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Blown Moon

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So my girl would have these red marks on her breast from time to time and I would ask her if something was biting her and she'd always say no. Come to find out, she clamps on clothes pins to her nipples and rubs out to skin diamond flicks when I'm gone. She left her laptop up when she went to the bathroom and I did some snooping around and looked at her favorites list; half of it is skin diamond being tied up, poked and prodded. I was shocked, so I just sat in front of her screen looking like :wtf: she comes back, sees me on her laptop with this look on my face and without even seeing the screen says "Okay I would've told you about this but your kind of sexually close minded and I was scared you'd think less of me". Without even giving me time to process this, she breaks down that not only has she done bdsm before, shes used to do it all the time with her ex girlfriend and boyfriend and then me about the clothes pin thing. I asked her if she was pleased sexually with me and she said she couldn't be with me if she wasn't but I could please her more if I..wait for it..."fukked outside of the box" I stopped her right there; told her that we should go to sleep and finsih talking about this when we get home tomorrow, which is today. Turned off is an understatement for how I feel about this bdsm shyt. I don't know how I feel about her being into it but I do feel uncomfortable with the fact that she did it with her exes. I thought I was a freak but this shyt is a little out of my leauge, I dont think im "sexually close minded" but my damn, you guys should see some of this stuff she beats off to. She leaves before me, so I wake up with a text saying "I think this is good, I can't wait to put all of my sexual prolivities on the table and I wan't you to do the same. This is just a chance for us to grow closer. I love you" All I could think was..There's more?:mindblown: This could be a serious problem. I've already decided that I'll try this for her but if I'm not comfortable with it, then what?

I can't believe this whole time shes been thinking I'm boring in bed, she didn't say that but she might as well have. Things have been a little too eventful with this girl latley.

Anyways how would yall feel about this and is anyone into bdsm?
 

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Anyways how would yall feel about this and is anyone into bdsm?



honestly breh your friend already had another man nut on so once you get past that it cant get much worse unless this said person was cheatin on you to fufill a fantasy and in this case it was with the computer or wants to do homosexual things to you


if your not into the sexual desires of this person you could easily tell them you arent but you could probably still act out some of it to please them if you want to keep this relationship otherwise bow out now
 

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So my girl would have these red marks on her breast from time to time and I would ask her if something was biting her and she'd always say no. Come to find out, she clamps on clothes pins to her nipples and rubs out to skin diamond flicks when I'm gone. She left her laptop up when she went to the bathroom and I did some snooping around and looked at her favorites list; half of it is skin diamond being tied up, poked and prodded. I was shocked, so I just sat in front of her screen looking like :wtf: she comes back, sees me on her laptop with this look on my face and without even seeing the screen says "Okay I would've told you about this but your kind of sexually close minded and I was scared you'd think less of me". Without even giving me time to process this, she breaks down that not only has she done bdsm before, shes used to do it all the time with her ex girlfriend and boyfriend and then me about the clothes pin thing. I asked her if she was pleased sexually with me and she said she couldn't be with me if she wasn't but I could please her more if I..wait for it..."fukked outside of the box" I stopped her right there; told her that we should go to sleep and finsih talking about this when we get home tomorrow, which is today. Turned off is an understatement for how I feel about this bdsm shyt. I don't know how I feel about her being into it but I do feel uncomfortable with the fact that she did it with her exes. I thought I was a freak but this shyt is a little out of my leauge, I dont think im "sexually close minded" but my damn, you guys should see some of this stuff she beats off to. She leaves before me, so I wake up with a text saying "I think this is good, I can't wait to put all of my sexual prolivities on the table and I wan't you to do the same. This is just a chance for us to grow closer. I love you" All I could think was..There's more?:mindblown: This could be a serious problem. I've already decided that I'll try this for her but if I'm not comfortable with it, then what?

I can't believe this whole time shes been thinking I'm boring in bed, she didn't say that but she might as well have. Things have been a little too eventful with this girl latley.

Anyways how would yall feel about this and is anyone into bdsm?

Do you really want a woman who stabs herself with clothespins to be the mother of your child? :heh: I used to have a relations with a sista who was into beating white men in dungeons. She was a nice woman but i could tell the power dynamic was off and i knew if i let her into my chess i would find myself clubbing her over the head to get her to act right on a regular basis. Type of chick that would catch an attitude cuz i slapped her butt in public but would ask me to beat her behind closed doors. Its too demonic, get up outta there before you make a life altering mistake.
 

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Well, this is interesting. It may not be as bad as you think. Just hear her out and see if you can compromise. It sounds like it may be an invitation to get another chick in the bed with y'all. Just see what your options are.
 

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Damn she thinks you boring.... and she knows how to work the computer and be sneaky online. AND has clothespins... when she should be using the Dryer. But you aint even notice ya'll dont have a clothesline. Everytime you pumpin missionary she yawning inside and dreaming about her ex-boyfriend who use to ransack them guts...

Either you do it too, and go hard. Or let her go, cuz she gonna have ole'boy Lex Luger torture racking that chick
 
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