This and what
@HARLEM AL alluded to is all very true.
Except that there's no escaping anything. White men ain't about to magically turn any black person white via proxy, nor is a change in lifestyle a substitute for justice. You are who you are, and chasing after anything else is simply hustling backwards. Escapism will never fill that gap.
As regards black women's capacity for struggle, I think you're way off and would be very surprised. These new heffalumpians aren't built for it, that's fair...because all rebellion is literally being bred out of them, and that's by design. But overall? They're tougher than men and always have been. What's missing is purpose. They got baited with a different purpose that can never possibly fulfill them, and wound up off in the weeds.
This is purely defeatist thinking.