The 'Friend Zone' is such a meme/instagram friendly, generational punchline.....but it's barely a real thing. "She friend-zoned me"! This disgust, this outrage....it's comical. Everyone learns differently, and at different points in life how to interact with the opposite sex, some never learn, and some learn in all the wrong ways. So, yeah I know it happens to some guys....esp like nerdier, or not typically attractive overweight.
These heinous women leading men into the purgatory of friend zone.....just isn't real, not in any real way. Are there women who because of issues with communication, relating to their socialization as women, who aren't forthcoming about NOT wanting to date someone? Yes. Because, our society teaches and values politeness and reassurance over honesty. So, girls try to be 'nice'. Granted, it's misguided, often, and just as much about them, as it is about the guy. Men do the same thing. But, it's bad and inefficient communication, not a scheme to rob men of their time and money.
If a women doesn't want to go out on a date, or spend time in an intimate, sexual manner, but doesn't tell you, instead kinda plays nice and answers your texts, do the cost/benefit of maintaining the 'friendship'. It's ok to not sleep with someone right away. It's ok to be cool. It's not ok to stick around if it's emotionally painful or difficult to even talk to her, if she doesn't feel the same way. Be graceful, and dignified.
I'm guilty of being cool with a lot of women....friends even. Some have involved intimacy. Some haven't. Though, without arrogance, all those girls are attracted me to, and so am I. It's the nature of these things. The only time were I felt the need to remove myself from a situation was when a girl who was clearly extremely interested in me, and I was enamored with her, to the point of sending flowers on Valentines Day, but her cultural background, her family, her own lack of self worth and guilt, other issues, wouldn't let her act on her emotions. I just wanted one night to see what we were like together, and she couldn't, so I had to cut it off. Now, we are still cool, and there's no doors shut or feelings hurt.