So why don't you respect them?
You love your family members. Would you call your mom a bytch or your cousin a spic?
These terms have lots of meaning built up behind them. Frankly this "hey they use it with me, term of endearment" deal is a cop out. This was the same term used when our people got lynched and chased out of towns. This is still the same term used when our folks get harassed and chased out of stores.
If you really can't think of anything else to call someone that you claim you love, you need a dictionary or you just plain old don't respect them or their history.
And if they let you do that then they sure could use a copy of the Autobiography of Malcolm X.
the word has alot of built up behind it but i wasnt aware of this until i gained access to the internet and self educated myself and saw why there were black folk who dont want other races using the word. fortunately for me, i live in the heart of dade county where aint no black folks giving a fukk about who uses that word and only care about who's real and whos fake, and fortunately im real and have always been referred to as a "real nikka"
cats like u who want to be militant and talk all this corny shyt have never crossed my path and quite frankly, i wouldnt hesitate to rock your jaw loose for even trying me for some fukk nikka and telling me what i can and cant say.
imagine, i got dread one on corner calling me, "a spic" a real nikka, and another dread in another corner calling me " a spic" a real nikka so i call anyone who i feel is my potnah or a rider, a real nikka but im supposed to stop because someone who's probably a cornball ass fukkboy on the internet tells me i have to stop?
nah im gucci off that. u wanna stop me, then come punch me in my shyt and fukk me up then i'll think about it but until then ima keep saying nikka like i've been sayin for over 20 years. same people ive broke bread with, fukk bytches with, hit licks with, done dirt with, i'm supposed to censor myself around on some bullshyt? nah im good.