHAPP]

and no lie, sometimes I be thinking I need a ballerina type, reserved, artsy chick who is a friend to me and still be an around the way girl type. on some flashdance shyt

what's your race? Its just that its even harder to find that when your looking for a black girl. You end up seeing "Nursing major" hoodrats who still use myspace or who are constantly cursing or cannot go an entire day without saying "nikka" every second

Off the top of my head I cannot think of any artsy/ introverted black girls to use as examples in either civilian life or entertainment world.
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[Zapp Brannigan]

Approaching a new woman every day for a month, Day 13:

There's this really cute Asian hipster girl that keeps staring at me in a couple of my classes, and I've even seen her at the bar a couple times around town. I caught her staring at me again and just said, "Hi, I'm [DaygoTago]." I know that I've criticized the use of "Hi" as a pickup line before, but this girl has been staring at me and she knows that I've noticed her staring at me. Therefore there wasn't the normal awkward silence after I introduced myself. I was able to launch immediately into, "I've seen you around before at school/bars/etc." and I knew she'd appreciate my initiative so she would feel less weird staring at me.

We poked fun at what a huge dork our professor was, why she was in law school, and I asked her a little bit about the bar that she was at. It turns out that she's also into the finer craft beers and perusing some of the lesser-known local joints downtown. My kind of scene, personally. It's the type of place that lets me showcase my stronger suits. Actually... I should probably bring my buddy Flip to some of these places. These types of girls would eat him alive (in the best possible way).

I was noticing that her body language was extremely receptive, as it was very open and she kept leaning in. She was super busty, especially for an Asian chick, so she almost seemed like she was intentionally giving me a glance down her shirt. I gave her a quick glance and pretended that I was trying to not let her notice that I was looking. When I met her gaze again she was smiling like a horny teenager. Can't say that it was a bad thing. Oddly enough, it seems like it would have been more rude to not look than to grab a look. Needless to say, I got her number and am going to stage some personal "study sessions" during finals.

Side Notes:

I'm meeting that one girl for steaks as soon as I leave class tonight. Even if I don't fukk, which I promise you guys I will, but hypothetically if I don't I still get some free steak and sangria, apparently. In addition, this girl has a really, really athletic body. She used to play sports when she was in college and still keeps the habit of working out and eating really healthy. For those that may not know, the sporty type of girls are almost always an OUTSTANDING lay. They will outright impress you with their endurance, flexibility, and their determination to fukk you harder than you fukk them.

Whew, before I work myself up too much before I meet with this girl...

It's been brought to my attention that there is a disconnect between my recent confidence and success with women and the way I've been thinking about them. I keep giving into these woman bashing threads despite the fact that I personally have been doing really well with them. Due to this, I need to reevaluate my thinking. Here are some things I'm going to work on changing when it comes to my ideology on the subject. Feel free to criticize and tell me if I'm wrong in this list, because I'm looking to refine it and make it as useful as possible:

• I will not hold the ideas of some fringe feminists to all women, everywhere.
• I cannot assume that women will cheat on me or be otherwise bad to me just because it's happened before when I was still a thirsty simp that doesn't have the value that I have now.
• If I retain a negative view about women while pursuing them like I have, I'll run the risk of turning said pursuit into an adversarial game of me vs. them that will leave me hollow, unhappy, an unable to appreciate the women that I do meet.
• While I totally feel for any fella that's been screwed over by someone he loved, I can't hold it against women in general. Eventually the psychological walls I'd be building would turn into a prison rather than a protective shield.
• This has been about self-improvement, pursuit of happiness, and exploring new women's bodies and minds to the fullest extent that I can. To do this, maintaining an open heart just might be the best hand that I have, because a person with a genuine character can make a woman feel special, safe, and happy (the holy trinity of what women want) all at once.
• There are going to be women who seem shallow, vapid, and callous. Instead of holding it against them, I can use what I'm learning to inspire them to let go of those character traits about themselves.

Ultimately, women can be respected while doing this, in my humble opinion. When I do, it makes meeting them, exploring them, getting to know them, and having sex with them that much more exhilarating and meaningful. Why would I numb myself to really thinking high of the people I'm sleeping with just because I've been burned before? The whole point of life isn't to tiptoe around, wearing a big bulletproof egg until I keel over due to old age. Living is about willingness to endure the most intense life has to offer, sliding into your casket via speeding Maserati, having your headstone read, "Holy sheeit, what a ride!"

Anyway, tonight's my big night. Wish me luck, brehs.
@No_bammer_weed, I hope that this post makes your bub bubs bounce.

 

[kevm3]

you can't ever 'give up' on dealing with women. All of what we're saying, aka 'the bashing,' which really ain't bashing, but honest observations, is something that should make you more cautious. It shouldn't make you stop dealing with women, because you may find that gem out there, but it should give you the habit of pressing the eject switch faster once you start knowing what to avoid.

And the real is, most of the criticism isn't when you first deal with the woman or if you're just sleeping with them. The criticism comes when yous tart taking them serious and trying to do something long -term with them. Women are mad cool from the 1st to 3rd months. After that, then all that stuff starts coming out. So keep that in mind.

Don't give up on dealing with women, but realize how babygirl is today ain't necessarily how she is going to be down the line... so what that means is to always keeping your mind open and observant of changes and never getting too caught up on a woman.

 

[kevm3]

I'd definitely like to see this thread go back more into the direction of self-improvement and more of actually dealing with women on a positive level though. We've had a ton of information on the bad things women can do, but let's hear your ways of dealing with the positive ones.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

I'd definitely like to see this thread go back more into the direction of self-improvement and more of actually dealing with women on a positive level though. We've had a ton of information on the bad things women can do, but let's hear your ways of dealing with the positive ones.

Exactly. A bitter mindset is poisonous when dealing with women. A man's life isn't easy, but hey, if it takes a man to live it then I'm okay with the burden. Any and all tips to do it in stride are appreciated.