Elim Garak
Veteran
He doesn't owe anyone anything but if it was me with that type of money, and they can show me it's something legit I would give it to them. Now if they show me they can't be trusted I wouldn't do it.
Jay Z wrong for not giving cousin $4800?
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Cakebatter
All Star
That was my point. I use to think giving money to a stranger on the street was more virtuous than giving to family, because I knew the vices that family member struggled with. In reality, I'm just ignorant of the stranger's vices. So once I stopped judging people, my monetary gifts started going to family first, as they deserved first dibs.
These are people who are only looking at it from very narrow point of view, "he's a billionaire, what's $4800 to him" not bothering to question why that same cousin wouldn't have the same attitude about 50 or even 100K.
The quickest way to damage relationships with anyone is to start loaning out money, once people can't pay you back, they'll start to avoid you which isn't so bad if that's all they'd do but it gets worse, they'll start to resent you for expecting them to pay you back when "you don't even need the money".
There's no real scenario where a billionaire can have a normal relationship with extended family as being a billionaire is completely abnormal to begin with. You just have to accept that you will no longer be able to attend Thanksgiving and try your best to make peace with that fact.
I told this story before
But my cuz called me up saying he needed 100 or $200 to pay off a judge for a gun charge lol
I told him I can write a check or give u a money order because my cash tied up. Short story short. He got pissed and hung the phone up lol
That technique work on my fam so much they don’t ask no more.
“I need it to pay a bill”
I be like
“ok give me the link so I can pay it” lol
They be like
“I’ll call u right back”
They never call back
My fam be on bs
But my cuz called me up saying he needed 100 or $200 to pay off a judge for a gun charge lol
I told him I can write a check or give u a money order because my cash tied up. Short story short. He got pissed and hung the phone up lol
That technique work on my fam so much they don’t ask no more.
“I need it to pay a bill”
I be like
“ok give me the link so I can pay it” lol
They be like
“I’ll call u right back”
They never call back
My fam be on bs
Interesting that many you think that not giving $4800 to that cousin that thought he was going to make $2million off of it is a bad idea.
Also interesting that most of the "if I was a billionaire/millionaire" types are never ever close to being any of those two. "If I was the starting Quarterback I would've" looking ass nyggas LOL
If you are over 25 you are an idiot.
If not, let me explain:
Once you start making hundreds of thousands or more, you are RICH to someone in your family. Go pro, became JayZ or Lil Baby, or Elon, than you are rich to EVERYONE you meet, family or not.
ANYONE who comes to you with an opportunity that sounds hella stupid is getting scammed. So you minds well give the $4800 to the person your cousin is going to give it to to "make $2million" because once you are in the money rooms, you realize that no one in that room made $$ from TheColi threads on buying AMC stock
And, like others have said, he didnt say "please help me Im going to get evicted", he said "please help I have a great idea" - and yes, any normal dude would say "keep your idea fam, you better off doing something else".
I would wonder if Jay-Z or Kevin Hart cousins asked to intern or for an open position at one of their many businesses, would they skip the line over thousands of applicants (barring they were addicted to drugs or a super failure or something)
I saw comments saying "this is why black people cant get by" - no the hell it aint. The opposite is why black people go broke.
Watch the video of the white athletes in the locker room with the black athletes (NFL) and they white guys were AMAZED that the black players bought their parents a home with their checks, and were like "I would never buy my parents a home, they would never even ask for that"...
Now, I understand the dynamics of where we come from, but stop acting like other races "give away money" for stupid ass ideas
The bolded is super facts.
I read a times article a while back talking about how young black professionals disproportionately support family. I know I experienced that for a while until my parents got their money right before my dad passed.
sounds like @Rekkapryde did too.
Also as a kid I used to tell my mom I was going to buy her a house and my dad a car...like 8 saying this. I don't think other cultures experience this.
FluffyEyes
Mrs. Boss Lady
Absolutely. For example, Jay gave Solange's ex husband a job at Roc Nation to help him get on his feet. Both him and Bey often employ family and friends so the idea that Jay should just give someone anything is ridiculous to me. I'm sure if they asked for a job the response would be different(provided they were reliable).
Complexion
ʇdᴉɹɔsǝɥʇdᴉlɟ
For real I think its in all of us born with less to want to better their folks circumstance. It also shows the inherent optimism of jits...
ok I see what u mean now...very good point.
These are people who are only looking at it from very narrow point of view, "he's a billionaire, what's $4800 to him" not bothering to question why that same cousin wouldn't have the same attitude about 50 or even 100K.
The quickest way to damage relationships with anyone is to start loaning out money, once people can't pay you back, they'll start to avoid you which isn't so bad if that's all they'd do but it gets worse, they'll start to resent you for expecting them to pay you back when "you don't even need the money".
There's no real scenario where a billionaire can have a normal relationship with extended family as being a billionaire is completely abnormal to begin with. You just have to accept that you will no longer be able to attend Thanksgiving and try your best to make peace with that fact.
the last paragraph is the sentiment Kevin and Jay were expressing in a sense....kinda messed up.
I don't think there is some universal understanding about what the dinner entails. I personally never saw it as a pitch meeting. More like networking and mentoring at most.That is why the idiots, who tried to sound smart, that seriously said dinner with Jay is worth more than $50K are hilarious.
He is literally not trying to hear it from his own family, what makes these internet losers think Jay will listen to their "Million Dollar Ideas" over dinner
Complexion
ʇdᴉɹɔsǝɥʇdᴉlɟ
Dude just sounds ungrateful. I mean the average Coli breh would work double shifts washing dishes in between recycling cans to have dinner with Jay Z and this man gets Thanksgiving, yearly!
And this is the thanks the gives? No wonder Jay hit the
These people worship money so much but the irony is most of them will never be rich until they understand that people and relationships equates to more Money.
I'm with Hov on this one..
He isn't obligated to help out extended family members.
What I don't like is when a family member ONLY hit you up when they need something. How come they can't reach out just to
on you? 
how you are doing? I'd say that at least have a solid relationship first, then ask for a favor of sorts. Smh..
Some family assume that you have a lot of disposable income to just give a way off the strength of being related to them eventhough y'all aren't tight like that.
I do wonder if the shoe was on the other foot would the same family members let me hold something off the strength of being related to them? I doubt it!!
He isn't obligated to help out extended family members.
What I don't like is when a family member ONLY hit you up when they need something. How come they can't reach out just to
on you? how you are doing? I'd say that at least have a solid relationship first, then ask for a favor of sorts. Smh..Some family assume that you have a lot of disposable income to just give a way off the strength of being related to them eventhough y'all aren't tight like that.
I do wonder if the shoe was on the other foot would the same family members let me hold something off the strength of being related to them? I doubt it!!
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