I took her virginity tl;dr

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Ima say something and it may be strange but

I dont think u were asking those questions for her sake but more for urs

Earlier in the story u said u two had a strange connection that was kind of awkward

I feel like you were more conflicted than she was and she picked up that vibe...u recognized her virginity as something valuable and there was conflict between that hungry desire to beat that box up and the feeling that you arent the right one who should take her virginity

Im not gon clown you n sht in any case

Sex is a beautiful thing..alot of dese nikkaz try to downplay it doe cuz they spend every night fappin to some big booty latina on xxxtubeporn.com or stickin they dikk in any dusty ass ho

but..u jus needa re evaluate ur relationship with this lady and see if its worth the time and if theres any potential for a stronger connection
 
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SKE7CH said:
This very christian girl and I have been talking for awhile. We're now dating, and have been dating for the past couple of weeks. We've never really connected like two people should in a relationship. Things are just awkward, without being awkward. I can't reach her on an emotional level.

Anyways, cutting to the point, she got turned on, I got turned on, and we had sex. I made sure she was the one to put it inside of her, not me. I checked on her the entire time, asking if she was okay, and asking if she was comfortable. About halfway through she looked really uncomfortable and I stopped and asked her, "Do you want to stop?" and she said "no." I said, "[name], don't lie to me, we can stop and that's completely okay." and she said yeah, lets stop.

I had parked far down the road so her parents wouldn't see my car if they happened to get home before I left. So she walked me all the way to my car and I kept asking her if she was okay and she kept saying she was fine. I offered to take her home several times and she kept saying no, that she'd rather walk and she got mad when I insisted on taking her home (it was late at night).

She completely shut down to me and regrets having sex with me. I feel like I took something valuable from her that can't be returned, and time can't be reversed. What do I do? How do I act? Should I feel bad?

TL;DR I take girl's virginity, she shuts down and immediately regrets it and I feel like I took her life away.
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i didn't even read the thread and i'm not even trying to be an a$$hole but i think she regrets having sex with a dude who kept asking her if she was ok and if she wanted to stop. she basically felt awkward because you kept asking her if she wanted to stop so she felt like maybe she should want to stop. maybe you even made her feel like she should want to stop unless she is a slut and she doesn't want to be a slut. You kept reminding her that what y'all were dong is wrong. And this was her first sexual experience in her life...That's why she resents you now.
 
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SKE7CH said:
This very christian girl and I have been talking for awhile. We're now dating, and have been dating for the past couple of weeks. We've never really connected like two people should in a relationship. Things are just awkward, without being awkward. I can't reach her on an emotional level.

Anyways, cutting to the point, she got turned on, I got turned on, and we had sex. I made sure she was the one to put it inside of her, not me. I checked on her the entire time, asking if she was okay, and asking if she was comfortable. About halfway through she looked really uncomfortable and I stopped and asked her, "Do you want to stop?" and she said "no." I said, "[name], don't lie to me, we can stop and that's completely okay." and she said yeah, lets stop.

I had parked far down the road so her parents wouldn't see my car if they happened to get home before I left. So she walked me all the way to my car and I kept asking her if she was okay and she kept saying she was fine. I offered to take her home several times and she kept saying no, that she'd rather walk and she got mad when I insisted on taking her home (it was late at night).

She completely shut down to me and regrets having sex with me. I feel like I took something valuable from her that can't be returned, and time can't be reversed. What do I do? How do I act? Should I feel bad?

TL;DR I take girl's virginity, she shuts down and immediately regrets it and I feel like I took her life away.
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It's good that you cared about the girl. But like others pointed out in this thread, the problem is that you cared too much...
Even if you did it out of good sentiments, unfortunately, you ruined the vibe (both yours and hers) by asking too much questions. IMO, you should have asked only once (or twice max) and as she told you to keep going, you should have kept going. Softly obviously and by keeping being gentle with her as you rightfully did, but should have kept going.

You disturbed her with those questions and it seems like she couldn't properly keep her mind on the pleasure because you pressured her into thinking something was going wrong. It was her first time so it was logical she was experiencing something new and maybe acting weirdly but it would have been better as time went by, eventually. The mindstate is important in sex (and many things) and the more positive it is, the better the outcome can be. You said she was horny and wanted to do it, so she was obviously very positive about it, but you unfortunately kept creating clouds in her mind and maybe, that's what turned her off. You know sometimes, women (and men too) make weird faces when the pleasure begins to be too real and maybe that's what she was doing so it seemed that she was in pain but it's like an intermediate state before real pleasure. You just forgot that she didn't know what sex was, those sensations were new to her and she didn't know how to behave maybe.

What you could do, ideally, would be to talk to her again and maybe try to "connect" better if both of you want it. And maybe try to have sex again. But this time you'll have to shut up while both of you at it.
 
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There is such a thing as too much care & concern.... especially to a novice chick like herself who is expecting you to console here in an encouraging manner as opposed to constantly asking her about her well being during the procession. This sort of notion suggests (in her mind) that maybe you was berating her a little bit for doing what she doing.. to the point that some guilt trips were created post cherry picking & to top it off she is probably religiously conflicted at the moment int the after math of losing her innocence......:demonic:.. so its best you steer clear for a while!!!!

In hindsight OP you should have taken the reign & been the more dominant force behind 4 walls i.e give her some vigorous Kunt fukkking while you comfort her so to speak :shaq::evil:
 
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