Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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If a woman brings you food she obviously has some sort of interest in you. Stop trying to read her mind and get at her. If she's down for you coo, if not, move on to another woman. No need to over-complicate things.
 

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One of the huge problems we have here in America is a fear of 'failure' and rejection. Failure is actually a positive thing because you learn a lot from it if you choose to do so. Instead, we'd rather wait for the 'perfect signs' that will guarantee our success, and they will never come, causing us to miss out on a lot of opportunities. So I'm saying this to say, stop trying to find out all the perfect signals for if a woman likes you. If she's showing a bit of interest, kick up a convo and ask for a number. If she rejects you, so what? She just did you a favor by not wasting your time and freed you up to go deal with a more interested woman. Your 'failure' with a particular woman is not some huge knock against your self-esteem that will completely destroy you. It's simply a time saving mechanism and will let you move on to a more interested woman. Thank any woman that rejects you up front in your mind for not stringing you along and using you before she parts ways.
 

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If a woman brings you food she obviously has some sort of interest in you. Stop trying to read her mind and get at her. If she's down for you coo, if not, move on to another woman. No need to over-complicate things.
I know I know, just tryna now if this was positive towards being in a relationship instead of that friend zone crap. I mean shyt she told me no the first time, said she had work, but it was still a no.
Anyways It aint like I got all my eggs in one basket.
 

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One of the huge problems we have here in America is a fear of 'failure' and rejection. Failure is actually a positive thing because you learn a lot from it if you choose to do so. Instead, we'd rather wait for the 'perfect signs' that will guarantee our success, and they will never come, causing us to miss out on a lot of opportunities. So I'm saying this to say, stop trying to find out all the perfect signals for if a woman likes you. If she's showing a bit of interest, kick up a convo and ask for a number. If she rejects you, so what? She just did you a favor by not wasting your time and freed you up to go deal with a more interested woman. Your 'failure' with a particular woman is not some huge knock against your self-esteem that will completely destroy you. It's simply a time saving mechanism and will let you move on to a more interested woman. Thank any woman that rejects you up front in your mind for not stringing you along and using you before she parts ways.

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Finality is the best thing I swear. That little grey area, where you pretend you don't know where things stand is the worst. It allows you to keep up simpish behavior for the slight hope that maybe she likes you, maybe she'll drop the other guy, maybe if you two get drunk enough. Nah man, you make your boundaries clear and know where things stand at all time to remove confusion.

You notice how men keep things vague when women start pressing them about "what are we doing?"/ Women use the same thing when you try to get in their good graces - all the while they're doing their own thing.
 

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Finality is the best thing I swear. That little grey area, where you pretend you don't know where things stand is the worst. It allows you to keep up simpish behavior for the slight hope that maybe she likes you, maybe she'll drop the other guy, maybe if you two get drunk enough. Nah man, you make your boundaries clear and know where things stand at all time to remove confusion.

You notice how men keep things vague when women start pressing them about "what are we doing?"/ Women use the same thing when you try to get in their good graces - all the while they're doing their own thing.


and when a woman starts that dance shyt, just stop brick still with all them romancy thoughts you having and don't contribute nothing. Cause she ain't serious and you won't be serious until she is.
 

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:ufdup:Contributing time is NOT a sacrifice, cause 9 times out of 10 she would have either been doing nothing with her time or looking for another nikka to spend something besides his.

:russ: Hell, it's the reason why women always complain about how "this relationship didn't work. I wasted all that time!"


:bryan: YOU DIDN"T CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING ELSE.
 

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I think thats true. I believe that testosterone, and in general male energy, is a gift and a curse in a way. its there to give us that powerful drive for us to push forward and exhibit either aggression or strength. its best though if its focused and used when the time is right. its not something to let control you and tell you what youre to do. if you dont do control it then you willl be a slave to this predisposition and will be running all over the place like a savage. to make it in this world, you are to temper your strengths, and not let your urges be in charge of you.

This fact is the bane of the world.
now as for women, I believe that theyre equipped with the gift of being very welcoming, inviting, warm, soft, nuturing, comforting etc. they arent the same in how they go about things, think about problems, or interact with others, because they arent even built that way. their traits show out in their natural ways, their God given gifts of nuturing, being social, and their overall alluring presence. they are more like beacons for us to seek out, and we men are the ones who take the initiative and must hone in on them. still, if they dont temper their traits then they end up being the town slut and found to be of little value to keep around

Funny you should say beacon. As I've been trying to recentre my life around myself, I've noticed more women becoming attracted to me. I have a "give them away" or "I'll pass" attitude to most women . Seems you being able to politely turn them down or turn them away is a key to attraction. Seduction is based on Rejection. Be something she can't have.
 

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im just tired of it all brehs, i dont care about fighting a bunch of dudes for sme woman with a kid who looks nice with makeup, or has big boobs and a big ass.

my two longest relationships in my life, I did nothing. I wasn't thinking about women I was just living my life and our paths crossed. I honestly think in this day an age thats the best thing, to not care, to no worry, to not be in the clubs, bars, dating sites.

To just sit back and if its meant to be it will be
 

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im just tired of it all brehs, i dont care about fighting a bunch of dudes for sme woman with a kid who looks nice with makeup, or has big boobs and a big ass.

my two longest relationships in my life, I did nothing. I wasn't thinking about women I was just living my life and our paths crossed. I honestly think in this day an age thats the best thing, to not care, to no worry, to not be in the clubs, bars, dating sites.

To just sit back and if its meant to be it will be

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let it come too you not go really searching for it so hard. enjoy your life better yourself and do things you wanna do. when u meet a woman and she dont fill your needs why waste your time
 

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Women are alot smarter then we think and if they do something its for a reason.All of a sudden she is hitting you up. "Where have you been" she is asking because she either wants closure or to know if there is another woman. She doesnt genually (sp?) care where you been?Women have reasons/motives.Like I said with all the technology in this world there is no excuse for somebody to give you the typical run around "Oh I been so busy".People will stay in contact with people they really want to contact.Nobody in this thread would avoid calls from their job and most would jump to answer the phone.You know why?because we stay in contact with those who matter the most.Your time and availability is precious.It should be to the point if you ever call a lady friend/your gf etc she should jump to the phone like an employee would to an boss.The boss is the leader and sets the tone (im not sayin boss your lady around :whoa:).In her eyes she should be an eager employee willing to hear from their job (you)Like kevm said a while back.If a celebrity told these women to meet them at a hotel,guess what they would be there on time and not a minute late.Cause once again they value their boss time/availability.
 

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A lot of you younger fellows, here's some direct advice to you. Stop worrying about what women want and start worrying about what will make you more of a man. As a nice side benefit of you becoming more of a man everyday, you will have women desiring you. Everyone will have a definition of what a man is, but there are some baseline principles. A man gets things done and doesn't cater to the opinions and preferences of others. A man is also principled and has direction. I will go through more later.
 

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Sex with someone else . For both genders loyqlty andtl trust which should be foundations of any relationship are now replaced with pleasure.

It seems nowadays everyone says they want loyalty and trust honesty but they will find someone with those traits and go lay with the first person who gives them tingles.

pleasure in what way u talking bout?
 
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