He took a new young thang thang sir
"My Husband Let Me Take a Year Off From Our Marriage — Here's What Happened"
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Field Marshall Bradley
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I don't think he had a choice in the matter...
It was either that or being alone...... cause it sounds like she had her mind made up about what she was going to do....
Youseenmywork
KING
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Why even bother staying married?
She knew she wanted to be a hoe...
There was never any "Going back to being married"...fukkin stupid cac bish...you ain't foolin no one but other miserable cac bishes...
She knew she wanted to be a hoe...
There was never any "Going back to being married"...fukkin stupid cac bish...you ain't foolin no one but other miserable cac bishes...
I don't think he had a choice in the matter...
He had a choice to leave if he didn't like it. But he choose to stay and participate.
But she left anyways a woman wanted to fukk around and STILL have the Security of a marriage!!!!
these bytches not foolin anyone nowadays.
Field Marshall Bradley
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Absolutely..... Very few men that have invested 20 years in a relationship are walking away from it.... unless they're completely in love with someone else...... It damn sure wouldn't be to "find themselves"
The Devil's Advocate
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fukked 12 people in a year and people out here still think cause some piece of paper you should be together for 100 yearsMy Husband Let Me Take a Year Off From Our Marriage — Here's What Happened
The results of the experiment were unexpected to say the least.
By Brie Schwartz
SEP 6, 2016
We think it's fair to say that every married gal gets a little antsy on occasion and Robin Rinaldi, author The Wild Oats Project, is no exception. But unlike those of us who simply wonder what it would be like to take a break from our husbands — Rachel and Ross style — Rinaldi actually acted on it.
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After being hitched to her spouse, Scott Mansfield, for 18 years, she made the critical decision to enter into a year-long open marriage so that she could experience life (and by life we mean sex) with other people.
Rinaldi, 51, who lives in San Francisco, says that she and Mansfield, a brewer and wine-maker, were "stuck in a rut." She told the New York Post, "Our once-a-week sex life was loving, but lacked spontaneity and passion."
But, unimaginative sex isn't what convinced Rinaldi to try her experiment, and ultimately write a book about it. She says that she finally reached a breaking point in her early thirties when she realized that despite years of pleading, Mansfield would never be willing to have a child with her.
She wrote in The Wild Oats Project, "I refuse to go to my grave with no children and only four lovers ... If I can't have one, I must have the other."
"I reached a point that a lot of us face in midlife where I was about to have an affair. I knew I was going to cheat, or we were going to get a divorce and something had to change. And I figured if I was going to do it, I was going to be fair and give him the freedom. I knew it was a long shot," she explains.
And now for the terms: Rinaldi rented an apartment where she lived from Monday through Friday. There she was allowed to court as many suitors as she liked. On the weekends, she returned to her husband and they lived like a happily married couple without asking each other what or who they did during the week.
"It wasn't as strange as you might imagine. I liked it. It was the perfect balance, living on my own during the week and then returning home," she writes. "We had sex as always and the open marriage spiced things up — at least at first."
The few conditions were that they had to practice safe sex, could't sleep with mutual friends, and had to avoid "serious" relationships. Perfectly reasonable clauses, though they were all violated.
Rinaldi, who had been off the market for awhile, began her exploits by posting an ad on nerve.com. Within one day, she had 23 offers.
Her first paramour was a 40-year-old lawyer but she quickly moved on to younger men. She recalls texting her hubby goodnight from a Las Vegas hotel room immediately after a 23-year-old guy left her bed.
Over all, she had 12 encounters. Two were with women, one of them was a threesome.
After her trial year of condoned dalliances was up, however, Rinaldi and her husband struggled to make their marriage work.
"Moving back home full time proved more difficult than I had thought. After you open up a marriage and experience a whole range of sexual variety and aspects of yourself you've never had before, it's hard to put everything back in the box. You're changed."
"Suddenly I found an updated version of myself. The person I was at 44 was so much different than the woman I'd been when I was last single at 26. She was less shy, more confident, wilder."
Mansfield, had changed too. For nearly six months he had been exclusively seeing one woman, who happened to be younger than Rinaldi but she says that didn't bother her.
She wrote: 'The turning point was hearing from Alden [one of the men she had slept with]. He sent me an e-mail, out of the blue, several months after the project had come to an end. Before long, we were having sex again. Being with him was exquisite. After reconnecting with Alden and falling deeply in love with him, there was no going back."
Robin says she's grateful for the experience of being married to Mansfield. "But for now," she continues, "For for this part of my life, I believe being with someone who is the most temperamentally like me is where I can learn more."
Rinaldi has been with Alden (monogamously) for the past five years. And Mansfield, who has since found a new partner, has been a good sport about her book. He said, "You have to write it. If you write it well, it won't really be about us, it will be about lots of marriages."
When asked if she'd recommend this experiment to other married women, Rinaldi told REDBOOK. "Not if they want to stay married."
But her biggest takeaway? "Passion comes in many forms and the passion I was looking for at first, which I imagined I'd get from motherhood, and then I thought I'd get through new lovers, I was able to find in other ways — from friendships with women. From creativity. But the key is to find that passion for yourself and not expect it to all come from your partner."
Although she's happy with Alden, Rinaldi says she doesn't believe in happy endings. "All I can say is life is a process and I'm a larger, more complete, more fulfilled woman now."
My Husband Let Me Take a Year Off From Our Marriage — Here's What Happened
yea fukking right... nature says fukk whoever you feeling... you can't cage that shyt with a ring... she'd have cheated either way and he went and found him a young broad
but according to the coli women, we just young and immature and don't understand the virtues of marriage... no thanks... no reason to risk half my worth on a 60 year bet
But she left anyways a woman wanted to fukk around and STILL have the Security of a marriage!!!!
That's obvious but he was right there with her fukking some chick and his wife. Dude is not a victim. 2 adults tired something in their marriage and it did not work out. That's it. Ya'll love to make men seem like children.
Youseenmywork
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sad truth is MOST MARRIED WOMEN feel this way.....they find MARRIAGE stifling and repetitive....
the only reason they stay married is for the SECURITY and they don't want the STIGMA of being a insensetive slut bucket to thier husband and children...
i just had to hear the "testimony" of a good friend of mine whose woman PACKED UP EVERYTHING and moved her and the kids out to california to be closer to her "Jumpofff/lover" after 12 years of marriage...
homie ain't do nothing wrong...great dude no cheating ..no beating on her...even paid all her school debts and bought her a BMW truck...
these HOES get complacent aka BORED.......and feel they have only one life to live and all the institution of marriage is enslaving them
i know it personally myself...i just got hit up by the wife of a minister who wants to reignite our "affair" because her "husband" is too conservative in the bed...... smh
even though this man has done it all for her...bought her a home ..financed her business....
mane.................SOCIETY LIED TO US THINKING WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT THAN MEN...that's a LIE
morally they GIVE NO FUKKS....and they BEEN TRYING TO GET IT HOW THEY LIVE.... so betta get yo mind right
Men have to adapt or DIE. It just that simple. I have an uncle who is losing his wife of 15 yrs because she wants to be young again. My pops is a preacher and told me I guess men have to find a way to protect themselves. Anyway I told my uncle just to divorce her and put his focuse on the kids. People used to say I was crazy for putting myself first in all aspects of life now nikkas in the family is coming around. Women are diffrent than the Era my 90yr old grandmother grew up in .
For the record I talk to her about not getting married ...and she agrees and she agrees with about 80 percent of the things I say about women. Then she proceed to put me up on more game .
So you would have stayed then and did what he did?
No one said he was... But she's a flat out whore. her whole explanation for her to do this was to fukk other PEOPLE PERIOD....and she still wanted to stay married!!!!
turned around and said the marriage still aint working after SHE decided to go out and fukk 12 people... absolutely disgusting... Oh and let me add the husband was out there and only found him ONE side piece.... She chose to fukk around and didnt even have the decency to file for divorce like a decent human being on some scumbag shyt. it's a deflection tactic to make herself look good in the article.
Kenny West
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lol nikka pleaseDont we do the same thing as men? I mean we go out the country and we're on top of foreign brawds like white on rice. We also often find ourselves between the thighs of another woman who isnt our wives..
We're only human. ANd i dont blame us for it. I blame the fact that traditional marriages are too restrictive. You call these women whores well perhaps it's natural for humans to whore around. Could you imagine living life the way man's bible intended? Having been with just one woman all you life?
To me thats a prison sentence that never ends.
You're speaking for a lot of men who don't even get into the bolded. But even the ones who are aren't trying to dress it up as some enlightening journey of self discovery, they're just fukking hoes nothing more.
Nobody is forcing you or her to get married. If the thought of one person for life is too restrictive then just don't do it. But to straight up lie on your vows after all the time money and emotion invested is just...ugh.
As for the last sentence, don't be so damn dramatic it's just sex. Most of the world is living like that and according to studies they're far happier than americans as a whole. Say what you want about religious society (including islam) but their rules help uphold a functioning society on a macro level.