Nope both are the epitome of pathetic. The only time I wouldn't feel any way is if they agreed to an open relationship. I understand that things get tough after 5, 10, 15, 20, and more years of marriage but that's your finance who works hard to honor your name. You guys aren't married and you're already WILLINGLY cheating with some dude that will probably run to his friends and tell about how he fukked some thot on the job. If she's ok being a thot then that's her business. I would feel the same way if it's a man just screwing some chick at his job, not married yet, and he has a faithful respectful fiance.