I never thought i would be here actually asking for advice/Game. This is a bit long and deep but bear with me, I need my advanced OGs for this one brehs.
I have a green girl that I've been grooming for almost 4 years now.
She knows I fukk other girls and has been reconditioned to accept this.
I have tried to have a 2nd girlfriend with her but she was/is too basic to really embrace the idea. anytime I brought a new girl around she basically pretended to go along with it so she don't disappoint me but her looks and overall body language revealed her disdain for the new girl/s. She always felt threatened and resented sharing the dikk.
2 years ago I allowed and challenged her to get side dikk. I was in Johannesburg and she was attending Uni at the University of Cape Town. She once again failed dismally at this, instead of getting dikk she began searching for guys to validate her, and started attention hoeing, basically trying to get cuffed by guys behind my back and dumping them once she discovered they were square lames.
This completely fukked things up and I demoted her back to hoe status for a while. She took her punishment well and stuck it out.
I must add this happened when she was between 19-21yrs old for the most part and I gave a lot of leeway due to her age.
Since then she has matured and gained way more perspective, based on a lot of real life challenges that I've faced, including her dropping out of University, fracturing her relationship with her mother, reading more, being less superficial etc just overall growth and maturity.
Last year I told her that I had another girl. She again was convinced that she was fine with it but upon them meeting, and the new girl staying with us for a while she began self destructing and acting like she was completely green. She was acting more dumb and jealous more than the new girl who was completely new to the concept of dating a guy with a GF. somehow we survived her latest episode of basicness and moved on. I am still with the new girl and they both know about each other.
Yesterday she called and said she needed to tell me something very important :
I WANNA fukk OTHER GUYS. I'm not around you, I get horny and it's purely a sexual thing. I know we tried numerous times in the past for me get side dikk and I fukked it up but I FEEL that now I'm more mature and know what I'm doing. I've grown and no loner have the desire to be validated that I once had. I wanna give it another go.
I basically let her know that I have no problem with her getting side dikk, I've encouraged many of my previous GFs to do this(embrace me having other girls and righteously get side dikk without jeopardising or compromising our arrangement) and trained them on how to do it properly. My problem with her is that I have tried to introduce her to many high level relationship dynamics like us having a girlfriend, her fukking other guys etc and on all the occasions her ego/daddy issues/insecurities/jealousy/greed/deceit/inexperice etc all culminated in her fukking it all up.
the entire time that I have been with her I've tried to introduce her to swinging, open relationships etc and on all occasions she showed she does not have the maturity, emotional intelligence and temperament to pull it off with honesty and righteousness.
I told her , that based on your own previous behavior I cannot give you my permission to go fukk other guys. You can do it and not tell me but I will not be involved in anyway shape or form in that. You've consistently showed that you are nowhere near ready to operate at that level. You have to many unresolved childhood issues and you will put my health and reputation at risk. So if you do it, you'll do it behind my back. I'll always fukk with you a rubber and demote you back again to hoe status.
In conclusion I have a very young green chick in her early 20s. She's average looking(very important) skinny/Petit with daddy issues. Over the years I've tried to introduce and mould her into my way of doing things, she went along with everything I introduced her to so that I would not dismiss her as basic/boring, upon trying numerous things with her, which she dismally failed in all of them, she now pops up asking me to allow to fukk other guys again.
My theory is that she feels like I'm genetically cheating her by me having other girls and having a second GF currently and feels like she needs some back up insurance dikk in case I ditch her for a hotter/prettier girl. I'm better looking than her and tend to attract girls much hotter than she is, not coz of my looks , but because of Game and the fact that I gym/workout. This is why I completely refused to even entertain her proposal coz it's not righteous and merely a reaction to me having more options than her at present. The new girl is thicker and prettier than her, and a lil older (25),works and has a car.
All the brehs who have engaged in open relationships, polygamy or even Pimpin, or any scenario where you have multiple girls who know each other please chime in.
Again I do not expect the younger guys to understand or even relate to this and would like them to not even bother replying.
Peace
" posts are a waste of bandwith. Even when people disagree or its a lil mud slinging there is discourse. How does one respond to the journal posts with more than "ok cool bro". Overall this thread is a godsend though and laced me with many gems but it flies off the rails often.
Lol I’m using the 5x5 program and breh I feel stronger and feel more masculine and shyt. Can’t wait for this semester to be over so I can workout more consistently in the summer.
