Even when BW have approached me IRL and have shown interest, I couldn't decipher whether it was real or if it was just small talk. I've had women tell me that I'm standoffish and that they tried to talk to me. The other day, a black woman at work asked me if I was ex military. She said she seen me walk in the hallways many times and noticed how I walked. I asked her if it was a good or bad thing, and she said it could be either/or. Mind you, I've never noticed her. She was very attractive too. I didn't know what to say after that. I wanted to flirt with her, but I didn't know if what she told me was just a general passing statement, or if it was a signal to kinda pursue and shoot my shot. This is all part of me being afraid of getting the wrong signals mixed up. So even if a BW is genrally showing intrest, in that very moment I'll convince myself that she actually isn't interested and that I should just keep it moving. The worst fear for me, is me confusing general small talk with a black woman with "choosing signal". I don't wanna have a convo with a sista and come away from the convo like
YEAH, She's totally feeling me.
But in her head she's like
I hope this nikka doesn't think I'm feeling him..
That would cripple me.