Actually I have heard of African being very controlling from a chick i used to date. She prefer black men due to being more flexible and being more compassionate. If your idea of being a strong black man requires him to be controlling then you need to do more research. My idea of a strong black man comes from my father. A man that worked hard everyday of his family's life supporting and protecting us from this crazy ass world. He isnt african, he isnt controlling, he's black man that did what he had to do make sure we were good. Never called my mother out her name, never laid hands on her, he had to put her in her place a couple of times but it didnt require any extreme methods that dudes on here swear by. fukk them dudes over there in the motherland, I aim to follow in his footsteps, when it comes to leadership of being man with a finally.
If you had a father you wouldnt be talking about men u never met before being proper role model for yourself. Unless youre African