If You Argue With Ya Chick, Y'all Probably Shouldn't Be Getting Married

[SheWantTheD]

If you and your woman argue, it is very wise to fix that before tying the knot. Y'all most likely raising y'all voices at one another, cursing, saying insults etc which is abuse.

It's not good for relationships, and y'all should learn how to effectively communicate. If your chick perceives you as weak and less of a man for not raising your voice at her, it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with her perceiving abuse as love, strength, power and manhood.

She probably has a history (and you probably do too) of relationships wherein her and her partner argued and it's become normal for her.

And no, not all couples argue. And it doesn't make the man a simp or "whipped" either.

 

[Woman of god]

Are your parents (still/ever) married op?

 

[SheWantTheD]

Are your parents (still/ever) married op?

Yes they are. Why?

 

[mr.africa]

i wanna see this mythical couple that does not have a disagreement every now and then,op.

 

[SheWantTheD]

i wanna see this mythical couple that does not have a disagreement every now and then,op.

There's a clear difference between having a disagreement and arguing.

Arguing doesn't even solve issues. It's pent up aggression and emotions that have been bottled coming out to the surface.

 

[Woman of god]

Yes they are. Why?

Usually our parents are the first romantic relationship were exposed to, and they form a lot of our core beliefs about marriage (deliberately and self consciously). All married couples argue, you'd be hard pressed to find an American couple that doesn't. I find it hard to believe you've been exposed to a married couple for 20 years and would think that arguments are somehow indicative of relationship health or longevity. Not to mention the fact that your opinion on what it takes to maintain a marriage is likely null and void anyways , seeing as now u r never married yourself and I think by your own admission ur pretty young

 

[SheWantTheD]

Usually our parents are the first romantic relationship were exposed to, and they form a lot of our core beliefs about marriage (deliberately and self consciously). All married couples argue, you'd be hard pressed to find an American couple that doesn't. I find it hard to believe you've been exposed to a married couple for 20 years and would think that arguments are somehow indicative of relationship health or longevity. Not to mention the fact that your opinion on what it takes to maintain a marriage is likely null and void anyways , seeing as now u r never married yourself and I think by your own admission ur pretty young

Just because you have not experienced or witnessed a relationship where arguing does not take place doesn't mean it isn't reality. Unfortunately there are more people like you then those that aren't when it comes to this topic. Y'all are so used to toxic relationships that it has become normal to y'all. Arguing is not an act of love, but an act of abuse.

How do children feel when their parents argue? They feel a level of discomfort, pain and abuse because that's what it is. How many people can say they were negatively affected by their parents arguments?

 

[Woman of god]

Just because you have not experienced or witnessed a relationship where arguing does not take place doesn't mean it isn't reality. Unfortunately there are more people like you then those that aren't when it comes to this topic. Y'all are so used to toxic relationships that it has become normal to y'all. Arguing is not an act of love, but an act of abuse.

How do children feel when their parents argue? They feel a level of discomfort, pain and abuse because that's what it is. How many people can say they were negatively affected by their parents arguments?

So you have heard ur parents argue or nah? In your estimation do the have a toxic marriage? Were you negatively affected by it?

 

[SheWantTheD]

So you have heard ur parents argue or nah? In your estimation do the have a toxic marriage? Were you negatively affected by it?

Yes, my parents did argue and me and every single one of my siblings were negatively affected by it. Just because people stay together doesn't mean their relationship isn't toxic. And I'm sure all the studies done on this can attest to my notions.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

If you and your woman argue, it is very wise to fix that before tying the knot. Y'all most likely raising y'all voices at one another, cursing, saying insults etc which is abuse.

It's not good for relationships, and y'all should learn how to effectively communicate. If your chick perceives you as weak and less of a man for not raising your voice at her, it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with her perceiving abuse as love, strength, power and manhood.

She probably has a history (and you probably do too) of relationships wherein her and her partner argued and it's become normal for her.

And no, not all couples argue. And it doesn't make the man a simp or "whipped" either.

truth

 

[Woman of god]

Yes, my parents did argue and me and every single one of my siblings were negatively affected by it. Just because people stay together doesn't mean their relationship isn't toxic. And I'm sure all the studies done on this can attest to my notions.

So ur parents have a toxic marriage? (U didn't deliberately say one way or the other )

Perhaps u should also explain what your definition of toxic is.

 

[SheWantTheD]

So ur parents have a toxic marriage? (U didn't deliberately say one way or the other )

Perhaps u should also explain what your definition of toxic is.

That's not what this thread is about. It's about arguing in relationships.

Google "what are signs of a toxic relationship?" if you want to know

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So true.

That argument shyt is straight bushes. Had a dude blow up my phone a month ago out of nowhere talking about "Where you at? Who you with?"

I didn't even respond. I talked to him the next day and when I questioned his behavior he responded "I am just a jealous person." I just started dating this dude. He got instantly bushed. I will never again be in another relationship where the other person wants to argue or raises his voice.

 

[mr.africa]

So true.

That argument shyt is straight bushes. Had a dude blow up my phone a month ago out of nowhere talking about "Where you at? Who you with?"

I didn't even respond. I talked to him the next day and when I questioned his behavior he responded "I am just a jealous person." I just started dating this dude. He got instantly bushed. I will never again be in another relationship where the other person wants to argue or raises his voice.

was your previous relationship an abusive one?
hope you're doing better now.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

was your previous relationship an abusive one?
hope you're doing better now.

No. I have never been in an abusive relationship.

That was a dude I just started dating.