Nah Breh. They been doing this in Africa for thousands of years. Problem is tradition is so heavily relied on and new ways of living are viewed as disrespect.I ain't on no hotep shyt but IMO that stems from the slave mentality under white supremacy
By the master telling the slaves to remain in their place in society, the slaves did the same to their children in the household.
Now that I'm older, that whole "stay in a child's place" BS my parents used to pull is dumb
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I love my kids respect for me... They know to "Stay in their place" with me but know they can come to me with anything & I listen...
Its a respect thing wit us... You can speak but dont get out of control... We cuss out older people but will never touch them...
Its a respect thing wit us... You can speak but dont get out of control... We cuss out older people but will never touch them...
We do our kids a disservice by teaching them to be passive and completely obedient. I allow my kids to question my decisions, then I just explain why I think it is the right thing to do. I allow them to debate me up to a certain point, and there have been times when they got me to change my mind.
desjardins
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Honestly y'all sound like some Cacs in here 
Unless I'm misunderstanding what y'all talking about
When I was a kid I heard that when a kid gave input in a conversation that excluded them or gave unsolicited advice
To me that is totally appropriate. There is a clear hierarchy between adults and kids for obvious reasons
I never felt intellectually stifled by not being able to give my opinion.....I had my own group of peers for that
And if you were smarter then your parents as a kid then you probably had more serious issues to deal with then staying in your place
One of my friends allows his kid to interpret and say whatever he wants basically and it's annoying as shyt. I can tell he be embarrassed as shyt. His kid tells him no and everything, they basically have to bribe the nikka to go to bed with ice cream and shyt like that. Honestly it's pathetic
Unless I'm misunderstanding what y'all talking about
When I was a kid I heard that when a kid gave input in a conversation that excluded them or gave unsolicited advice
To me that is totally appropriate. There is a clear hierarchy between adults and kids for obvious reasons
I never felt intellectually stifled by not being able to give my opinion.....I had my own group of peers for that
And if you were smarter then your parents as a kid then you probably had more serious issues to deal with then staying in your place
One of my friends allows his kid to interpret and say whatever he wants basically and it's annoying as shyt. I can tell he be embarrassed as shyt. His kid tells him no and everything, they basically have to bribe the nikka to go to bed with ice cream and shyt like that. Honestly it's pathetic
Neil Tyson
YYZ
When I did some clinical work in a kindergarten classroom. There was one little girl who in sure has parents who speak to her like an adult and engages her intellectually.
Brightest in the class.
Time to stop treating your children like babies.
Brightest in the class.
Time to stop treating your children like babies.
I see what y'all are saying but every decision can't be an argument or debate with your kids. Sometimes they just need to shut the hell up and go with the program whether they like it or not. Parents should explain "why" at some point.
Neil Tyson
YYZ
Or the guilt trip."Because I'm the boss" Because I say so
You paying the bills in this bytch?
Then shut the fukk up.
Shadow
Enjoy your life and loved ones.
My parents weren't usually trying to shut us up, they would sit down and talk to us about stuff more often than not and encourage us to come to them with problems.
For me the title of the thread applies to authority figures in general. We are able to learn way more outside of school then in school but the mentality is you're not supposed to question the teacher and just do the work. Don't question authority is what many people are taught and when kids rebel against that they are punished. They grow up and still maintain that mindset.
I remember being in school and I questioned something the teacher said and other students were telling me to shut up and going "This dude trying to argue with the teacher
." I wish I could remember the subject but that situation bothered me, that way of thinking makes it seem like kids are inherently dumb by default. At least in comparison to the teacher(authority). It frustrated me more than it should have, "Just do your work. Why are you trying to argue with the teacher? Just do what she says."
There are many things the school won't even teach you and points in history are deemed not as important to talk about. For example I didn't learn about black wall-street until after I graduated, as that apparently wasn't seen as important to talk about
.
Kids are taught to 'fall in line' to sit down and shut up and not question authority figures. You shouldn't debate with them, you shouldn't try to question what they do just shut up and do what you are told. I feel that it is overall a very harmful way to go about treating children as it warps their mindset to being a lesser-than and nothing more. Children should be encouraged to ask questions in general. I'm not saying kids know everything but stop trying to shut them up.
For me the title of the thread applies to authority figures in general. We are able to learn way more outside of school then in school but the mentality is you're not supposed to question the teacher and just do the work. Don't question authority is what many people are taught and when kids rebel against that they are punished. They grow up and still maintain that mindset.
I remember being in school and I questioned something the teacher said and other students were telling me to shut up and going "This dude trying to argue with the teacher
." I wish I could remember the subject but that situation bothered me, that way of thinking makes it seem like kids are inherently dumb by default. At least in comparison to the teacher(authority). It frustrated me more than it should have, "Just do your work. Why are you trying to argue with the teacher? Just do what she says."There are many things the school won't even teach you and points in history are deemed not as important to talk about. For example I didn't learn about black wall-street until after I graduated, as that apparently wasn't seen as important to talk about
.Kids are taught to 'fall in line' to sit down and shut up and not question authority figures. You shouldn't debate with them, you shouldn't try to question what they do just shut up and do what you are told. I feel that it is overall a very harmful way to go about treating children as it warps their mindset to being a lesser-than and nothing more. Children should be encouraged to ask questions in general. I'm not saying kids know everything but stop trying to shut them up.
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You were a child. Da fukk did you know bout real fukking life?
K.O.N.Y
Superstar
Groanman
Superstar
Hey! I appreciate that. Peace and blessings to you
K.O.N.Y
Superstar
na breh not even close
Cacs and other groups send their kids to schools where teachers can beat their ass