Essential Official Random Thoughts Thread (Ladies only)

[86\*/98]

If she's not your wife, you can't tell her what to do. She's not even your girlfriend you called her a "situation" wtf

Actually I can. If I tell her I want something to go a certain way, that's how it's gonna go. The make-up thing isn't a real problem, just an annoyance, because I find her so much more attractive bare faced.

I called her my situation, because up until a couple of months ago, I didn't have any feelings for her; I was just using her as a come up. I guess she's worn me down, because I care for her now. If she's around, I'll call her my girlfriend, but I still think of her as a situation, because of how we started.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

Idk why I dnt like to wear thongs... I stay getting wedgies, which is basically the same thing, right?

 

[old_timer]

I have friends... I have friends that I've known for 25+ years... Those friends are married with families and don't usually have free weekends without their kids...

I've tried the family function stuff with friends.... being the only adult without kids at a kids centered event is weird ........

I am good hanging by myself... I know how to occupy my own mind...

As for when I'm 50.... those same friends will still be there (God forbid that any of us pass)....

Being single is not the end of the world...

@KOOL-AID .... CC

when my wife and i mutually decided to remain childless
it wasn't a big deal for me- i still had my fraternal group
that was where i made my friends and connections

but she had to adjust- some of her long term friends turned into baby machines
100% of their conversation was either babies or badmouthing their husbands
so she had to find new people and activities

other women are in your shoes- good luck
okay let me clear out of here
don't mean to clog this thread up

 

[Colicat]

when my wife and i mutually decided to remain childless
it wasn't a big deal for me- i still had my fraternal group
that was where i made my friends and connections

but she had to adjust- some of her long term friends turned into baby machines
100% of their conversation was either babies or badmouthing their husbands
so she had to find new people and activities

other women are in your shoes- good luck
okay let me clear out of here
don't mean to clog this thread up

This... . I usually find new activities to get involved in... ...and meet folks while doing it...

Thanks for the luck... I'll apply it elsewhere

 

[HoustonHeat]

I've tried the family function stuff with friends.... being the only adult without kids at a kids centered event is weird ........

I am good hanging by myself... I know how to occupy my own mind...
Being single is not the end of the world...

@KOOL-AID .... CC

I joined some meetup groups when I changed cities centered around my interests, but many of the women there were either super duper white or lived on the other side of town. Good girlfriends without drama are hard to come by, and the ones you do end up being swallowed up by motherhood after a while. It's weird cause my dude is still able to kick it with his guy friends frequently even after they become dads. Does that mean dad's don't like to be left alone with baby?

I have no kids but many of my girlfriends' lives are centered around kids and kid topics. It has almost created a division between the moms and the non-moms. We try to schedule kid free girls trips or brunch a few times a year, but this requires planning weeks ahead for the whole group. They sometimes want to guilt me for not having kids yet. In retaliation, when I get invited to their parties I show up looking fly and fresh, stay for a little while and bounce without helping with any clean up. If I feel like entertaining myself, I'll lowkey brag about the free time and opportunities for naps and entertainment I have.

 

[Colicat]

I joined some meetup groups when I changed cities centered around my interests, but many of the women there were either super duper white or lived on the other side of town. Good girlfriends without drama are hard to come by, and the ones you do end up being swallowed up by motherhood after a while. It's weird cause my dude is still able to kick it with his guy friends frequently even after they become dads. Does that mean dad's don't like to be left alone with baby?

I have no kids but many of my girlfriends' lives are centered around kids and kid topics. It has almost created a division between the moms and the non-moms. We try to schedule kid free girls trips or brunch a few times a year, but this requires planning weeks ahead for the whole group. They sometimes want to guilt me for not having kids yet. In retaliation, when I get invited to their parties I show up looking fly and fresh, stay for a little while and bounce without helping with any clean up. If I feel like entertaining myself, I'll lowkey brag about the free time and opportunities for naps and entertainment I have.

I don't do meet ups (usually all white).... I join different activities and usually there are sprinkles of Black folks... it's just the activities are frequented by older folks...

As far as all the kid themed stuff.. I just stopped going... I got fed up with one of my girlfriends who invited me to her baby shower, for her third child...

I went to her wedding (we were fresh out of college- that wedding gift hurt) ....year later 1st baby shower, year later... house warming... year later 2nd baby shower... I'm like... ok... it's a girl this time... maybe you need help with getting it together for this baby...

a year later she's throwing her 3rd baby shower!.... I'm like isn't it customary to have a baby shower for just the 1st kid? Just tacky...

 

[HoustonHeat]

@Colicat
3rd baby shower is tacky. Did other friends show up the third time?
I am currently a bridesmaid for a girl who has had 4 bridal showers already, and her fam keeps sending me invites for all of them.
I already did an out of town bachelorette party and one bridal shower for her. I barely have the motivation to last through the wedding now.

I remember all the post undergrad weddings and then showers
I've donated so many $200+ bridesmaids dresses, and each heifer always tries to say, "I picked out a dress that you can wear even after the wedding". Nobody can wear that to any event without it looking like you're trying to pass off a B-maid dress as a formal dress.

 

[Broke Wave]

I hope you ladies have a great week

 

[Milk N Cookies]

I hope you ladies have a great week

Thank breh!! But I'm working in Thursday night dealing with them crazy ass Black Friday shoppers... but when I get that next paycheck imma be like

 

[CoolazzFemale]

Sure hope today and tomorrow goes fast.

 

[aXiom]

Idk why I dnt like to wear thongs... I stay getting wedgies, which is basically the same thing, right?

Thongs are overrated and the don't leave much to imagination. Cheekies/Boyshorts/Fullbacks on the other hand

 

[MCMLXXIX]

I don't do meet ups (usually all white).... I join different activities and usually there are sprinkles of Black folks... it's just the activities are frequented by older folks...

As far as all the kid themed stuff.. I just stopped going... I got fed up with one of my girlfriends who invited me to her baby shower, for her third child...

I went to her wedding (we were fresh out of college- that wedding gift hurt) ....year later 1st baby shower, year later... house warming... year later 2nd baby shower... I'm like... ok... it's a girl this time... maybe you need help with getting it together for this baby...

a year later she's throwing her 3rd baby shower!.... I'm like isn't it customary to have a baby shower for just the 1st kid? Just tacky...

My friend has four kids. The first two had showers because her first was a girl then the second was a boy, then they were separated by some years. But after that she had diaper parties. Which was cool with everyone because she supplied the food & drinks and everyone brought diapers and wipes. Which was great because it didn't break the bank and you need diapers and wipes. Some folks did buy outfits because that is what THEY WANTED TO DO. I remember on her invitation it said, Diapers & Wipes Only Please.

 

[Colicat]

My friend has four kids. The first two had showers because her first was a girl then the second was a boy, then they were separated by some years. But after that she had diaper parties. Which was cool with everyone because she supplied the food & drinks and everyone brought diapers and wipes. Which was great because it didn't break the bank and you need diapers and wipes. Some folks did buy outfits because that is what THEY WANTED TO DO. I remember on her invitation it said, Diapers & Wipes Only Please.

This makes so much sense... but not everyone is on that wave...

 

[MCMLXXIX]

This makes so much sense... but not everyone is on that wave...

I think people need to realize you can celebrate every child, but in a different way.

 

[Elle Driver]

Grandma giving me that sage advice.