For everyone who is Anti #GMB

[b_low_brown]

I really don't even know and never could understand what "holding you down" means when you're self sufficient.
How does somebody "hold you down"?

They pay your bills/cook your food/sleep with you on demand? That's "holding you down"?

I could see if you were broke and they stuck around and helped pay for things or you were in a rut and they picked up the slack. But if you're on top of your game, how does another person "hold you down"?

That'd make for a good discussion topic.

There are other ways to hold someone down besides financially

 

[AtomicUse]

There are other ways to hold someone down besides financially

Explain to me how one person can hold down another person who is self sufficient.

 

[b_low_brown]

Explain to me how one person can hold down another person who is self sufficient.

U don't have emotional needs?
If a girl is actively supportive of your goals, there for u when u going through some shyt, calms you down, offers solid advice, etc. then she's holding you down. Money aside. It takes effort to be there for somebody day in and day out.

 

[AtomicUse]

U don't have emotional needs?
If a girl is actively supportive of your goals, there for u when u going through some shyt, calms you down, offers solid advice, etc. then she's holding you down. Money aside. It takes effort to be there for somebody day in and day out.

I have several siblings and parents that love me, and can offer me solid advice, so I can't relate to the emotional point, but I guess for somebody who doesn't have family or friends they'd have to look to their significant other/spouse. .

I didnt look to random women to support me in relationships in my life endeavors, I learned back in my 20's it ain't hard for them to do it cause they'll do it if it benefits them. See @Ziggiy story in his thread. They'll "hold you down" -and by your breakdown that is meaning listen to you complain, rub your back, sleep with you and cook your food- if they get something out of it in the end. That ain't love that's self preservation.

And if you're self sufficient, you can pick yourself up when you're down and will yourself to accomplishing your goals, you don't need somebody patting you on the back. Especially as a man. You can't be emotional out here, you really do have to man up. Get emotional with your woman and see how that works out. :winslow:

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

you think its a great idea to use the bmf for this

 

[b_low_brown]

I have several siblings and parents that love me, and can offer me solid advice, so I can't relate to the emotional point, but I guess for somebody who doesn't have family or friends they'd have to look to their significant other/spouse. .

"what I need a girl for? I got parents. "


Using that logic you shouldn't need anybody, for anything. Why you even on this site when you can talk to yourself?

Hey if you a grown man and still wanna hit up mommy and daddy everytime u got an issue, more power to you, I guess