I Need Some Advice: How do women like to be approached?

[MoroccanBoy]

Don't be full of shyt.

Unless you're really good looking or rich. In which case she might call it "cheeky" and make excuses.

Is that why im known as cheeky

 

[Mike809]

i aint a woman but most of the time , i just walk up to them with a smile and ask how's their day going? and take it from there. Works most of the time.
if they feeling me , i just tell them to have a nice day and i leave.

 

[Guvnor]

Me personally, I like to be approached respectfully. Meaning, you talk to me like I'm a human being. And if you're wanting to ask me out or get my number, have a conversation with me first instead of some lame, quick pick-up line. Like someone above said, comment on what she's doing. Start there. Also, if she's wearing clothes with a sports team logo, start & comment on that (Oh so you're a ___ fan?)

We can smell game a mile away and it's a huge turnoff (at least for me). Approaching women really isn't that hard lol. Just be genuine in your approach and not some lame, thirsty creep & you should be alright.

When I'm interested in a guy, I think it's a bit obvious. I usually smile hard AF (unintentionally) and laugh at most of the jokes he says. When I'm really interested and am feeling him, I get touchy feely, like touch his arm or shoulder. I also eyeflirt/eyefukk a lot too (mostly when he's not looking) and if he catches me, I just smile. So yeah if she's staring/glancing at you multiple times, you more than likely shot lol. Good luck, breh.

All of the bolded, like seriously talk to me like i'm a person, not just another piece of p*ssy for yu to smash and dash.
Also be yourself, don't try to be cool and act different around me, if yu normally don't act like that it's an automatic turn off (Assuming y'all in school or a campus where yu see that person commonly).
Also don't approach me on sum 'Ay bby wat yo name is' or 'My dawg said u fine so wassup' shyt neither cause 9/10 yu been doin that same line all day and it's obviously gotten yu. And finally, if I don't want yu, don't get mad and say some shyt like *And i've actually been told this too* "I don't want yu anyway skinny ass hoe", "Yu don't got enough ass for me" "Bony bytch"i'll just tell me friends not to FWU and that yu a fukkboi

I see, thanks a lot for the insight y'all and makes a lot of sense.

Appreciate it.

 

[Guvnor]

i aint a woman but most of the time , i just walk up to them with a smile and ask how's their day going? and take it from there. Works most of the time.
if they feeling me , i just tell them to have a nice day and i leave.

You leave without trying to get the digits?

 

[Mike809]

You leave without trying to get the digits?

I do get the digits (or instagram) if they are feeling me, thats part of "Take it from there" .

 

[Shadow King]

 

[Flywin Lannister]

When people give love advice they are very focused on the recipient (the love interest) of the advances.

You'll get everything from 'When she's walking.. park.. don't approach women who are busy' 'When you work a low level job, don't convince me that you're smart' from girls to 'Fukk these hoez, just be a boss' and 'Be a jerk, that always works' from dudes.

Two things

1. Nobody knows everything. Everybody is speaking from their experience. Everybody has gone through rejection and heartbreak, but people like to give advice from a high horse - as if they hold all relationship knowledge. Blindly following advice is dangerous, because you're taking it from people who've failed at the very thing they are giving advice about. Be smart, be thankful for any advice of course - but keep things in perspective. No desperation.

2. There is something that has way more impact on your future relationships than any advice could possible have: the relationship you have with yourself. There are 1,000 books and courses and articles on relationships with OTHERS, but as a general rule a good relationship with the right person, won't be a good one unless your relationship with YOU is right.

People want 'get rich quick schemes' in business, they don't exist. It's hard work.
People want 'get love quick tips' in love, they don't exist. It's work - not work to get and fall in love. It's work to be right with you.

There can be big difference between what one thinks they want (very much influenced by what (pop) culture says they should want) and what's actually good for them. Social media for instance is ONLY focused on outside, personality plays 0 role in likes in many cases. Girls with big butts have millions of followers - this can make some people think 'ok I should want this', but if you like being a nerdy video game dude maybe a nerdy video game (perhaps with a big butt) is more your thing, as opposed to a girl who is into posting stuff like that (which is her right, I'm not knocking anybody here).

My point is: focus on you. The #1 requirement of a happy relationship is being single AND happy.

Create an awesome life where you do things you love doing. YOU love doing. The right person will want to be part of that life and be with the real you.

Good luck out there, but don't build anybody up to be more important than you. That would be a fatal mistake, regardless of how intimidating a beautiful, attractive, seemingly hard-to-attainable person can be. Don't start to go down that road, respect yourself. A no is just a no, it's not a 'end of the world'. A yes is just a yes, it's not the start of a marriage. Be level headed and calm and most importantly do you.

Again: take this, and all love advice, and use it to your benefit but don't make it more important than what you learn about yourself and what you want, and what makes you happy. If approaching women is INHERENTLY not for you, even when you are feeling totally confident and happy - there's no need to force that. People fall in love and it's natural, organic and it's a 'hey this is my friend' from a mutual friend that starts it all off.

 

[Yinny]

Approaching me isn't catcalling. Catcalling is yelling something obscene on the street, unsolicited remarks about my body etc.

 

[Catz]

Hello Ladies And Maybe Gentleman Too,
I was wondering how do ladies like to be approached. I am honestly terrible when it comes to this and usually only go talk to a woman if she is giving me that eye. The reason being for this is because than I know she is feeling me and I won't get shot down due to the fact she probably thinks I'm handsome and is feeling the kid, nah mean. However even when I have my first conversation I try to play it smooth and end up being a lil awkward but funny awkward. It's rare I ever approached a lady in a flirtatious way who didn't give me that eye or I didn't have a conversation with prior too and was sure she liked me. I do this because I know women say they don't like to be cat called.

However I know not all women are confident enough to look at a man they may like and to wink or to show interest in that kind of way either. With that said, I'm aware their may be a whole lot of women out there who I could potentially date but I have not due to me not being sure how to approach them, and them not showing the interest first.

With that said, ladies how do you like to be approached by men? Also what are some things you do to let a man know your interested?

I asked the second question because I'm not always good at reading women lol.

Thank you for your time!

I personally like it when a guy makes situational observations as a way to talk to me.

For example, this past weekend I had a guy strike up a conversation while checking out at the grocery store. He was in line behind me and saw that I was getting brownie mix. He said if I'm going to make brownies I should get the Ghirardelli brand because they're the best. We had playful banter back and forth about it and he ended up going back to the baking aisle and getting the Ghirardelli brand for me before we checked out. We ended our conversation with him asking for my number and now we're going out this Saturday.

My biggest take away was that his conversation with me was light and fun. He wasn't serious and romantic from the jump which actually helped me get comfortable with him and I wanted to continue conversing more because of that. If you want to talk to a woman, talk to her like a friend at first this'll get you and hopefully her comfortable enough to move it toward something more.

Hope this helps!

 

[Guvnor]

When people give love advice they are very focused on the recipient (the love interest) of the advances.

You'll get everything from 'When she's walking.. park.. don't approach women who are busy' 'When you work a low level job, don't convince me that you're smart' from girls to 'Fukk these hoez, just be a boss' and 'Be a jerk, that always works' from dudes.

Two things

1. Nobody knows everything. Everybody is speaking from their experience. Everybody has gone through rejection and heartbreak, but people like to give advice from a high horse - as if they hold all relationship knowledge. Blindly following advice is dangerous, because you're taking it from people who've failed at the very thing they are giving advice about. Be smart, be thankful for any advice of course - but keep things in perspective. No desperation.

2. There is something that has way more impact on your future relationships than any advice could possible have: the relationship you have with yourself. There are 1,000 books and courses and articles on relationships with OTHERS, but as a general rule a good relationship with the right person, won't be a good one unless your relationship with YOU is right.

People want 'get rich quick schemes' in business, they don't exist. It's hard work.
People want 'get love quick tips' in love, they don't exist. It's work - not work to get and fall in love. It's work to be right with you.

There can be big difference between what one thinks they want (very much influenced by what (pop) culture says they should want) and what's actually good for them. Social media for instance is ONLY focused on outside, personality plays 0 role in likes in many cases. Girls with big butts have millions of followers - this can make some people think 'ok I should want this', but if you like being a nerdy video game dude maybe a nerdy video game (perhaps with a big butt) is more your thing, as opposed to a girl who is into posting stuff like that (which is her right, I'm not knocking anybody here).

My point is: focus on you. The #1 requirement of a happy relationship is being single AND happy.

Create an awesome life where you do things you love doing. YOU love doing. The right person will want to be part of that life and be with the real you.

Good luck out there, but don't build anybody up to be more important than you. That would be a fatal mistake, regardless of how intimidating a beautiful, attractive, seemingly hard-to-attainable person can be. Don't start to go down that road, respect yourself. A no is just a no, it's not a 'end of the world'. A yes is just a yes, it's not the start of a marriage. Be level headed and calm and most importantly do you.

Again: take this, and all love advice, and use it to your benefit but don't make it more important than what you learn about yourself and what you want, and what makes you happy. If approaching women is INHERENTLY not for you, even when you are feeling totally confident and happy - there's no need to force that. People fall in love and it's natural, organic and it's a 'hey this is my friend' from a mutual friend that starts it all off.

Good advice bro, I appreciate this.

I personally like it when a guy makes situational observations as a way to talk to me.

For example, this past weekend I had a guy strike up a conversation while checking out at the grocery store. He was in line behind me and saw that I was getting brownie mix. He said if I'm going to make brownies I should get the Ghirardelli brand because they're the best. We had playful banter back and forth about it and he ended up going back to the baking aisle and getting the Ghirardelli brand for me before we checked out. We ended our conversation with him asking for my number and now we're going out this Saturday.

My biggest take away was that his conversation with me was light and fun. He wasn't serious and romantic from the jump which actually helped me get comfortable with him and I wanted to continue conversing more because of that. If you want to talk to a woman, talk to her like a friend at first this'll get you and hopefully her comfortable enough to move it toward something more.

Hope this helps!

Thanks for your advice as well, makes a lot of sense and I'll consider this moving forward.

On another note how did it go? Y'all still talking brehette lol. Did he fukk it up and if so how?

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

if you are going to make it a blatant approach, i like a what i guess can be described as cool thirst. like, if we're in a club you can dance with me and i can walk away ... but you should catch up to me again later. too thirsty would be following me around the place.

other than that, i appreciate a basic introduction. coming from corporate where there is always introductions and a chance to grab hands and make eye contact, i see way too many times in casual setting where people don't even bother to tell or ask names but they will ask you if you got a man or for your phone number or how old are you. dont be weird like that.