Great thread breh
I had almost 4 years to this date 2 lesbians living with me for 4 months between college break for all of us. I worked during the day, they sat inside and chilled/smoked and house duties. Both had males approaching them or making advancements to them.
I've noticed these several aspects.
Looks
Gender Roles
Gender issues and separation, communication issues
Influences - if a woman around you is a lesbian it might linger to some other woman whether that's friends, siblings, etc
Some are naturally lesbians, or heavily bisexual to one side. Meaning they find more intimacy from woman better than they find man. The dominant one in their relationship only needed dikk or a male perspective while engaging with me while the other one, who probably is more into man than woman, looked for an emotional connection, tried to be more nurturing and given to her gf and myself.
Looks & Upbringing - What I've picked up from both - the more dominant one had complexion issues, had issues within herself that she couldn't fix correctly so she did what man in similar situations did (my guess was this is learned from father and brother figures). The other one had issues with her upbringing, not understanding how to deal with man and resorted to choosing a woman later on in life. You see through her transitions has a straight woman and lesbian woman.
There is also the power dynamic, where a lot of woman today grow up with mothers with attitude to be in control of their relationship or move the dynamic and that leaks into their relationships. Then there are those who are raised by fathers who were abusive physically and especially emotionally. Some woman do not want to fill in the gender role, they didn't grow up filling the gender role. So they look at other woman to fulfill those roles.
Dating man - It was clear to me that the dominant girlfriend made it up in her mind she wasn't going to get the kind of man that she really wanted, so being a lesbian would fix her issue with the black man she prefer. This branched out to other parts of her life which I notice was a constant trend of avoiding the truth and creating avenues to exist without confronting herself. The non-dominant one (secretly was just power struggle or controlling) clearly had a history of failure with guys, and single mother who devalued her ex-husband even if he was the true provider, moved like her mother.
Heavily feminist when they want but all woman and be a man when they choose. Flip flop kind of shyt. Understand the dynamic of black people and white influence but low-key are pro-white themselves.
Influence - Trendy, a close someone to one of them did some lesbian actions with her close friend. Why? because they can and it's accepted
I learned a lot that year. Let me not tell you how it ended for both of them
It was destined from the start but I didn't know exactly how. A woman looking at another woman to man up with responsibilities or hold sense when it's needed between a partnership is a fatal L coming
