Your personal experience alligns with what was written by Mrs. Harris, and the other book about differences between Coastal SC/GA and New Orleans cuisine.
From High on the Hog (page 48)
Rich rice-based dishes like Hoppin’ John (the black-eyed peas and rice dish) and the emblematic Charleston red rice maintained strong
culinary connections to Senegambia; there, the former is called thiébou niébé, and the latter is similar
to Senegal’s national dish, thiébou dienn.
These and other rice dishes entered the Lowcountry culinary repertoire and made the transition
smoothly from West Africa to slave cabin to Big House kitchen. This transition was aided in no small
measure by the fact that many of the original settlers in the region boasted plantations in the Caribbean
as well, and there they may have already become acclimatized to a more African palate, with its taste
for the spicy and its use of rice and beans and okra and the like.
Over time, the culinary omnivores
that were the South Carolina plantocracy came to claim African- inspired dishes like Hoppin’ John,
red rice, and roux-less Charleston gumbo as their own.
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From American Regional Cuisine-Plantation South chapter
table 2.1 defining dishes the region
NAME:OKRA: SAUTÉED,
SIMMERED, OR
FRIED
HISTORY: West African slaves brought with them not
only the seeds of okra, but also its African
name, gombo, which has mutated into
gumbo, now the name of an entire group of
defining dishes found in both the Lowcountry
and Louisiana.
DOMINANT INGREDIENTS OR METHOD:
Okra thickens stews and gumbos; it is
served as a side dish sautéed in bacon
drippings or
simmered in a fresh
tomato sauce and as an appetizer
or side dish when floured and
deep-fried.
OTHER: Pickled okra appears on Southern relish
trays.
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You're familiar with the book and Mrs. Harris as one of the top authorities about African American foodways.
She created the Institute for the Study of Culinary Culture, when she was the original chair of the Dept. at Dillard set up by Ray Charles.
Both the program and the institute were the FIRST of their kind at any American university. Preserving and documenting history.
I know you're from the city, but if you still live there have you ever attended any of their events.