I bet situations like this are way more common than we think.
I mean, think back to your single days (if youre in a relationship)...Ive tapped a few girls doing whatever...and I see some on Facebook married...and I bet their husbands have no idea there is footage of them on some ghetto gaggers steez.
There is no way you can know for sure if there is footage out there of your woman...and if you think a female is going to be honest and tell you, you are fukin fool.
as for the OP...I mean, what can you say? shyt was years ago w/ her guy...the problem is that it got out...it comes down to if you can deal w/ it or not...because she cant do anything about it...and she didnt do anything to you because yall wasnt together at the time.