Get this bullshyt outta here
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Y'all gonna stop blaming black men for these chicks ending up with cacs. Shawty had over THIRTY years to get a black man if she really wanted one. She wanted a white man and his baby. The end.
Imagine me saying billionaire black man Robert Smith "had to get a white woman because black women just waste your time". Y'all nikkatry never ceases to astound me.
Keeping it 1k: I'm Increasingly feeling alienated from Black Women :mjpls:
They hate black women. The other thread is pretty different from this thread.
I don't think yall hate BW, but I'm noticing some different energy in this thread. In that other thread, half of the posters were telling that OP that it was okay for him to pawg, because they could understand where he was coming from, and they don't gaf, they'll be with whomever they want, etc. Some of them admitted that it was hard to find BW that matched them and much easier to connect with nonbw, or nonwestern women. To be fair, plenty of posters went in on him, for wanting to pawg and trying to justify it, but overall, the tone in that thread felt less harsh in judgement and criticism than what I'm seeing in this thread about Tamron.
I don't know Tamron's full dating history, but I remember reading somewhere that she's dated BM before. So if she ended up with this dude(and I don't know the dynamics of their relationship) then maybe like Marc Septor, she too concluded that she could not find a BM that had the qualities she wanted, that was willing to commit to her the way this cac did. If we're going to be understanding of pawgers coming to this conclusion and settling with a pawg, then why aren't yall keeping the same energy for BW like Tamron? It's said on the coli, so often, that men are the ones that initiate commitment. They are the gatekeepers to commitment, in the same way that women are the gatekeepers to sex. Women don't propose to men. Tamron didn't propose, this cac proposed to her. So perhaps it's less about finding a BM(which probably wasn't difficult for her at all) and more about the fact that for whatever reason, none of the BM she was with, proposed to her or were willing to make this commitment to her. But this WM did.
Just today at my job, a white girl got engaged to a 6foot5 BM. He proposed to her here at work, so he walked around the office. My coworker who is the same age as this girl was lowkey sad about it. I didn't understand why--dude looked dusty to me(and hood) but for her it was more about what it represented. She told me that she feels like BM are quicker to propose to WW/nonbw, whereas they'll string bw along in long term relationships and never make that push. She asked me "what do these nonbw have that makes BM propose so quickly and take them more seriously than us?" It was an interesting question and perspective because tbh, I'm not that invested in what IR couples do, so it's never something I've thought too hard about. But between this thread and that other thread, it's something to think about. As I remember having a similar argument with
@Eddy Gordo who stated that BM seek different things when they're looking for marriage compared to BW, and that BM collectively are more ready for marriage than BW. I didn't agree with those points at the time, but, if this perspective holds even a little truth, maybe there really is a disconnect going on between both groups. Tamron might not have been able to find what she was looking for in the relationships she had with BM, so she gave up, and ended up with this white man. Who knows. I do think she's a little old to be having a child, but at the same time, if this is what she's been wanting for a long time, then it's better late than never, I suppose.
what’s unfair? Her waiting until she gets married to have kids?
to have kids is unfair.
nonsense. Sure plenty of far better black dudes tried to get at her, but failed to meet "her standard".
