A lot of them just wanted to make a lot of money to finance their lifestyles until they get married. The shopping, the city living, the brunches, the girl trips, etc. That's why they went for the advanced degrees. Because advanced degrees = more money. Most of them are not passionate about the things they are doing for a living. I know a lot of professional woman who hate their jobs.
Once they get married, in their minds, all of their needs should fall on their husband, financially. For them, that's one of the purposes of having a husband. Otherwise, in their minds, what's the use? They can already support themselves, financially.
The definition of provider has shifted in American culture. Provider meant something different back in the day. A man providing meant providing food, clothing, housing, leadership and protection to a family. Which included his woman.
Now, providing means doing all of the traditional stuff of years past, but also absorbing the spending she did prior to entering a union with you. So, you need to be able to provide the traditional plus her excess.
If your salary cannot support that, she does not see you as a provider in the modern sense. She sees you as a roommate!
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