Married and Divorced twice before 30.
- Thread starter General Mills
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That's guilt talking. That's a very naive stance to take if you believe "anything can happen in life." That's his way of rationalizing talking to the family and being close to her.
It's not about if she would've "met that man." You have to look at it like, if he reacted that way with his ex wife after he left her, if she got in a car accident while they were together that resulted in the same type of damage, he would NEEEEEEVER have gotten that divorce.
The moral of both of these stories, in my opinion, outside of the obvious shyt like date, learn, and grow with your partner before you get married, has to be that you can always get out of a marriage, you can never get out of being a parent. And for that, he's probably one of the smartest/luckiest dudes on this forum.
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But she HAD met him while they were married and he could have been plotting on her anyways... Predators do this. He could have broken in the house while @General Mills was at work and attacked her. There's no telling that he wouldn't have attacked her anyways.
nubianqueenbee
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One thing I have learned in this world, is that are far as relationships go there are two types of people:givers and takers. The bad thing about givers and takers are that they can never get together. Very rarely will you find a giver with a giver, or a taker with a taker. A giver 99% of the time will end up with a taker. As a giver, I have come to realize that takers will drain your very soul if you let them. Oh, they'll take little steps towards acting like they are being truly giving and considerate of you-just enough to keep you in the game. These people will suck the very life out of your soul, and then move on to their next victim. OP, you are a giver. There's a woman out there for you, just make sure she's a giver, not a taker.
So you're saying whether or not they divorced, she was going to end up getting nearly beat to death anyway
So you're saying whether or not they divorced, she was going to end up getting nearly beat to death anyway
Are you kidding me? Did you not just see that I just said a car accident/another traumatic event?
He only got close to her because she was single. The thing that stopped him was he was clean at the time and her marriage.
A car accident in which she only had broken kneecaps, that would have healed. Sounds like your ready to leave a marriage at the slightest inconvenience.
General Mills
More often than not I tend to take that L.
You said it PERFECTLY! I was beating around the bush trying to describe exactly that. I know I am a giver. . Which can be labeled a simp. Or a sucker in the wrong circumstance. . If I am with you I am with you and I truly don't mind. What is mine is yours. After a LOT of hard lumps I figured out there are people who love to gravitate to that and eat off you. Literally human leeches.
General Mills
More often than not I tend to take that L.
I think he might mean the other car accident when she got hit by the flower truck. I know me. . If she would have . . say for example suffered brain damage in that accident. Nah I would not have left her. We would have just figured it out. If we had kids. . I would have been super sucking that shyt up. I would not have left either.
Now. . It WAS easier to leave because we did not have a bond with kids, and she was not seriously hurt at the time. I in essence did have an OUT. I will not lie though. . I felt guilty about breaking the vows. Of course later I felt extra crappy after it all went down.
Truthfully no one can blame you for thinking like this. You have guys still mad at Lil Kiesha from the 3rd grade rejecting their valentines card. You've been through real shyt and the fact that you don't even seem bitter like a lot of people would is a testament to your laid back and good guy nature.
I wouldnt say im the female version of you but i know what its like just being that person that doesnt make a big deal about things, is very patient and just over all a positive and laid back. You have a good heart and i'm sorry you had to go through all that shyt. One of the things i hate the most is people using other people. For some of us we dont even consider it using because people pleasing is part of our nature. I think it's why you arent as bitter because it's just how you are. I literally have to talk myself into saying no to people sometimes. It's even worse when you know you are being taken advataged of.
I hope you really find someone that can appreciate your nature and not use that against you. But i completely understand why you would look at any woman suspiciously and why it would be hard not to take them serious.
Them fukked up hoes always messing up the good guys
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A predator is NOT going to stop because a woman is married. He saw her at yard sales, he was interested. He could have easily stalked her, broke in and attacked her. I have seen this type of thing go down. If a woman is married and her husband is at work, the predator will still strike, ESPECIALLY if he is high and fixated on her.
General Mills
More often than not I tend to take that L.
My dude!
I have been thru it all. Glad to share with my brehs! These chicks . . Just be careful homie. 
Dawg, that last story hit a brother in the heart man. I felt that pain.
May the many L's you've taken in life coalesce into the most victorious W of all time my coli brehthren. We're rooting for ya.
Double salute to the homie G Mills.
May the many L's you've taken in life coalesce into the most victorious W of all time my coli brehthren. We're rooting for ya.
Double salute to the homie G Mills.