This is part how a society advances, because a lot of this is just "normal" behavior. or was.
That sounds a lot like high school parties when I was a kid, to some degree. There were for sure 16/17 year old girls and 23 year old men or 21 or whatever having sex. Yes, they would be providing alcohol, directly or indirectly. That wasn't what I did, but I was in those places too.
That's not THAT different from what after parties and parties at downtown lofts look like either, to this day. Younger women, and older men.
Kissing and consent. Yeah, there is this less spoken kind of belief that goes deep into gender roles, that kissing should be solely in the moment, (and initiated by men, the phrase "make a move" )or spontaneous, and that inherent belief contributes to a lot of issues regarding sex and consent. There's ways to ask with your body, moving your faces closer, touching someone's cheek or neck, or hair, and you can ask verbally. I do it. It's kind of like being really honest and direct, instead of using innuendo and ritual. "We both want each other right? lets just kiss and see how we feel". It feels uncomfortable, but it's a way of opening things up, and you feel way more relaxed, as soon as it's like mutually acknowledged, instead of waiting for the perfect moment.
that's way different than just lunging at someone who is half drunk. But again, this is how we are all kind of socialized. I know I was, 100% "taught" that you get girls drunk, and do what you want. That's what everyone did at high school. That's what the music taught us. That's what porn taught us.
