Exactly. Dudes need to learn to differentiate between someone you have fun with and who you commit to. We often commit to “fun girls” because she is around us and end up wasting both of our time long term.
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Exactly. Dudes need to learn to differentiate between someone you have fun with and who you commit to. We often commit to “fun girls” because she is around us and end up wasting both of our time long term.
I give her credit for putting herself out there for over a million people to see and hope for the best.
"I have a small business and am pursuing a career in Real Estate" just sounds cliche and a parallel move rather than a vertical move. Thats okay at 24, but at 32 guys want to know you are doing something that can be measured in real dollars like women do with men (Accountant, Engineer, etc).
Not because we are trying to get their money or go 50/50, but to justify why they're still on the market in their 30's, which also means you're probably only getting 1 kid, 2 if you're lucky.
"I have a small business and am pursuing a career in Real Estate" just sounds cliche and a parallel move rather than a vertical move. Thats okay at 24, but at 32 guys want to know you are doing something that can be measured in real dollars like women do with men (Accountant, Engineer, etc).
Not because we are trying to get their money or go 50/50, but to justify why they're still on the market in their 30's, which also means you're probably only getting 1 kid, 2 if you're lucky.
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I get the point.
Ole girl may have had a session with Kevin, and got the therapy so he may know first hand about her intentions, but as stated, he could have elaborated a lil more on why he felt that she's a person of interest. We don't know if she's feminine or kind.
Looking at the picture and reading the bio/info, she's no different from the chick shopping for tilapia/salmon and asparagus in Target who looks like her
I get the point.
Ole girl may have had a session with Kevin, and got the therapy so he may know first hand about her intentions, but as stated, he could have elaborated a lil more on why he felt that she's a person of interest. We don't know if she's feminine or kind.
Looking at the picture and reading the bio/info, she's no different from the chick shopping for tilapia/salmon and asparagus in Target who looks like her
Exactly. Once again I wish her the best, BUT Kev Has set the precedence of men looking at things in a analytical manner, and he bio is written like it was meant to impress other women not men.
Figuring out who you are and what you want to do at 18-24 is fine. But like Kev has mentioned older women tend to have experienced alot (thus they are harder to “impress”), so to make it to 32 but still show signs of “figuring it out” to many would be a red flag.
when you’re in the danger zone time is money and both sides are expected to move quickly. Based on her bio there is way too much risk to use Kevins 6 month rule (if you even agree with it, which I dont).
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They just dont get it, yea it sounds misogynistic but all those credentials dont mean a thing to the HVM they’re pursuing. To them you pursuing a business is just extra baggage and less time to attend to the potential family setting. All the financials are already covered.
If that women was looking for a man who wants a business arrangement that would be better suited
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Some of you all are taking this shyt too far 
The lady really doesn't align with KS message. But I think she's more of the reality of what most men would be happy to have for the most part. Finding a 21 y/o who is attractive, fit, childless but ready to be married is gonna be rare. I think she's a good choice. Nothing wrong with that lady from what is presented.
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I think you are correct. Most HVM I know of marry women who at minimum have some sort of ambition. I only know of one who had a wife that was okay with her just strickly taking care of the home. And even with him, once the children went off to college he left her and started dating a woman more on his level. These type of men are very intelligent and know idle hands are a devil's workshop. You can look as Steph Curry, Will Smith etc. They are HVM but their women still have their own business, pursue philanthropy etc. The idea that HVM just want young pretty dummies isn't true for the vast majority.
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Yo chill with them mug shots
I don’t frequent the group often but I just looked. There are still a lot of guys that post. I know a lot of Black physician couples and my GF is a Black Doctor so I would be careful about generalizing. Especially when you are implying that the problem is wrong with the Black Women Doctors. There a ton of dope Black Women Doctors the problem is that there’s just not enough Black guy doctors. I also know a large amount of Black Male doctors who date out. Imo, way too much casual Black Women bashing in this thread.
Funny how a thread on this dude focuses on what he says about Women instead of what he says to Men. How many Men in this thread are truly chasing their purpose? Our Black Women are facing major challenges but I don’t understand the deriving of pleasure from their troubles. Whatever affects Black Women negatively will eventually affect the Black community negatively. This simple fact seems to be lost to a lot of people in this thread. Black Women and Black Men are inextricably linked.
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Yeah I hear you, but I presumed he would focus on women who fit both the surface and substantive elements of his message. A lot of Black male straddlers end up giving too much leeway to cute lightskin joints because of aesthetic preferences.
He went away from focusing on the class and cultural capital factors, which may be because that type of conversation would potentially limit his reach.
