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Im not an atheist
Butfor these unprompted personal swipes... God looks favorably on such demonic activity
You believe in the one true Almighty known as Him who is I AM!?!??!, friend.
Have y'all ever spoke to your parents about marriage/relationships?
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You believe in the one true Almighty known as Him who is I AM!?!??!, friend.
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I trained Sheng Long and Shonuff
Pops laced me with so much game as a youngin that I didn't even appreciate it until damn near a decade later.
When I was younger he told me my brothers, my mom and him were family. And my cousins, grandparents, and aunts, and uncles were relatives. Family comes before relatives.
When I get married and have kids, my wife and children will be my family and him, my mom, and my brothers will become relatives. Family comes before relatives.
As a kid I was like "What's the difference between family and relatives? You sounding like a smart dumb nikka
"
But now that I'm 30 I'm like
When I was younger he told me my brothers, my mom and him were family. And my cousins, grandparents, and aunts, and uncles were relatives. Family comes before relatives.
When I get married and have kids, my wife and children will be my family and him, my mom, and my brothers will become relatives. Family comes before relatives.
As a kid I was like "What's the difference between family and relatives? You sounding like a smart dumb nikka
"But now that I'm 30 I'm like
No doubt. Honestly growing up I would notice some of the things my mom did such as buying unnecessary things for the house, or getting all angry and emotional over trivial things and wonder "why the hell isnt this man checking her"
. But since then Ive realize theres no point. I think he just reached the point where he stopped caring after a while. It's the only explanation.
I honestly think my parents got married WAY too early. He was mid 20s and she was early, I know they love us (me and my siblings) but I honestly feel that if they weren't so old fashioned they would've gotten divorced ATLEAST a decade ago. My Dad already had 3 kids by the time he was 30, he's a great man who was always a provider and I appreciate him for sticking by us but I'm not even thinking about marriage, let alone kids, until I'm 31/32. There's a lot I can learn from my Dad, he's a great father, but I hope my marriage is very dissimilar to his 
Pops laced me with so much game as a youngin that I didn't even appreciate it until damn near a decade later.
When I was younger he told me my brothers, my mom and him were family. And my cousins, grandparents, and aunts, and uncles were relatives. Family comes before relatives.
When I get married and have kids, my wife and children will be my family and him, my mom, and my brothers will become relatives. Family comes before relatives.
As a kid I was like "What's the difference between family and relatives? You sounding like a smart dumb nikka
But now that I'm 30 I'm like
Gem ^ ...I totally get it. I seen my brother make the transition.
As far as advice from my parents...I'm pretty much the one thats eager to learn thru experience as oppossed to my other siblings. I was just hanging with my dad, and realized my mom divorcing still left a mark on him. But I realized as just going thru relationships, every meaningful one leaves a mark....doesn't mean you're angry or bitter about it, it's just something that played an important role in your life.
No doubt. Honestly growing up I would notice some of the things my mom did such as buying unnecessary things for the house, or getting all angry and emotional over trivial things and wonder "why the hell isnt this man checking her"
Where did he get married Ghana or Canada? maybe he is thinking about bailing but afraid of losing half :obama3:
get married brehs
LOL I dont even know. They very secretive with their shyt. I remember an event where they renewed their vows or some shyt in canada. I was like 4 years old. My guess is they got married in Canada
Ghanaian marriages are something I wonder about breh. When I used to go to church, everything seemed great looking at other couples of course, but since I've grown up and heard stories or just thought things through, you can kind of tell they're all shams.
I've heard stories of men/families from my church molesting their daughters, cheating, selling dope. It's crazy looking back. My friend even told me about finding his dad texting an escort one day. That shyt mustve crushed his soul.
I got stories I can't even post breh
There are a lot of things in Ghanaian culture that I just don't agree with and a lot of them manifest themselves in marriageI think our generation is turning things around though. There is one branch of churches that a lot of the young people in my family are heavily involved in. They do good things. If I were to go to church that would be it.
The key things are really education and gender equality. There is def a place for tradition but not just to be used for abuse. And that is generally how I see traditions most heavily used in our culture
You believe in the one true Almighty known as Him who is I AM!?!??!, friend.
I believe there is something or someone bigger than us, just not sure what. I cant really get behind any specific religion due to all the foul things that happen in their name and hypocrites like you though. I do like my family's church though. I would consider joining them just for the philanthropic + community aspects. They do good things
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I trained Sheng Long and Shonuff
Breh I'm not even married yet and I see it. It's making me be very careful about the broads I fukk with. Cause once you decide that the woman you're with is gonna be your wife and have your children, you might have to throw a lot of people in the bushes just to appease her funky ass. I didn't realize there were women out there who actually get upset because you have a close relationship with your mom
My moms used to always tell me one bad relationship can ruin your whole life, so be careful who I let into my house. It wasn't until I dated a crazy ass ex
who I thought about murdering on occasion
Now that I'm older, I take old heads advice very seriously. They been in the game long enough to see the fukkery for what it is.
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i'm assuming you're asking us have we ever spoke to my parents about their marriage or relationship?
if that's the case then no, i really never had to. i saw how their relationship was so i knew what the deal was. i realize a lot of their relationship was strained due to the presence of kids and it wasn't developed from time spent with just the two of them, it developed more out of a necessity to be together because they had kids together. however, i feel what's more important is not looking at what motivated you to get together but realizing what you've done since you've been together. they raised four healthy kids and only the youngest one still lives at home with them. my only mission regarding my parents relationship is to make sure they stay patience with each and understanding of each other.
now, as for talking with my parents about my relationships. rarely i do, even when i do have a girlfriend. my last girlfriend spent time with my parents but since her my parents really haven't met any girls i've dated or gotten to know them. if they've met them, it was really briefly and they probably didn't know i was dating them. i think the last time i talked about a girl to my father was last year and that's because i had broke up with her but i was planning to introduce my father to her neighbor who had his own video production crew. so, i basically had to be like "dad, i can't take you over there ad introduce you to blake because me and this girl are on thin ice". he said something really interesting though, something i was expecting. he was like "it's none of my business". made me laugh a bit when he said it. i always assumed him to be curious since i never did say much...
if that's the case then no, i really never had to. i saw how their relationship was so i knew what the deal was. i realize a lot of their relationship was strained due to the presence of kids and it wasn't developed from time spent with just the two of them, it developed more out of a necessity to be together because they had kids together. however, i feel what's more important is not looking at what motivated you to get together but realizing what you've done since you've been together. they raised four healthy kids and only the youngest one still lives at home with them. my only mission regarding my parents relationship is to make sure they stay patience with each and understanding of each other.
now, as for talking with my parents about my relationships. rarely i do, even when i do have a girlfriend. my last girlfriend spent time with my parents but since her my parents really haven't met any girls i've dated or gotten to know them. if they've met them, it was really briefly and they probably didn't know i was dating them. i think the last time i talked about a girl to my father was last year and that's because i had broke up with her but i was planning to introduce my father to her neighbor who had his own video production crew. so, i basically had to be like "dad, i can't take you over there ad introduce you to blake because me and this girl are on thin ice". he said something really interesting though, something i was expecting. he was like "it's none of my business". made me laugh a bit when he said it. i always assumed him to be curious since i never did say much...
Pops laced me with so much game as a youngin that I didn't even appreciate it until damn near a decade later.
When I was younger he told me my brothers, my mom and him were family. And my cousins, grandparents, and aunts, and uncles were relatives. Family comes before relatives.
When I get married and have kids, my wife and children will be my family and him, my mom, and my brothers will become relatives. Family comes before relatives.
As a kid I was like "What's the difference between family and relatives? You sounding like a smart dumb nikka
But now that I'm 30 I'm like
It took you till your 20s/30s to understand that? Not the sharpest tool in the box are we?
Can we have one thread here where we just build w/o tearing the next man downIt took you till your 20s/30s to understand that? Not the sharpest tool in the box are we?
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Another key thing to recognize is bad advice, and understanding why people try to steer you the way they do. Case in point
"Never let a woman ever get close enough to hurt you."
Or my parents wanting me to set up a secret account so I could give them money if they needed it w/o telling my wife. Like, thousands of dollars. You have to learn to read between the lines.