If You Argue With Ya Chick, Y'all Probably Shouldn't Be Getting Married

[Goat poster]

Some of yall can't be real people! What bubble do yall live in?

There is NO COUPLE that has been together 20 years and hasn't had an argument.

Not ONE.

With that being said every argument doesn't involve yelling/screaming, cursing, and disrespected.

An argument is just a discourse of different opinion. Since we don't live in a utopia and aren't robots, that discourse will somtimes get emotional especially considering the element of the level of love with the person and also the fact that the joint decisions you make will have an effect on BOTH of you. Meaning there is a lot at stake. Especially with children involved.

It's not about the argument but how you RESOLVE the argument.

 

[Nemesis]

Some of yall can't be real people! What bubble do yall live in?

There is NO COUPLE that has been together 20 years and hasn't had an argument.

Not ONE.

With that being said every argument doesn't involve yelling/screaming, cursing, and disrespected.

An argument is just a discourse of different opinion. Since we don't live in a utopia and aren't robots, that discourse will somtimes get emotional especially considering the element of the level of love with the person and also the fact that the joint decisions you make will have an effect on BOTH of you. Meaning there is a lot at stake. Especially with a children involved.

It's not about the argument but how you RESOLVE the argument.

THIS.... sometimes you really have to wonder about the internet researched philosophy of some of the idiots on this site ......

 

[Marc Spector]

I think the disclaimer needs to be "consistently argue and not reach a conclusion"

Its human nature to argue because relationships are two completely different human beings trying to merge their lives together. There WILL be conflict as they attempt that.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

Argument =/= Disagreement

 

[Oceanicpuppy]

" But we are in love" that's always the excuse.

 

[Goat poster]

Now that I think about it OP had to be exposed to some fukked up shyt to even form the opinion he has.

For him to automatically equate arguing with a dysfunctional abusive household that has terrified kids is very telling.

 

[Prodyson]

I think a better statement is that arguing on any CONSISTENT basis makes for a toxic relationship. Everyone will argue, because we are human and driven by emotions. And if you actually let your guard down for the person with which you are in a relationship, they WILL hurt you at some point... whether intentional or unintentional.

But if you can't go long lengths of time without arguing, you should probably reevaluate some things. Especially if your arguments contain cursing, name calling and verbal abuse. You lack respect for you s/o if you're willing to demean them every time you get a little emotional.

 

[Turbulent]

I dont even tolerate a disrespectful tone. Let alone yelling. I dont talk to my woman disrespectfully. I don't yell. There are disagreements which we either debate on or agree to disagree on. All that extra shyt i really don't need in my life. I've shared my philosophy with some people irl and some have said im insane. So i just stopped sharing.

 

[Kamikaze Revy]

I keep tryna tell em but they dont listen.

Too often, NOT arguing is the first sign the relationship is on its last legs.

 

[MikelArteta]

Every relationship has arguments, it's how you deal with arguments and resolve them.

Unless your a simp and try to avoid confrontation.

 

[JahFocus CS]

Life is complicated enough without having to argue over some bullshyt.

Most arguments arise from some differences in interests or static in the interaction of different personalities. If we're not in resonance in interests and personality then we aren't compatible.

 

[Caligula]

I know somebody who married his girlfriend because he thought it would ease their constant fighting. It didn't, and they were divorced less than a year later. If you don't have decent communication in the beginning, chances are you never will.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I agree 100%. Me and my siblings have all been affected by my parents arguing....they don't realize how bad, either. Over the weekend I was walking through the mall with my friends and we saw a little boy walking about 10-15 feet in front of his parents. The only thing he was saying was "stop fighting...stop arguing". I didn't mean to but subconsciously looked back at his parents like ...you can tell they were extra embarrassed shyt hit home, man

It's natural (and healthy) to disagree with someone. Everybody is gonna have disagreements. That agruing/fighting is for the birds. If you/your S.O can't fully express yourself without having to resolve to arguing...chances are you probably don't need to be with them. IMO

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

How the hell do you not get into arguments?

Every relationship (platonic or romantic) is going to have differences in opinions.

How you reconcile is telling. Contempt is killer

State your opinion respectfully and don't sweat the small stuff. It's actually really easy.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I know somebody who married his girlfriend because he thought it would ease their constant fighting. It didn't, and they were divorced less than a year later. If you don't have decent communication in the beginning, chances are you never will.

Being an adult = making decisions. A lot of people lead miserable lives because they don't have the ability to make and follow through on tough choices.