The best thing to do, is start now.
This makes sense thanks I’ll try it
I never been overweight so I can't really comment but all I can say is that you have to want it more than you want to eat. That is the case about anything in life. People assume that being in shape is easy but they never stop to think about what it took to get there and what it takes to stay on that path. All the hours spent researching workouts and lifts. Hours spent putting together meal plans and preparing food. Hours spent exercising. The sacrifices made to accomplish your goals. And don't let me start about the headache of dealing with people who are insecure and want you to stop because you make them feel bad about themselves. It's not easy and it never gets easy it just gets easier. But that said, in the end it's worth it imo. Look around you and look at all the people who are slowing dying and don't even know it. I hate to bring it up but on this very forum there was a thread asking how many medications do you take on a daily basis. It was truly said seeing the number of people who are taking multiple medications a day for health related issues. If that isn't motivation enough, just look at the stuff your family is going through with their health. That was enough for me to go down this path and keep on it.
You have to know how your mind works. Sounds like you are looking at it as this big mountain to climb. Start with small goals and go from there. It will build like compound interest.
Honestly wouldn’t do IF at this point. Be more concerned about your overall health and feeding yourself well.
I wouldn't even say it's eating less, as much as it is eating more nutrient dense foods, and keeping track of calories....Sounds like more excuses to me.
Eating more and trying to gain weight (bulking) is much harder than losing exercising and weight (cutting) in my experience.
Cutting weight requires eating less: it costs you less money/time making/buying/eating less food, but bulking requires you to spend more time and money eating.
Fast metabolism gang has no sympathy for folks that can't put down the fork when they're eating like it's a second job.
Regardless, the motivation to make this stick cannot come from others, it has to come from within. Your rewards might be external (making gains for the girls, training to compete or win something, etc.) or internal (you're tired of seeing yourself getting fat, etc.), but the motivation has to come from *you*.
A friend or personal trainer is just a tool, possibly even a crutch, but it's hardly necessary. I make it to the gym more than 90+% of people and I never had a "friend", "trainer", or any of that to make it work.
Trainers can move, get fired, drop you as a client, and friends can fall off, get tied up, fall out, whatever. But as long as you maintain that internal fire, none of that will matter.
This is just my experience, yours may vary.
I wouldn't even say it's eating less, as much as it is eating more nutrient dense foods, and keeping track of calories....
For example:
1 Mcdouble from McDonalds is 400 calories, but I could eat 3 greek yogurt cups(330 calories) and a garden salad with lite dressing(40 calories) and still come out cleaner than that trip to McDonald's. Also i technically ate more, eating healthy as well.
We don't seem to see eye to eye on these things. 
Dude is trying lose weight.Not tracking at all.
In your example, the McDonald's is probably better for bulking (but not healthier); it'd actually be better to eat fewer, denser foods IME. If the calories are the same then it still won't matter if your metabolism is fast: you either hit a surplus or you don't.
The person cutting might be more satiated eating the yogurt and salad, but the number of calories is similar, so simply eating the burger isn't less from a weight-loss perspective.
Just my opinion though.
