Dominique Dawes is pregnant :damn:

[#1 pick]

All I asked, was people to share their stories where they encountered overt racism....Please, by all means, point out the harm in that....I know I can share mine.......:

Aint understanding your tangent right now????

Overt racism is mainly by law enforcement nowadays. While many have dealt with it, it's far and between due to modern laws. Now, common place racism is huge and while it was huge back then, it was acknowledged. Now, Whites aren't claiming it since they can't overtly do it but they do it constantly nonetheless. Then you have the media, etc. It is much easier to be a black person treatment wise today, much worse in terms of support, family, love for another, job, basically anything that really matters is worse now than then but treatment is much better. Much better in general.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Overt racism is mainly by law enforcement nowadays. While many have dealt with it, it's far and between due to modern laws. Now, common place racism is huge and while it was huge back then, it was acknowledged. Now, Whites aren't claiming it since they can't overtly do it but they do it constantly nonetheless. Then you have the media, etc. It is much easier to be a black person treatment wise today, much worse in terms of support, family, love for another, job, basically anything that really matters is worse now than then but treatment is much better. Much better in general.

So basically, you, nor anyone else have any stories of overt racism to share?????

 

[#1 pick]

So basically, you, nor anyone else have any stories of overt racism to share?????

Of course I do but I rather keep it to myself.

 

[Homeboy Runny-Ray]

i knew he was gonna be white.

 

[intilectual recipricol]

this shyt my fault locs

 

[Chrishaune]

this shyt my fault locs

You had a go at her?

 

[intilectual recipricol]

You had a go at her?

Well, once a while back we (my family) was attending this gymnastics event for my lil sis... and DD was there and I wanted to holler and spit, but I didnt... next thing you know she has a white hubby and is knocked up. So this shyt is all my fault

 

[Chrishaune]

Well, once a while back we (my family) was attending this gymnastics event for my lil sis... and DD was there and I wanted to holler and spit, but I didnt... next thing you know she has a white hubby and is knocked up. So this shyt is all my fault

We all stumble in the clutch sometimes

 

[intilectual recipricol]

We all stumble in the clutch sometimes

As I reflect back this was like McNabb blowin chunks on the field in crunch time at the Super Bowl... either write your name in history or cease to exist... I did the latter

 

[#1 pick]

We all stumble in the clutch sometimes

No we don't

 

[UserNameless]

Dominique was my childhood crush so I'm just gonna have to weigh in on this with responses to a few quotes...

we getting breed out brehs. too many of the best black women are marrying white men.

She probably coulda fukked with a regular, nice nicca with morals making 40-50k... but she ain't a regular chick, man.

Dude is a catholic school teacher? ... he seriously fukkin over achieved with her.

Ok... scratch my last statement...



Much success to them... You're attracted to what you're attracted to.

"Don't you go getting married
Don't you go get engaged..."

Dominiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiique...

When a woman hits 30 she will date anybody.A Coli lame has no shot in her 20's but once she reaches 30 he has a shot.

Some truth to this...often the standards are lowered in a few checkbox areas once 30 hits...


Underrated post.

I grew up in the burbs, I personally got nikkas who do the same shyt to women.
Black- She gotta be a 9 or better. Looking like Hallie, no worse than Keyshia Cole and that might not be good enough.
She gotta treat them like a King.
She gotta do everything for a nikka and suck dikk.
Can't have an attitude or show emotion.

But a white or Latina?
She can be
She still gotta treat a nikka like a King and suck dikk.
She can have an attitude at times and show emotion like women do.

Tricky subject man. Early on, there's usually just an objectification and fantasy that fuels those desires and the attraction. Especially if your socialization wasn't predominately administered by another race.

It really takes a disciplined, self-aware person to identify that within himself/herself, and to resist the urge to establish too much permanency based of of those feelings alone. Doing so and/or NOT doing so, could lead to a rude awakening.

And I have no doubt that doing so would free up any mental blocks, and allow for other opportunities to be cultivated. But it's a matter of whether the type of niccas you described want to get over that mental hurdle. And whether it's worth it to them.

With Dominique, she probably categorizes herself as black for US Census data, but socially she's probably white, and her experience probably doesn't jibe with traditional blacks. And it's not entirely her fault, but we all, as another poster mentioned, have a CHOICE.

If y'all wanna question black people, question black people who marry outside of their race whose socialization wasn't predominantly administered by a different culture AND/OR had ZERO or very minimal, social experiences with diverse cultures outside of formal settings during their formative years.

If that ain't a I don't know what is... but it's not our place to judge other people's unions, and if it's love, you can't hate. But we don't know, and really shouldn't speculate. It's very personal, although it makes for good message board fodder!

...but just because his woman is an attractive black girl doesn't mean she taking care of her man. Maybe she deserves responsibility for not keeping his attention. Too many nikkas think all your girl needs to do is be pretty and they straight. Im a good looking guy with a decent job and have had the luxury of being with attractive women so the fact that any girl im involved with is attractive isn't going to keep my dikk in my pants. She has to have something else about her to keep me interested. I call it "pretty girl syndrome". You think because you cute im suppose to overlook your lack of everything else? They are always gonna be cute, what else you working with? [/quote]


I see you're really outchea getting at these females because it's reaching DEFCON 1, epidemic levels with them being on that shyt.

Black, white... all of 'em. And it fux with me at first because I'm like, you could really be wife.... try to give 'em some gems, and it takes months before they even begin to break down, break the facade and demonstrate that they realize they need to cultivate other areas aside from aesthetics and college degrees. Some of these chicks damn near 30 and 30+... I'm like, "It's over for you." Just don't have the energy for such a time consuming projects, man. Not on a romantic level. Hell nah.

I don't think that's true at all. Jameis fukked that white girl cause he could.....
Bottom line is, nikkas with options do whatever the fukk they wanna do.....period

Level of faithfulness is usually determined by options. On point, man.

 

[UserNameless]

And quiet as kept, Obama dated outside of his race before Michelle. The woman speaks of a very close, intimate deep relationship with him. She probably was fancy free, fun, intriguing, breezy, well read and well informed, intellectually stimulating...but Obama made a personal decision to wife Michelle (who probably has those same characteristics, just expressed differently) for reasons that extend beyond the feeling the woman helped generate with her ability to stimulate him.

Even she and Obama recognized it and wrote about it...

The sexual warmth is definitely there—but the rest of it has sharp edges and I’m finding it all unsettling and finding myself wanting to withdraw from it all. I have to admit that I am feeling anger at him for some reason, multi-stranded reasons.

One night I took her to see a new play by a black playwright. It was a very angry play, but very funny. Typical black American humor. The audience was mostly black, and everybody was laughing and clapping and hollering like they were in church. After the play was over, my friend started talking about why black people were so angry all the time. I said it was a matter of remembering—nobody asks why Jews remember the Holocaust, I think I said—and she said that’s different, and I said it wasn’t, and she said that anger was just a dead end. We had a big fight, right in front of the theater. When we got back to the car she started crying. She couldn’t be black, she said. She would if she could, but she couldn’t. She could only be herself, and wasn’t that enough.

...and finally...

Barack leaving my life—at least as far as being lovers goes. In the same way that the relationship was founded on calculated boundaries and carefully, rationally considered developments, it seems to be ending along coolly considered lines. I read back over the past year in my journals, and see and feel several themes in it all … how from the beginning what I have been most concerned with has been my sense of Barack’s withholding the kind of emotional involvement I was seeking. I guess I hoped time would change things and he’d let go and “fall in love” with me. Now, at this point, I’m left wondering if Barack’s reserve, etc. is not just the time in his life, but, after all, emotional scarring that will make it difficult for him to get involved even after he’s sorted his life through with age and experience....

Hard to say, as obviously I was not the person that brought infatuation. (That lithe, bubbly, strong black lady is waiting somewhere!)

...and you can't downplay how that woman helped him on his path, and helped him to discover who he wanted to be and how he wanted to present himself to the world.

 

[blackzeus]

And quiet as kept, Obama dated outside of his race before Michelle. The woman speaks of a very close, intimate deep relationship with him. She probably was fancy free, fun, intriguing, breezy, well read and well informed, intellectually stimulating...but Obama made a personal decision to wife Michelle (who probably has those same characteristics, just expressed differently) for reasons that extend beyond the feeling the woman helped generate with her ability to stimulate him.

Even she and Obama recognized it and wrote about it...







...and finally...





...and you can't downplay how that woman helped him on his path, and helped him to discover who he wanted to be and how he wanted to present himself to the world.

Yep, the black experience is unique, so unfortunately it's usually one or the other: a) you ignore your black side and conform yourself as a normal citizen and make yourself belief you are one, or b) you stay with black/minority and share you experiences with someone who understand you because they come from the same background. The hardest thing in the world for me a few times in my life has been breaking up with women of other races, because my body and heart is like , but my mind is like this will not end well. I will probably make the same choice Obama made, but I do feel him, because they are definitely quality women of all races, who look at black males just as they are, and not as hypersexualized fantasies.

 

[intilectual recipricol]

Yep, the black experience is unique, so unfortunately it's usually one or the other: a) you ignore your black side and conform yourself as a normal citizen and make yourself belief you are one, or b) you stay with black/minority and share you experiences with someone who understand you because they come from the same background. The hardest thing in the world for me a few times in my life has been breaking up with women of other races, because my body and heart is like , but my mind is like this will not end well. I will probably make the same choice Obama made, but I do feel him, because they are definitely quality women of all races, who look at black males just as they are, and not as hypersexualized fantasies.

Real talk mayne... one of my exes bad white bytch... had a son, mixed son. So the lil nikka goes through the shyt nikkaz go through. And outside of directly experiencing it, witnessing your children go through it has to be the closest thing. I tell you this woman holds a nikka down even after the breakup even more than the black chicks i dated. So I have come to agree with you but with nuances. Its hard for me to envision myself staying with anyone but a black chick, but at the same time one of em gotta hold me down AT LEAST as good as shorty still does.

Another thing I have, real talk here right, is that I know I got foul shyt still to do... It may sound terrible, but I cant see me with that faithful life and settling down and shyt. Every relationship I get into, I already know how that shyt is gonna end from the beginnin and it ends with her being hurt one way or another. And I find it hard to put a black woman through the shyt I certainly will put them through in a relationship because life is hard as it is for them without ya triflin ass b/f (or husband) fukkin it up that much more. So especially with black chicks I try to keep that shyt casual.

 

[360dagod]

Real talk mayne... one of my exes bad white bytch... had a son, mixed son. So the lil nikka goes through the shyt nikkaz go through. And outside of directly experiencing it, witnessing your children go through it has to be the closest thing. I tell you this woman holds a nikka down even after the breakup even more than the black chicks i dated. So I have come to agree with you but with nuances. Its hard for me to envision myself staying with anyone but a black chick, but at the same time one of em gotta hold me down AT LEAST as good as shorty still does.

Another thing I have, real talk here right, is that I know I got foul shyt still to do... It may sound terrible, but I cant see me with that faithful life and settling down and shyt. Every relationship I get into, I already know how that shyt is gonna end from the beginnin and it ends with her being hurt one way or another. And I find it hard to put a black woman through the shyt I certainly will put them through in a relationship because life is hard as it is for them without ya triflin ass b/f (or husband) fukkin it up that much more. So especially with black chicks I try to keep that shyt casual.

Yea I cant do monogamy either...

I want wifey with like 2 side chicks on the low