Right, I didn't say it didn't exist in other races - but we are talking about our race -- Black. That is what this thread is about.
Sure, but those teens and women who became single mothers - usually do not have or know about having healthy boundaries and don't know what a real relationship is and what one really looks like -- and are looking for love and validation from a man. Sadly, that leads them to other damaged men who are just like them or not emotionally available and fronting like they want more.
I truly believe, that being raised without a father in the home does lead to teens having children - and becoming single mothers or fathers.
Most of those women will tell you they wanted to be with that man and were in a relationship with them. Not just out there having sex to have sex. Hence, trusting that the person she has opened her legs up too is worthy.
They make a child - it doesn't matter if she decides to keep it or not -- she had it -- therefore it is that mans responsibility to help take care of it. It is mutually exclusive. Both made their bed - and lead to a child - and now they have to take care of it and be active and present in that child's life.
That's traditional - and that is what a traditional man with traditional values does.
I didn't say you said it didn't exist in other races.
I said its hard to claim its a problem when people making bad decisions exists in every race on the face of the earth since the beginning of humanity's time on earth. It isn't a black american issue, its a personal responsibility issue for the man and woman involved in poor decision making.
The same excuse you make for women I can make for the young men, but at the end of the day its a meritless excuse. Both parties have an obligation to act responsibily and if they don't they are both wrong and the cause of their problems, especially the woman since she knows she has to carry the child and a man doesn't. So its all the more reason for her to be more selective and more proactive about birth control and partner selection.
What you beleive isn't really backed by reality. The supposed fatherless black americans of the 60s and 70s, who had a higher rate of single mothers has led to lower number of single mothers and lower birth rate in total of black women for the 90s and 2000s up to a continuing decline in the 2010s. So using your own premise of current blacks being in a "problem" then reality doesn't bare out your premise. This is using your own argument by the way.
I don't care what most women will say, its irrelevant, just like its irrelevant if a guy says I love you and will be with you forever to every woman he sleeps with. As a adult you have to be responsible for your actions, stop trying to deflect and infantilize women as being actors who can't be held accountable for their choices and actions.
Not traditional at all, traditional women don't have sex til they are married, they don't sleep around and open their legs up to anyone. They get a husband build a establish security at home and then have children with their husband. So like I said off the bat, you are arguing for traditoinal values or traditional roles. You are arguing for a modern concept of women being able to sleep around and have sexual freedom, but getting mad at the result men getting sex and forgoing marriage and some women being irresponsible and having unprotected sex, getting pregnant and then complaining about the man not staying.