Ladies: have you gone to a guy's house specifically to chill?

[Fun Sized Psycho]

The first time I went to someone's place to chill, I was under the impress that we were literally just going to hangout/chill. I was 22 and the guy that I planned to chill with was someone that I saw on a weekly basis through our free poker league. Everything was cool until he suddenly wanted to give me a massage and go back to his room. I left immediately.

We were still cool/friendly when we saw each other at poker, but he never tried to chill with me again.

I made it clear to ever guy after that situation that I am not down to fukk so if that is why you want to chill then you are wasting your time. In the two years that I lived in ATL, I only "chilled" with two other guys besides the poker guy and didn't sleep with either of them (but they knew the deal and didn't even try).

Women need to learn to not be so accommodating (especially early on when you don't know the guy's intentions).

Women also need to learn to stand their ground, not be afraid to say what they are not willing to do, and not be afraid of losing out on a guy/guy friend because they aren't loose.

I for got to mention in my other post, that whenever I chilled with a guy (except my bf) I text them letting them know we weren't going to have sex, so if anything happened I would have PROOF that I had no intention on having sex.

That's why I'm not friends with the guy anymore. He thought he'd be able to sweet talk me out of my panties. Smh
It sucked because up until that night, I really thought he and I were friends.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

I'm surprise some of y'all fell for the line

 

[blackdahlia]

Like others, I don't go over to chill at men's houses unless I plan on having sex. I will say there are a few exceptions to this, but they are few and far between. Like my very good guy friends.

I had to learn this difference after college. In the dorms, we'd all just chill wherever, but I learned quick once I got in the real world.

 

[Skrt Angle]

I remember going to dudes house to chill, eat and smoke. However my mission was to stock up and bounce. Honestly cos I was broke and bored.

Never slept with em or anything. I heard a few horror stories tho. I now realise I was lucky cos those guys cared about me and I was demonic.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

Thinking i might tomorrow....

 

[Milk N Cookies]

When I was growing up it literally meant TO CHILL.

Thats all i meant when i would ask a guy. I want to hang out NO fukking of any sort.

 

[Raava]

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[Nobodyknows]

 

[GoFlipAPack]

The first time I went to someone's place to chill, I was under the impress that we were literally just going to hangout/chill. I was 22 and the guy that I planned to chill with was someone that I saw on a weekly basis through our free poker league. Everything was cool until he suddenly wanted to give me a massage and go back to his room. I left immediately.

We were still cool/friendly when we saw each other at poker, but he never tried to chill with me again.

I made it clear to ever guy after that situation that I am not down to fukk so if that is why you want to chill then you are wasting your time. In the two years that I lived in ATL, I only "chilled" with two other guys besides the poker guy and didn't sleep with either of them (but they knew the deal and didn't even try).

Women need to learn to not be so accommodating (especially early on when you don't know the guy's intentions).

Women also need to learn to stand their ground, not be afraid to say what they are not willing to do, and not be afraid of losing out on a guy/guy friend because they aren't loose.

Prude

 

[BlackMagnus514]

If i invite a chick over to chill, it's for obvious reasons.

If she doesnt want to come that's on her, but an adult female should know that men inviting you over to "chill" is him trying to bone you.

I invited a chick over last night to chill because it was raining, she's been to my crib before, but nothing happened. So i ask her if she wants to sleep over, she says she doesn't know....that said, i curved her. I stopped taking her out because she said her ex got her upset one night. Since then, i only invite her over.

No sense in investing time/money in a woman that's still emotionally invested in her ex.

 

[360dagod]

You really think nikkas gonna spend a late night with you to talk about life and watch tv?

If we dont do this, we gotta hear the u think im a hoe shyt...so we gotta play the "game"
Any female that wants me to spend the night/vice versa, im going for the guts

If we try to fukk and you not feeling the situation, we in the wrong

If we dont try, then the insecurities come out and then its oh he's gay or he wasnt "man"enough...



But we dont know what the fukk yall want in the 1st place

Im going for the guts...If the friendship ends over me doing what most nikkas would do, you didnt want the friendship in the 1st place

 

[Cat piss martini]

I get a kick outta broads getting comfortable,
kicking off heels,laying across my bed,taking in my
surroundings,drinking,laughing,watching movies
and that look of utter confusion when I dont make
a move for draws........aint no better way to get a woman
naked like not trying to get her naked.

 

[agnosticlady]

This is a great question, do yall really go over with ONLY the intention of chillin... or do yall plan to chill but in the back of your head you thinking....if sex happens

Unless we are good friends and I trust him I do not go over to a mans house to chill. If a man ask's me to come over and chill as a date and we are not in a relationship/engaged I will automatically say no..... Also when I am over at someone's house whether they are male or female I rarely accept drinks unless there are other people there. There are women that will set a woman up to get raped by another man or woman. I had a friend that got raped in her own house when she invited her guy friend over to play video games and watch movies. I know that the vast majority of men are not rapist, but I am very cautious of the situations I choose to put myself in.

 

[KinksandCoils]

I barely drink so I've never been drunk before. In order for me to get messed up I would literally have to be poisoned. I wouldn't be around a guy like that, that I didn't know or trust. When I would hang out with my friend I made sure I didn't drink around her really because she is a light weight and I had to look out for her and me sense she wanted to bring guys to her apt. She didn't know well.

Anyways chilling at the house a lot of the time something physical is gonna happen not sex but something.

 

[darealvelle]

The first time I went to someone's place to chill, I was under the impress that we were literally just going to hangout/chill. I was 22 and the guy that I planned to chill with was someone that I saw on a weekly basis through our free poker league. Everything was cool until he suddenly wanted to give me a massage and go back to his room. I left immediately.

We were still cool/friendly when we saw each other at poker, but he never tried to chill with me again.

I made it clear to ever guy after that situation that I am not down to fukk so if that is why you want to chill then you are wasting your time. In the two years that I lived in ATL, I only "chilled" with two other guys besides the poker guy and didn't sleep with either of them (but they knew the deal and didn't even try).

Women need to learn to not be so accommodating (especially early on when you don't know the guy's intentions).

Women also need to learn to stand their ground, not be afraid to say what they are not willing to do, and not be afraid of losing out on a guy/guy friend because they aren't loose.

lol what poker league you talking about in atlanta? Is it interstate?