Just Friends?

[Rhapscallion Démone]

I don't believe ultimatums are needed. Why should a woman/guy give up their friends who was there before the s/o became a factor? I can understand a person being concerned of an s/o having new friends of the opposite sex during the relationship.

Just my opinion... I don't believe the best friend and boyfriend have to be friends but what you described sounds like the two only tolerate each other. To me is just stupid as hell to be involved with somebody and can't deal with their friends.

If they're not disrespectfull towards each other what's wrong with them just tolerating each other?

 

[Ronnie Macho]

Kavin,
I am not surprised by this coming from you.

Hey Pretty Lady,

You know I Love you!

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

I'm sure there are exceptions but to me it goes against human nature for a man and woman to be extremely close and it not drift towards something romantic.

The problem with these opinions is that people view "friends" in very different ways so the variables of why it would and wouldn't work are very subjective.

They could have a sibling like relationship
they could go waaaaaay back to when they were rugrats or they could have shared an experience that caused them to form this brother/sister bond.

 

[Taadow]

Depends on the level and basis of the friendship

Yeah.

So iono about this "close friend that you have to confide in and talk to every day" thing...

 

[Meksico]

Before I'd have said straight up no

But now I have one I'd say it's dependent upon levels and situations in a way

Tho definitely can't have a platonic girl who's a friend who's all too deeply involved like dat, there's some basic distance still

Just my off the top of my head thoughts

 

[ill_will82]

If they're not disrespectfull towards each other what's wrong with them just tolerating each other?

When I think about the word tolerate to me it means that you're not fully cool with an idea or it conflicts with your beliefs in a way, but you can be open-minded.

I didn't really want to get off deeply into this subject because its about relationships which I never seriously been in. I only responded because it was a hypothetical premise. Meaning an opinion or guess.

 

[SirReginald]

Yeah, it can happen.

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

Yeah, it can happen.

So when or if it happens would you hypothetically see it as potentially problematic like some of the other posters in here?

 

[The ADD]

They could have a sibling like relationship
they could go waaaaaay back to when they were rugrats or they could have shared an experience that caused them to form this brother/sister bond.

Very possible but I think those situations are not the norm relative to what we are talking about.

People go through life, move, create families etc. I think it's rare that they could have such a tight relationship for that long and still be in close proximity and super available to each other.

 

[SirReginald]

So when or if it happens would you hypothetically see it as potentially problematic like some of the other posters in here?

It only becomes problematic if boundaries are crossed.

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

Very possible but I think those situations are not the norm relative to what we are talking about.

People go through life, move, create families etc. I think it's rare that they could have such a tight relationship for that long and still be in close proximity and super available to each other.

You think it's rare even in this era of social media?

 

[Clark Griswold]

Men don't have female friends

Females are friends with males tho... there's a big difference between the two...

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

Men don't have female friends

Females are friends with males tho... there's a big difference between the two...

I think I get what u sayin. Correct me if I'm wrong, u saying that we can't be friendly or have a genuine friendship with a woman without there being ulterior motives

 

[Clark Griswold]

I think I get what u sayin. Correct me if I'm wrong, u saying that we can't be friendly or have a genuine friendship with a woman without there being ulterior motives

Nah...

See first you have to know what a man is and what a male is and how much different they think...

Men aren't friends with women because friends have common interests and do friendly shyt... wtf you gonna do with a woman if you aren't pursuing her? Talk about handbags and makeup? A real man is dealing with a woman he's trying to have as his woman. Now how he is trying to have her is up to the individual...

Males are friends with women because they don't know how to, or are too afraid to pursue a woman, and as a result they become "friends". And if you are friends with a woman and she knows you like her but are too scary to go for what you want, you're a bytch in her eyes...

The only type of male that is genuinely friends with a woman is a homo...

And another thing... real women know the difference between a man and a male and women. Females are friends with males, not women. A woman belongs to a man.

 

[Meksico]

Nah...

See first you have to know what a man is and what a male is and how much different they think...

Men aren't friends with women because friends have common interests and do friendly shyt... wtf you gonna do with a woman if you aren't pursuing her? Talk about handbags and makeup? A real man is dealing with a woman he's trying to have as his woman. Now how he is trying to have her is up to the individual...

Males are friends with women because they don't know how to, or are too afraid to pursue a woman, and as a result they become "friends". And if you are friends with a woman and she knows you like her but are too scary to go for what you want, you're a bytch in her eyes...

The only type of male that is genuinely friends with a woman is a homo...

And another thing... real women know the difference between a man and a male and women. Females are friends with males, not women. A woman belongs to a man.

And yet



I get it, but at the same time it's too strict a definition in some ways cause then that can be implied upon other things too with regards to gender roles etc.

Also nothing is ever 100%, there's always an outlier somewhere

Tl;dr too restrictive, not enough leeway

Interesting reasoning tho