Hold On To Your People While You Can
- Thread starter Killah Ray
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OscarAcosta
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my sincerest condolences to you & those close to you & your wife. A very close friend of mine lost his wife to cancer about a year ago. She was slightly younger than your wife, and they have 3 young boys.
It has taken him time to be able to engage with the world properly again, but he has used the last year or so to grieve properly for his wife, and to make sure that the boys come to terms with the loss. He found it useful to have a therapist to talk with on a regular basis, and he suggests that he’ll keep meeting with his therapist on a semi-regular basis on an ongoing basis so that he has an outlet to be able to talk through things he would find uncomfortable talking about with friends or family.
My father passed away when I was eleven, so have some appreciation of what your boys will be going through. i am sure that you will prioritise their wellbeing & their coming to acceptance with what has happened, but please also make sure that you are able to grieve properly. It is easy for me to say that without living through this as you have to, but I saw that my mother did not take enough time for herself after my father passed, preferring to sacrifice her needs for my brother and I, and it undoubtedly affected her.
Kids are remarkably resilient. They will, with the right time & support from those close, be able to get through this and grow. Make sure that you are also devoting enough time and care to yourself so that you can grieve properly.
Again, easy for me to say, but I mean sincerely that I’d always be happy to be a completely neutral and non-judgmental person with whom to swap messages if you don’t feel right talking to those closer to you. Whilst how we deal with death and grief is unique to us, I have some insight into this terrible loss, and am always happy to offer any thoughts or musings that might in some way help.
Death is not the end. I now know that for a fact, and you’ll be with your wife again. When the time comes for that to happen, you will be together for eternity.
As said, my deepest condolences to you & your respective families.
It has taken him time to be able to engage with the world properly again, but he has used the last year or so to grieve properly for his wife, and to make sure that the boys come to terms with the loss. He found it useful to have a therapist to talk with on a regular basis, and he suggests that he’ll keep meeting with his therapist on a semi-regular basis on an ongoing basis so that he has an outlet to be able to talk through things he would find uncomfortable talking about with friends or family.
My father passed away when I was eleven, so have some appreciation of what your boys will be going through. i am sure that you will prioritise their wellbeing & their coming to acceptance with what has happened, but please also make sure that you are able to grieve properly. It is easy for me to say that without living through this as you have to, but I saw that my mother did not take enough time for herself after my father passed, preferring to sacrifice her needs for my brother and I, and it undoubtedly affected her.
Kids are remarkably resilient. They will, with the right time & support from those close, be able to get through this and grow. Make sure that you are also devoting enough time and care to yourself so that you can grieve properly.
Again, easy for me to say, but I mean sincerely that I’d always be happy to be a completely neutral and non-judgmental person with whom to swap messages if you don’t feel right talking to those closer to you. Whilst how we deal with death and grief is unique to us, I have some insight into this terrible loss, and am always happy to offer any thoughts or musings that might in some way help.
Death is not the end. I now know that for a fact, and you’ll be with your wife again. When the time comes for that to happen, you will be together for eternity.
As said, my deepest condolences to you & your respective families.
AVXL
Laughing at you n*ggaz like “ha ha ha”
@Killah Ray sending love and healing energy your way brother
Black Miller
All Star
i offer my prayers and condolences to you, your family and loved ones.
My condolences to you and your family. May she Rise In Power 
DaStangMan
Pro
That person was ignorant people go to grief groups with complete strangers and sometimes strangers can be nicer than your own people during these times
Mrhateeverything
All Star
My condolences man. So sorry to hear this . Life not fair 
My god I’m so sorry breh. I know I’m just a random on the internet but…I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Just try your best. It’s going to be a long road but you got this. Find your support system. And be okay with grieving, however it looks. I’m very sorry breh.
Killah Ray
Carolina hail to thee....
Just wanted to say thank you for the massive showing of support. I’ve got a lot of therapy ahead that I know is needed and a super strong support system off of these screens.
My wife was and will continue to be an inspiration to many people. The 100s of tributes from current/former students of hers is a testimony to that.
My family just got back from vacation last Sunday and this Sunday we’re grieving the loss of our foundation. If that doesn’t speak to the fragility of life then I don’t know what else can.
My wife was and will continue to be an inspiration to many people. The 100s of tributes from current/former students of hers is a testimony to that.
My family just got back from vacation last Sunday and this Sunday we’re grieving the loss of our foundation. If that doesn’t speak to the fragility of life then I don’t know what else can.
just take your time man
RamsayBolton
Superstar
rest in peace to her and condolences man
Damn bro may she rest eternal my condolences.
Lexx Diamond
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Sorry for your loss of such a loved one. You and your family have my most sincere condolences.