I hear you and well there’s the mental barrier.
I can’t say for sure that I see myself as a real man yet. I guess you can say in 21st century society, being a man is dependent upon one pulling their own weight. I.e. having their own place and making a salary that would sustain that lifestyle.
From my current perspective, it would be wasted effort to pursue casual sex, as logistically, it would require an exorbitant amount of work and luck to pull off successfully. Not being able to have a place.
But not only that, would require me to operate in insecurity with women, rather than a place of security. Not only mentally with coping that I have not transcended to manhood within this current system, but also physically due to the lack of logistics.
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So what’s the alternative to me apparently shooting myself in the foot?