Since you notice I drop the N-word, I'm curious why you also haven't noticed that I've repeatedly said on the site that I don't like to do it. That I kinda think people should call me out on it. And that I find the word to be distasteful. I used to say the word a lot and sometimes when I get reckless and joke around...it slips out. But I don't defend my using it. And to go further, I really don't need to not say it simply because YOU people of the coli think I shouldn't. I try not to say it because I'm personally not comfortable with how it appears and sounds.
And regarding the 2nd question, There's a broad line between being defensive to a fault and addressing misconceptions about me from total strangers. If I am labeled a certain way that I find inaccurate, I have every right (if I so choose) to correct that misconstruction. That's not a female trait. That's anyone who has regards for honesty and accuracy.
It's rather disingenuous for people to come in here in threads, ask me questions, and then label me defensive for answering them.
Also, if you're going to ask me questions without even considering what my response is (as many people on the coli seem to do) and just dig your heels in on your beliefs about me...well, that's a waste of time.