Ladies (and lurking gents): What was the Make/Break Issue in Your Last Relationship?

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

I'm married now, but broad before my wife cheated on me with her ex and got pregnant by him. She kept it 100 and told me that it wasn't mine(and it wasn't) so I'll give her that much but I bushed her. She ended up marrying the ex, which everyone including her mama told her was a stupid ass decision.

Two years after the baby was born we saw each other at a mutual friends funeral, and she ran up and gave me a hug and told me how much she misses me and how I'm more of a man than her husband(apparently old boy is controlling and verbally abusive and can't get a better job cause all he wanna do is smoke weed all day). I kind of knew I wasn't gonna take her THAT serious no way she was cute but she was cute in a fun girl way, I took the news more like and than or when she told me cause apparently the nikka is a true bum.

She wanted to get back with me said she'll leave her old man and everything, but my wife was there and pulled up and one look at my wife and she knew she had no chance(old girl was cute don't get me wrong, but my wife still was an upgrade over her in everyway) and she kept it pushing. She still be posting them vague but obvious facebook meme's that low key show she depressed and getting cheated on and neglected/abused. Oh well I don't wish her no ill, but I aint no captain save a hoe neither.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Getting cheated on again. Enough was enough

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

not tryna play Devil's Advocate or anything, but.....were you planning on dippin on breh if the moves you made started to come into fruition, and his didnt?

Nah. I was reassuring him time after time, that if he was with it I was with it.

But I learned a really hard lesson about trying to love somebody beyond their insecurities. You can’t do it. He was determined in his head that I was too “goody, goody”. The more I tried to reassure him, the more he resented me.
When I was a depressed teacher, underworked and overpaid, eating and drinking myself into an early grave, coming home in tears damn near every day, he felt like he had a role he could play in my life.

When I legit said “fukk this shyt”, cursed out my principal, took the GRE, applied and got accepted to a PhD program, he began to change as I was on my grind. Little shyt like not being there to celebrate my acceptance, or saying shyt like “if u move after we graduate we might as well break up”..., allowing his BM to cross boundaries.
I was still trying to be positive and supportive. He’d mentioned going back to school b/c it would be free as he was ex-military. I got his transcripts for him, helped him with the application, but it seemed like the more positive I was, the more resentful he became. He wanted me to be messy and drama-filled and dysfunctional to give him a role as somebody fixing a problem to help him feel some type of leverage over me.

Eventually when none of that worked, he started upping the ante. Little shyt trying to get a response. The response he got from me was NOT what he was expecting. When I confirmed he was cheating, we broke up but we were still living together until the end of our lease.
The fukkery that ensued.
Anyhoo, God moved in my life and blessed me with a HUGE chunk of money. He tried to start an argument with me and enough was enough. I basically broke him down completely. I confronted him with shyt I understood about him that he didn’t wanna admit to anybody. Dude was so shook that he had the face. I was going for blood and tears by that time.
He said nobody ever broke him down like that. Then I put him out and I was done. He still tries to get at me sometimes till this very day.

 

[Neuromancer]

She was raised by a man hating grandmother and mother and it rubbed off on her.

 

[GhettoTeK]

He was too jealous. Went thru my phone everyday. Didn’t want me going anywhere without him. Would even get jealous if I cuddled our pets for more than a few minutes. Way too possessive treated me like I was his property. Sent me a WYD text at least every half hour.

Supposedly Aries men are always like this but it was so unattractive And inexcusable

I spitted my ice cream out at the cuddling pots part glad u left girl. He wouldve harmed your pets

 

[CinnaSlim]

Relocation.
He couldn't come with me because of finances and his family.