SO he not to blame for being a shytty dad?
Not really, same way I can't blame 45 for being a dipshyt, ain't shyt is ain't shyt, people who validate it ain't shyt when theyhave higher ground/responsibility I've always blamed more. Hitler was Hitler but the German people democratically gave him power, same with Muricans and 45, same with baby mamas and absent/distant fathers/
Btw y'all get used to this as more decent men check out of marriage/family life polygamy on the way byke, which will lead to more dysfunction.