Fatherlessness

[Anton]

fathers be good to your sons... otherwise they gone use nikkas like Kevin Samuels or Andrew Tate as surrogate fathers.

 

[skyrunner1]

you have to read their personality type and see what they gravitate towards.

stoicism is something all young boys should be taught/shown...
...its the first thing I notice men who are raised by women are missing

Yea I know, I kinda always looked at it that once they reach that apprentice stage/age they would more veer towards their own personal interest but at small ages you expose them to many things to pique their curiosity and see what they are drawn to. To me martial arts is something you can get them into early and they learn soo much in discipline, leadership, practice, hard work, ownership, how to, strength, working with others, combat, self defense, etc. I took soo much from it looking back that I use EVERYDAY. And this is before they adequately can step in gym to build strength at like lets say 15.

 

[WaveGang]

I'm sitting here on this rainy Sunday morning with my two boys. Watching them play. Bliss. My oldest is 4, he's intelligent, emotional and a leader. My youngest is 3. He is creative, introverted and also intelligent. Days like these I cherish. I love on them all the time. I tell them I'm proud of them. I tell them I love them. I hug and kiss them. I do not take them for granted. I discipline them. I correct them. I teach them. I am a father.

I am 32. I've never been whipped by a man. I've never had a man tell me they are proud of me. I've never had special embrace with a father figure in all of my life. My mother, grandmother and granny raised me. My mother married and I became a stepson at 15. My stepfather and I share no intimate bond. He fathered a child with my mom. My younger brother. That is his pride and joy. Not me. I am not his. I no longer hold that against him. My own father is miles away in another state. He has 5 children by 5 different women. On his side, I have a sister born in 89. I was born in 90 and my brother born in 91. He also has a son born in 79 and a long lost daughter born in 85.

I look at my life in its current state and I take introspection daily. A self check if you will on my mental and emotional health. It varies. I look at how I problem solve. How do I deal with conflict. Am I masculine enough? Am I strong enough? Without proper male guidance in my life, am I correct in my masculinity? Who is the judge? Who do I compare myself to?

A boy follows the footsteps of his father. That is who he compares himself to. I've never had that. A blueprint to follow. I'm winging it.

The world is run on a bluff - Marcus Garvey

 

[jilla82]

Yea I know, I kinda always looked at it that once they reach that apprentice stage/age they would more veer towards their own personal interest but at small ages you expose them to many things to pique their curiosity and see what they are drawn to. To me martial arts is something you can get them into early and they learn soo much in discipline, leadership, practice, hard work, ownership, how to, strength, working with others, combat, self defense, etc. I took soo much from it looking back that I use EVERYDAY. And this is before they adequately can step in gym to build strength at like lets say 15.

yeah I agree its important for young boys.
makes you feel comfortable in school around the rowdy types.

 

[Paper Boi]

I'm sitting here on this rainy Sunday morning with my two boys. Watching them play. Bliss. My oldest is 4, he's intelligent, emotional and a leader. My youngest is 3. He is creative, introverted and also intelligent. Days like these I cherish. I love on them all the time. I tell them I'm proud of them. I tell them I love them. I hug and kiss them. I do not take them for granted. I discipline them. I correct them. I teach them. I am a father.

I am 32. I've never been whipped by a man. I've never had a man tell me they are proud of me. I've never had special embrace with a father figure in all of my life. My mother, grandmother and granny raised me. My mother married and I became a stepson at 15. My stepfather and I share no intimate bond. He fathered a child with my mom. My younger brother. That is his pride and joy. Not me. I am not his. I no longer hold that against him. My own father is miles away in another state. He has 5 children by 5 different women. On his side, I have a sister born in 89. I was born in 90 and my brother born in 91. He also has a son born in 79 and a long lost daughter born in 85.

I look at my life in its current state and I take introspection daily. A self check if you will on my mental and emotional health. It varies. I look at how I problem solve. How do I deal with conflict. Am I masculine enough? Am I strong enough? Without proper male guidance in my life, am I correct in my masculinity? Who is the judge? Who do I compare myself to?

A boy follows the footsteps of his father. That is who he compares himself to. I've never had that. A blueprint to follow. I'm winging it.

raising those kids as a loving father is the most masculine thing you can do. having a father doesn't always mean the right/good lessons will/would have been departed upon you. it sucks, but these are the cards you've been dealt and nothing can be done to turn back time and change it. it sounds like you're making the most of it.

keep up the good work king.

 

[Who Not How]

Yea I know, I kinda always looked at it that once they reach that apprentice stage/age they would more veer towards their own personal interest but at small ages you expose them to many things to pique their curiosity and see what they are drawn to. To me martial arts is something you can get them into early and they learn soo much in discipline, leadership, practice, hard work, ownership, how to, strength, working with others, combat, self defense, etc. I took soo much from it looking back that I use EVERYDAY. And this is before they adequately can step in gym to build strength at like lets say 15.

Breh I wanna get a Black belt in BJJ just to open up a martial arts school for young boys. I'm gonna look into it. I think martial arts should be the #1 sport in the hood, we need to raise real warriors on some Bruce Lee shyt.

 

[get these nets]

I'm sitting here on this rainy Sunday morning with my two boys. Watching them play. Bliss. My oldest is 4, he's intelligent, emotional and a leader. My youngest is 3. He is creative, introverted and also intelligent. Days like these I cherish. I love on them all the time. I tell them I'm proud of them. I tell them I love them. I hug and kiss them. I do not take them for granted. I discipline them. I correct them. I teach them. I am a father.

I am 32. I've never been whipped by a man. I've never had a man tell me they are proud of me. I've never had special embrace with a father figure in all of my life. My mother, grandmother and granny raised me. My mother married and I became a stepson at 15. My stepfather and I share no intimate bond. He fathered a child with my mom. My younger brother. That is his pride and joy. Not me. I am not his. I no longer hold that against him. My own father is miles away in another state. He has 5 children by 5 different women. On his side, I have a sister born in 89. I was born in 90 and my brother born in 91. He also has a son born in 79 and a long lost daughter born in 85.

I look at my life in its current state and I take introspection daily. A self check if you will on my mental and emotional health. It varies. I look at how I problem solve. How do I deal with conflict. Am I masculine enough? Am I strong enough? Without proper male guidance in my life, am I correct in my masculinity? Who is the judge? Who do I compare myself to?

A boy follows the footsteps of his father. That is who he compares himself to. I've never had that. A blueprint to follow. I'm winging it.

OP

With all due respect, aren't you revising a bit?
Your step father, uncles, and husbands of the female felatives you mentioned SURELY told you that they were proud of you before. At least during graduations, or academic/sports milestones.

Not quite the same thing as your biologicsl father saying it, but don't shortchange them for the support they tried to give. Appreciate them for what they did.

 

[Hathaway]

OP

With all due respect, aren't you revising a bit?
Your step father, uncles, and husbands of the female felatives you mentioned SURELY told you that they were proud of you before. At least during graduations, or academic/sports milestones.

Not quite the same thing as your biologicsl father saying it, but don't shortchange them for the support they tried to give. Appreciate them for what they did.

Revising what exactly? My uncles were present in my life but not really. And no, neither of them have ever told me they were proud of me. And that's okay. They are still appreciated.

 

[OfTheCross]

I'm sitting here on this rainy Sunday morning with my two boys. Watching them play. Bliss. My oldest is 4, he's intelligent, emotional and a leader. My youngest is 3. He is creative, introverted and also intelligent. Days like these I cherish. I love on them all the time. I tell them I'm proud of them. I tell them I love them. I hug and kiss them. I do not take them for granted. I discipline them. I correct them. I teach them. I am a father.

I am 32. I've never been whipped by a man. I've never had a man tell me they are proud of me. I've never had special embrace with a father figure in all of my life. My mother, grandmother and granny raised me. My mother married and I became a stepson at 15. My stepfather and I share no intimate bond. He fathered a child with my mom. My younger brother. That is his pride and joy. Not me. I am not his. I no longer hold that against him. My own father is miles away in another state. He has 5 children by 5 different women. On his side, I have a sister born in 89. I was born in 90 and my brother born in 91. He also has a son born in 79 and a long lost daughter born in 85.

I look at my life in its current state and I take introspection daily. A self check if you will on my mental and emotional health. It varies. I look at how I problem solve. How do I deal with conflict. Am I masculine enough? Am I strong enough? Without proper male guidance in my life, am I correct in my masculinity? Who is the judge? Who do I compare myself to?

A boy follows the footsteps of his father. That is who he compares himself to. I've never had that. A blueprint to follow. I'm winging it.

You have it easy... The kids are only 1 year apart so they get to do everything together and you only have to do things once.

Good luck and have fun.

I'd give you advice but i dunno what I'm doing either

 

[ItsPeople]

Am I masculine enough? Am I strong enough? Without proper male guidance in my life, am I correct in my masculinity? Who is the judge? Who do I compare myself to?

 

[Dad]

I’ve never met a deadbeat dad. No one In my era (30-40 yrs old) have given up on their children. I’m sure there are some out there, but the majority of us have broken the mold for future generation.

 

[010101]

live & learn*

 

[Amo Husserl]

The goal is to guide them into the man you've become and build to be better, first you gotta correct the mistakes of fatherlessness in your life.
You seem like a solid dude with a solid family structure and recognize the importance of not only having a family but maintaining one for the benefit of your legacy through your kids. For that, you're better than most men for trying to fix the mistakes of previous generations. It's not easy.

Salute.

 

[Dave24]

Happy Father's Day @Hathaway

 

[Hathaway]

Happy Father's Day @Hathaway

My man