lol and how are we indirectly responsible for this? Do you see this?
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To some degree we are but the root of the issue is white supremacy. This is largely an economic issue. This isn't the industrial age of the 30s, 40s and 50s. Today, marriage is economic-based or it doesn't work effectively. Obviously, that harms Blacks the most for the obvious reason of being the primary victims/targets of white supremacy. This doesn't mean that their points are unsound or unfounded.
The biggest issues I heard from BW is BM who are marriage material from guys who do have the economics to do it. Which is, are Black folks raising Black men who want to be seen or want to be pillars in the community. My belief from personal experience is a lot of BM have flawed pillars as role models. This harms us collectively if every BW has terrible experiences with BM on average. If you go to a restaurant and it's mostly trash, you will be like, fukk Dennys, their food is cold, it sucks, the service is trash, I ain't going back to there again. Just the way we do things in America. We don't do shyt like, this place is Black-owned, even those the service is trash, food is awful, and these nikkas are never on time, I will continue to give them my hard-earned dollars. Said no one ever, here, on the Islands, in African nations, where ever.
I think there is something that has to be said about how we date. I have been saying we can't date like cacs for the last 12 years. I keep harping on it. I keep saying it's toxic and white people can do it because they function best off toxicity. We don't. We function best off of love, understanding, value system, code, morals, and respect. A lot of that is currently NOT in the dating game. If you respect some of these women, they will walk over you like a bear and maul you. You respect these nikkas, they will have you buying them food to bring for him and the next one that's coming in an hour to kick-it with. The lack of respect, value, morals, and love we share between each other dating is so toxic, it doesn't make sense why we do it? Is it cause that's what the cacs do?
On top of that, we can't be Steph Curry's either. I know a couple Harvard grads and Hampton grads that got married in the early 20's right out of college and none of them made it all of the way. It's not POSSIBLE for us to get married at a young age and for it to work effectively. Why? We just aren't ready in today's high economic world even if we have a good job or career. We must be mental and emotionally mature to go into that type of union. It doesn't matter how square you or she is. Frances Cress-Welsing said the age BM/BW should get married is 28 while Neely Fuller says Black men and Black women should never get married in a system of white supremacy as we are not men or women but an actual rights stance. I think FCW is more reasonable as she actually understands the female psyche and not just the logical psyche many BM function under especially Neely.
So do we as BM have a responsibility in this? Yes. Do BW? Yes.
How do we fix it? I don't know. When Blacks in the 70s and 80s started to follow whites ways of doing things, we picked up a lot of their bad traits and not too many of their good traits. We felt being white was what being American was when being white was being a fukking fukkup and getting away with it with impunity. We can't and couldn't do that. We got lost around the way as a collective. So if BP want to fix our issues.
It starts with love, understanding, value system, code, morals, and respect of each other on every level of activity. How is this done when everyone Black wants to be white even if they don't think it because they been doing it subconsciously for so long, I don't know. We all have, including me. We all picked up things from our master. How can we not? He gave us his movies, his TV shows, his TV shows where he produce and we act, his feelings, his takes, and sounds, his sympathy for his people and women but no tears for us. We have all picked up on it. It doesn't matter if it's here in America, in Haiti, in Nigeria, in England, we all got a dose of the shyt he's selling. So if we want to make a change, we have to understand we are all sick. Deeply sick. Each and every one of us.