Just how important is confidence to you?

[The Mad Titan]

So last week me and the fam(sisters, bro in law, and cousins) was sitting around talking about how women find confidence very attractive even its blind confidence.


So I asked the question would they prefer a man that displayed full confidence in everything he did in life but didn't feel like he needed a woman (them) in his life (still loved them) or a man that was half as confident but felt like they need a woman (them) in there life.

The answer's I got were pretty interesting, and aligned with certain personality types is what I noticed



How do you ladies feel ?

 

[VFib]

Hmmm, not sure I completely understand the question (think it's the wording: Need vs Want), but....

I don't expect anyone to be 100% confident about everything in life. I just don't like a man or anyone to play a victim role. "I can't get a good job because of the white man", "The white man is the reason that I have to resort to selling drugs"

As far a needing a woman in his life, I think I can understand that I may not necessarily be NEEDED in a man's life, but I sure want to feel WANTED in his life.

I do know that I don't want a man being emotional dependent on me, as in I don't want to be the one who has to encourage him to have to do everything. I want him to already have the drive to WANT to do things.

I'm inexperienced when it comes to men/relationships, so I'm not sure if I'm making any sense in my answer.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

Hmmm, not sure I completely understand the question (think it's the wording: Need vs Want), but....

I don't expect anyone to be 100% confident about everything in life. I just don't like a man or anyone to play a victim role. "I can't get a good job because of the white man", "The white man is the reason that I have to resort to selling drugs"

As far a needing a woman in his life, I think I can understand that I may not necessarily be NEEDED in a man;s life, but I sure want to feel WANTED in his life.

I do know that I don't want a man being emotional dependent on me, as in I do';t want to be the one who has to encourage him to have to do everything. I want him to already have the drive to WANT to do things.

I'm inexperienced when it comes to men/relationships, so I'm not sure if I'm making any sense in my answer.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Hmmm, not sure I completely understand the question (think it's the wording: Need vs Want), but....

I don't expect anyone to be 100% confident about everything in life. I just don't like a man or anyone to play a victim role. "I can't get a good job because of the white man", "The white man is the reason that I have to resort to selling drugs"

As far a needing a woman in his life, I think I can understand that I may not necessarily be NEEDED in a man;s life, but I sure want to feel WANTED in his life.

I do know that I don't want a man being emotional dependent on me, as in I do';t want to be the one who has to encourage him to have to do everything. I want him to already have the drive to WANT to do things.

I'm inexperienced when it comes to men/relationships, so I'm not sure if I'm making any sense in my answer.

I used to have a shyt confidence when I was younger but I think I know why

 

[VFib]

I used to have a shyt confidence when I was younger but I think I know why

As long as you know why, and have worked on it...

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

As long as you know why, and have worked on it...

Ya when I grew about 11inches and started to regularly drink my milk

Automatic confidence

 

[agnosticlady]

I prefer a man that is confident with himself. I understand that everyone is not 100% confident, but men who are confident in themselves and abilities is extremely sexy to me. As @VFib said I would not want a man to emotionally dependent on me, and ALWAYS need me too say encouraging words for him to do something. it becomes exasperating. I work in an environment where I have to help people with financial problems over the phone. After 70+ calls I am exasperating and shaken after having to continuously provide emotional support. Also that is a sign of insecurity and impending abuse. That man will take his frustrations out on you especially if you have an ounce of confidence.
I want to feel wanted in my mans life. I don't want to feel like you're only with me because you need me, but instead because you made the decision to be with me. We NEED sleep because it's biology, but I wonder how many of us would go out of our ways to want sleep if we did not need it and it has no effect on us.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

For me I prefer a women that is confident with herself. I understand that everyone is not 100% confident, but a women who is confident in themselves and abilities is extremely sexy to me..As @agnosticlady said I would not want a women to be emotionally dependent on me, and ALWAYS need me too say encouraging words for her to do something.

 

[agnosticlady]

For me I prefer a women that is confident with herself. I understand that everyone is not 100% confident, but a women who is confident in themselves and abilities is extremely sexy to me..As @agnosticlady said I would not want a women to be emotionally dependent on me, and ALWAYS need me too say encouraging words for her to do something.

Did you just rewrite what I said

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Did you just rewrite what I said

Great minds think the same

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Hmmm, not sure I completely understand the question (think it's the wording: Need vs Want), but....

I don't expect anyone to be 100% confident about everything in life. I just don't like a man or anyone to play a victim role. "I can't get a good job because of the white man", "The white man is the reason that I have to resort to selling drugs"

As far a needing a woman in his life, I think I can understand that I may not necessarily be NEEDED in a man;s life, but I sure want to feel WANTED in his life.

I do know that I don't want a man being emotional dependent on me, as in I do';t want to be the one who has to encourage him to have to do everything. I want him to already have the drive to WANT to do things.

I'm inexperienced when it comes to men/relationships, so I'm not sure if I'm making any sense in my answer.

I dapped before reading the whole post

 

[Slaimon Khan Shah]

I do feel super confident in a way sometimes. I love it. Most people in the streets (Denver, Colorado) look so lame, yet they're so arrogant at the same time.

 

[Luna]

There's a fine line between being okay with yourself and being arrogant. I despise arrogant people or big egos.