Just Friends?

[Rhapscallion Démone]

Do you believe that men and women can be genuinely just friends? I'm talking completely platonic.

Lets say your girlfriend/boyfriend had a close friend who was the opposite sex, would you feel like there was another rooster in the hen house or another queen bee in the bee hive? They respect the boundaries of you and your girls/dudes relationship but the bond they share is very strong and hard to ignore. Like they talk to each other every day. They just have to.....it's a ritual

Lets go even further lol and say this friend was almost completely exclusive to them. You and the friend don't necessarily dislike each other but yall just ain't never really hit it off. Yall are cordial with one another because of your "love" for your significant other.

Is this a red flag or a red herring? Thoughts?

 

[Majestic]

What are youuu saying?? Theres another..

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

What are youuu saying?? Theres another..

Is there? Would you feel like there was another if you were in this hypothetical situation?

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

It's possible
But in my experience it's much more likely at least one party has more than platonic feelings for the other

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

It's possible
But in my experience it's much more likely at least one party has more than platonic feelings for the other

Were you the one caught in the middle or were u either the best friend or boyfriend?

 

[Lady.Libra.]

YES.

 

[Ronnie Macho]

YES.

NO...

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

YES.

Would u think a sista was insecure if she had a problem with her man having a close "girlfriend" that he confides in?

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

Were you the one caught in the middle or were u either the best friend or boyfriend?

Seen it from all angles
Had good female friends who liked me
I've fell for a good female friend
Had a girlfriend who I broke up with cause her guy best friend
Also seen similar situations with friends

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

Seen it from all angles
Had good female friends who liked me
I've fell for a good female friend
Had a girlfriend who I broke up with cause her guy best friend
Also seen similar situations with friends

So friend zones have the potential to be danger zones

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Is there? Would you feel like there was another if you were in this hypothetical situation?

A good friend would be cognizant and will hang back out of respect -

When my guy friends girls requested to meet me, I showed up and allowed her to probe me. It didn't settle the women but I did my part.

No calling/texting/visiting anytime I wanted to anymore.

I drew the line at them calling me to get the scoop on my friends - My loyalty is with my friends.

 

[ill_will82]

I really don't know what to say because I don't like giving out relationship advice.

Let me state, though I do believe men & women can be friends and even close friends without anything sexual going on. From what's described seems as if the best friend/boyfriend (vice versa) just tolerate one another for the sake of the girl in the middle.

Red Flag situation. Yes.

Either you can deal with an s/o friends that came before or move on.

 

[Ronnie Macho]

Would u think a sista was insecure if she had a problem with her man having a close "girlfriend" that he confides in?

You know they never let that shyt happen...men and women cannot be friends point...blank...period...at least not heterosexual men and women...

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

So friend zones have the potential to be danger zones

High potential
Other factors come into play such as attractiveness and how long they've been friends...

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Would u think a sista was insecure if she had a problem with her man having a close "girlfriend" that he confides in?

I wouldn't call her insecure out the gate as it depends on how the friendship is presented to her and how her man is/isn't handling matters. i.e.

-Does he run to his friend, instead of his lady, when there are issues...

-Is his lady friend respectful of his relationship and not overstepping boundaries...

-Etc.


I wouldn't like the 'confiding' bit - be it family or friends. When you two have worked out issues and are happy again, family & friends are still cutting their eyes at your lady.