Do yall consider your.parents good parents?

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Mine idk anymore.my mom.is supportive always was financially and emotionally but she hates to see.issues for what they are sometimes like.shes to hopeful. My dad was the typically a good provider and didnt really teach me shyt about.life besides maybe how to.manage mone and I kinda just picked that up. So even though I had a dad I didnt have a father if you know what I mean.

Idk I had to learn alot on my own I mean am I trippin or are my feelings justified. Like they were good but.i still.feel.like I was missing.something
 

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My parents were good to me and I was fortunate to have both my mother and father. It was me who fukk up my childhood, but I regret none of it because I learned through experience.
 

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My dad & Step-mom are the best parents :yes:. My mom wasn't really a "parent" she was/is like my big sister or best friend.
 
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Yes, definitely, I was raised by my mother.

I was allowed a lot of freedoms from a young age and was allowed to find myself, make my own mistakes and find out about life for myself. She was always there for me if needed. Which I think was a good thing for me in the long run as I think I'm quite a well-rounded guy, never been in any serious troubles with the law or anything and I am doing alright for myself, as is she.

Although if a time comes where I have kids I don't think I could be as trusting and relaxed as she was, but who knows?

Good topic.
 

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all in all, yes. especially since i'm mature enough to know how to correct anything i feel like failed to teach me. your parents can't give you all the tools you need but i think good parenting teaches you to reason your way through to solve your own problems and to become self-reliant. you can teach your kid that in a number of different ways.

especially more recently, i've realized i have great parents. when they visit me, my friends and fellow musicians are always eager to meet them...
 

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Hmm...that's tough, of course I believe my parents were good parents, they didn't do anything bad, or anything that effected us negatively. But I kinda feel you when you said something was missing, for me it was interaction. Right now, none of us (family, siblings and parents) are very close, we don't tell each other everything, we all love each other, but we just weren't raised to become best friends lol, my parents let us grow up without much interference. If we fukked up, then we fukked up and they would help us through it, but they let us live for the most part. I don't ever talk to my brothers about my problems, i talk to my friends about em.
 

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My mom was but my dad wasn't. I was very close to both but my pops still acts like he's in his 20's. I guess in a way he taught me alot though, it's also cool to be able to go to your pops crib and smoke a few blunts with him. People tend to put their parents on a pedestal and I guess rightfully so but on the other hand we have to realize our parents are human. They are just two people that fukked and made us, they have flaws also. Hell, most likely your moms was intended to be a jump until he realized she was alright and put a ring on it or however they did it.
 

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Pops didnt give me everything. But he gave me enough gems and jewels early on in life. From friendship to women to money to fame to life in general he schooled me with it all. He was not really in my life like that. But he played a vital role in the mass amount of knowledge I have accumulated in a short time. He has schooled me and let me know the ups and downs of life thru his own mistakes as a man n let a young nikka kno its iight to be lost in the world sometimes, that we all gotta go thru it.


Moms was super strict with the boy back in the day. Didnt really like her as a youngin tryin to wild out. She wanted me to be a good lil church boy. But that jus aint my swag :win: , Now that im older, I can really appreciate her. And view her as the strong black woman that she is. Ironically enough even tho my pops probably lives a better life than moms. I respect my mom a whole lot more. She recently got her Phd and is doing the damm thing.



Im kinda a loner tho, so I dont like being around family for too long. But they know I love em all. Me and my bro are tight, I gave him the game and jewels of life that my pops passed down to me mixed with a lil more modern outlook. Overall the fam is cool, I got love for em all.
 

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My parents are good parents. Been married since 1990. They were there, they supported me, but they let me raise myself really.

Long story short, they lucked the hell up with my ass. I was born in the heart of North Philly around the grimiest nikkas. Projects. Impoverished. My peers were unmotivated, lazy and borderline psychotic. All signs pointed to me being just another nicca who failed to get his matrix on one dark night.

But somehow, some way, I got that inner glow like Bruce Leroy, friends. Woke up one day and removed all of the demons from my life, stepped my game up, and my salary is :win: Beach house comin soon. :gladbron:

So yeah, I guess they had a good plan. They let me become my own man instead of them strong-arming me into being someone I didn't want to be.
 

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i know you supposed to raise yo kids better than your parents raised you, buts that gone be some hard shyt

pops a real nikka and momma a goon
i got the best of both worlds
 

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Hmm...that's tough, of course I believe my parents were good parents, they didn't do anything bad, or anything that effected us negatively. But I kinda feel you when you said something was missing, for me it was interaction. Right now, none of us (family, siblings and parents) are very close, we don't tell each other everything, we all love each other, but we just weren't raised to become best friends lol, my parents let us grow up without much interference. If we fukked up, then we fukked up and they would help us through it, but they let us live for the most part. I don't ever talk to my brothers about my problems, i talk to my friends about em.

Kind of the same here, we never really grew as a close-knit unit. Moving around and my brother then my sister leaving for Europe (we were living in Central Africa at that moment) have a lot to do with it. This may sound harsh, I never needed anything, but I can't tell that my parents ever TAUGHT me anything. It gets worse: neither passed on their culture/history to me: I speak neither's mother tongue (Dutch for my mom, Gbaya for my Pops) and hardly know anything about my two "home" countries (Belgium and Central African Republic). So I feel that they didn't do a good job with that, and it kind of fukked me up. To make it worse I had to leave home when I was 15, so from that point on (I'm 31) my parents didn't really have any kind of influence on me. My moms passed away when I was 23, I see my Pops once a year for a couple of months, and that's it. So they didn't do anything BAD to me, it's just that they didn't really teach me shyt (not even basic stuff like cooking, riding a bicycle, fixing shyt at home...) and the fact that I left at 15 didn't really give them a chance to make it better. And to a certain extent, I know none of them was really happy with their lives so I def don't see them as models. I have an ok relationship with my father now but our worlds are just too far away one from the other.

TBH this makes seriously doubt my capacity as having a family myself, I just don't know how that shyt works.
 
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