I'd agree with you if the movie was scripted like Mr. Mom; two parents struggling with their new roles and finding a way to work out on their own terms. But, that's now how it goes down. The beginning sets up Elastigirl as a more effective hero and the one who's going to be at the forefront (temporarily). Bob is made to look like a stressed out buffoon the whole time slowly fall apart. Mom has zero problems doing both her new job and HIS...AT THE SAME TIME (kids calling her for help while she's out saving the world). Now, which story are they telling us? We see in the beginning that they're both fighting side-by-side. So, when they were going home, he was just kicking back sucking down beers while she did all the work? And this is my problem, you can't have it both ways. The stay-at-home mom role is in the past as they're both obviously in the field now. Bob comes to rescue HER in the sequel and gets clowned and needs the kids to bail him out.
What they did in this movie was basically tell the same story with the roles reversed (including the villain's past ties to Mr. Incredible), but at every turn they make Mr. Incredible a moron and weak. Even when he goes to see Edna (just like Elastigirl did), it's played to make him look like an incompetent parent.
