How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger

[Cave Savage]

Interesting. I guess in those conditions, there is no room for people to not be enlightened

 

[Wildin]

In other words scare your children with awful stories



Not a bad idea actually


I think that’s what fairy tales did also

great find. lots of zen/tao/buddhist similarities. of course narratives and story telling are everything.. that’s how humans transmit knowledge since the beginning. media has been brainwashing, controlling and conditioning us from day one, i’m triggered at the point they made about modern parents outsourcing story telling and narratives to tv/movies/media to teach us those lessons lol and now we can see how bad they’ve corrupted us

Story telling isn't scary. If you have involved parents or are an involved parent you talk to or explain things in a way they can understand.

I don't think the story the boy who cried wolf is scary, even though the boy gets eaten or in other versions the sheep get eaten.

I remember my pops reading the story to me and then making me read it.

 

[Eastside Get The Money]

I feel like this works better in a homogenous environment.

 

[Stir Fry]

Interesting. I guess in those conditions, there is no room for people to not be enlightened

Yeah, i always thought of it as lightweight bs when monks take vows of lifetime isolation in the name of finding inner peace, but i don't think you can truly claim that until you can say that you were able to find that same peace whilst in the midst of turmoil.


What matters most is how well you walk through the fire.
-Bukowski

 

[poprocks]

I feel like this works better in a homogenous environment.

i agree that would be best, or at least a culture that shares the same metaphor/mythology style. at the very least get on the same parenting style as your partner.

 

[Dont@Me]

i'm the opposite.

If my kid hits me, i'm shootin em in the leg. That'll teach em quick :jordandurag:

 

[StretfordRed]

I think I need to use this for myself

Thanks for the post OP

 

[Ziploc]

i understand the science behind it from a antropological standpoint.Raising your kids that way in western society will have them at the mercy of other kids who were raised modern,so it will not work in a society were different cultures are prevalent and retention of cultural heritage is important.I was raised as most black kids with a strong maternal hierarchy and corperal punishment when i did not obey or tried to pull rank before i was allowed to do so.I knew from a young age that our upbringing was big on teaching practical skills and being self sufficient(cooking cleaning,running a household by yourself if needed) but not much on socio-emotional maturity.I think that is one more way cacs fukked us over.We took parts of our generational trauma and connected it to our value system because it helped our chances of psychological survival when dehumanisation on every level was a reality you could not escape.I've heard stories of my ancestors (in the early 1800's) about how they were raised and how their grandmother(shipped to south america from Nigeria as a teenager) never got angry at the young children but let the older children and cousins show them how to do things properly and then show them affection after they sat down and understood that Ofa is not to be bothered with the tantrums of children,that is not her job.The entire family raised the little ones by example and teaching,ofa laid out the blueprint and all followed.discipline was maintained by hierachy not physical punishment.

 

[DonRe]

I actually read that article the other day. It was very interesting. But the inuit dont have to deal with the influences us parents in a modern society are constantly telling our kids to avoid.

Ive noticed i rarely say yes to my daughter. Everything is no, for her own good. But its also due to her being around other kids who dont get disciplined. So she copies thier bad behavior. Or not even bad behavior, but different ways of doing things.

 

[eastsideTT]

Bookmarked for later . 5 star off the rip

Its no surprise these people who live as simple as possible arent angry . When you’re not living in a modern, western city being bombarded and pulled in every direction by media, social media, etc... theres nothing to be angry at

 

[Cabbage Patch]

This white bytch is describing repression as a positive.

She knew the Natives were furious at her, but it was ok because she is culturally indoctrinated to dismiss what they were telling her through their body language.

Alaskan and Canadian natives have severe alcoholic, suicidal and incestual issues for a reason.

 

[Cabbage Patch]

Bookmarked for later . 5 star off the rip

Its no surprise these people who live as simple as possible arent angry . When you’re not living in a modern, western city being bombarded and pulled in every direction by media, social media, etc... theres nothing to be angry at

Natives are very angry.

She tells you that, herself. But she's interested in whether or not their anger is a threat to her.

As for living simply and not being bombarded, not being pulled in all directions -- different culture.
Alien culture. Same bombardment, different method. Elder respect is the key. Elder respect is not the same as 'honor thy father and mother'. It is alien, and cannot be described in Western terms (or Japanese).

It's ok. I do not mean to offend. (I just saw a movie which is still wrecking me.) You are a breh.

All of that to say: she's a cac. Take a second look at her conclusion, and how she arrived there -- why she arrived there.

 

[Vodun]

I totally agree with what op posted and i will begin to applied this myself starting today. I have a 3 year old daughter who is a trip with a strong personality.

Its really hard for the average black person to parent like this giving our history of oppression by cacs. As a black man working in the corporate world like many y'all know dealing with cacs day in and day out will ware you the fukk out mentally and spiritually.

When i get home i try my hardest not to be on short fuse because my family got nothing but love for a nikka and my daughter i know for a fact my daughter will be a ride or die for a daddy when she gets older

 

[JLova]

It's really the outside influences that are a problem. When that kid goes off to school they are at the mercy of influences from other kids, teachers and society as a whole.

I find parenting to be even harder these days. You work more, so less time with your child and the internet/social media is downright evil IMO. I think back to when I was a kid. I was able to be a kid...kids now don't really have that option. I look at my nephew and cousins and they are 10 and act like adults. Very intelligent, but also not much innocence either. Always wants to use the iphone and play games.