@Balla to be fair
we’re all victims of white supremacy.
As you said, when it comes to aesthetics, dark skinned men ‘tend’ to get more of a pass because dark skin is seen as masculine.
Black women have had to deal with the “masculine” label due to feminism and CAC propaganda. So we can’t ignore centuries of the Black woman’s femininity being stripped away.
That being said, we can’t ignore how in the 80s, light skin was in and brehs with the good hair were sex symbols. Dark skinned men being seen as a sex symbol didn’t really take off until Nino Brown shanked Christopher Williams in the hand.
But there is definitely a double standard. Especially on social media because it’s made to pander to the “woe is me” diaspora whilst these male simps co-sign their bird babble.